Various Things

Sasha very reasonble topic.
For the disco: I'm too old for this, but young people still go
For masturbation: you are 100% right. And let me add: i see that there is a general idea that masturbation is the first step in a sinful, meaningless life
Its not. Most people masturbate, and we are no full of crazy sex addicts searching sexual relief sabotaging their own life. There is the pathology, when it's excessive, but for 99 dot something is nothing so terrible, they don't even give a second thought. So I think, @Avery you should have an unbiased approach if removing masturbation from your life is a good idea or not

Milord For the disco: I'm too old for this, but young people still go

I think we call them clubs now, since disco sounds so 1970s.

BTW, this seems to be the 1000th topic.

Ines In fact, we obviously have "clubs" of all classes, but in a conversation the word "club" without more background ( books club, chess Club...)

The club that we are talking about would be a night club

Ines has negative connotations.
A "club" is a local where "gentlemen" pay for sex.

If your boyfriend says " last night I went with my friend

Ah... we actually have something similar to that. If you visit a sauna, you are going to be sitting in a room naked with other naked visitors and an oven is heating up the room to make you sweat. If you visit a sauna club, you will be sitting in a room naked with naked... employees of that establishment who specialize in... other ways to make you sweat. Usually attractive female employees serving less attractive male customers, to my knowledge. Not that I have any personal experience, even as someone who falls into the "less attractive male" category.

Milord I think book clubs ought to be fine. Computer clubs too, those have a history of leading to less sex for its members.

Avery Why did you deleted your posting?
Has something annoyed you or do you feel misunderstood?

If we don't have all the details of your life in our heads, I'm sorry if we haven't got it quite right.

Avery I will delete the posts not directly tied to your request

I have to move this topic to trash because it has no title

Avery pity. It was an interesting topic

sorry, but due to the many deleted posts it is impossible to understand the thread. Please delete it completely (i.e. the entire thread) or present it in a way that can be understood

youdontknowme Not that I have any personal experience, even as someone who falls into the "less attractive male" category.

I've never seen you, of course, but if you say this just because you are older you should stop thinking that way.

The older a man gets, the easier it becomes to be attractive. Have a job, don't be in prison, be a little bit of a gentleman, and be single, and the women your age will swoon.

Men get distinguished with age. Women just get old. That's another reason for women to marry young. If you are smart about it, you can catch your prince before he realizes that he is a prince.

I missed the party, but I'm pretty sure from context and history that @Avery was trying to have a discussion of chastity as a virtue and how to practice it mentally and emotionally, and find environments that support this.

Sadly, outside of religions or religious groups that have so many social activities that you can make them your whole life, I'm not sure it's possible to find many places in the US free of unwholesome messaging and activities, and I'm not just talking about sex.

Even for devout Christians it can be a challenge to be in the world but not of it.