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dorothea

So, there are a lot of questions, I hope I can answer them somewhat.

A lot of things are difficult for me to put into words, especially in English.

I see how it already works in my family. Of course, something like this has disadvantages, but it also has advantages.
Admittedly, it also offers me more freedom as I can go out as I want. The rules at home will be a little less strict.

Jakob Why are there so many people from Germany who wear CB’s or at least like them? Including me. I don”t understand that.

I'm sorry, but I can't answer that for you!

Laura How timely 😂

What do you mean? Actually, there was a good delay! According to the information, he should have been there even quicker. It wasn't a speed order.

Susan Once she learned about them she was aggressive in getting me wear one.

My mum wasn't aggressive about it at all. Maybe or certainly she has been thinking about this for the last few years. And with sentences like, if you ever have your own belt, or a belt like that would fit you well, always work towards it.

Susan My Aunt Jenna made it clear that 24/7 was the ultimate goal

OK, that's how my mom sees it too. However, she is not aggressive, but still somehow respectful.
The three-month test phase should be exactly the same. We also talked about an exit strategy, just like yours.

Susan Aunt Jenna is my keyholder and she is always supportive of me and is always encouraging. It sounds like with your mom and aunt also wearing them and that will be a big help to you.

Yes, my mum and my aunt also have a belt like that. My mum sometimes has it for a few weeks when my dad is away at work for a long time.
Of course they both support me, but my mum also makes sure that everything is safe and works.

About self-pleasure, my parents never said that you would go to hell because of it or anything like that. But they have always made it clear that something like that is not welcome.
And somehow I think that's okay, but sometimes you just can't resist it.

Kaja When you want to stop it - marriage, long relationship, never?

Many people here directly say marriage or education. Of course you have to deal with it and I would also choose these two categories first.

Laura

dorothea What do you mean?

https://unwedchastity.org/d/1012-my-steel-is-taking-a-break

Joh

dorothea About self-pleasure, my parents never said that you would go to hell because of it or anything like that. But they have always made it clear that something like that is not welcome.
And somehow I think that's okay, but sometimes you just can't resist it.

Why do you think it is ok you do not self pleasure yourself?

James

dorothea A lot of things are difficult for me to put into words, especially in English.

I do love how foreign gals say this and then reel off perfect English. Be confident, you are very good!

Susan

dorothea My mum wasn't aggressive about it at all. Maybe or certainly she has been thinking about this for the last few years. And with sentences like, if you ever have your own belt, or a belt like that would fit you well, always work towards it.

Once my aunt got the idea that I should wear one, she made it clear that she would buy as many as needed until I got one that fit properly. I did go to someone that she found that helped make adjustments. She made sure that i could not use comfort as I reason not to wear one.

dorothea OK, that's how my mom sees it too. However, she is not aggressive, but still somehow respectful.
The three-month test phase should be exactly the same. We also talked about an exit strategy, just like yours.

Good it is important that you not rush into this. It takes time. As for a plan to get it off if you want it off you should take the time to write it all down on paper. Once I made the commitment to wear this thing AJ wanted me to see it in writing. But it has advantages for me to so she know the rules if I want it off. We have made changes to the document a few times and we both sign it.

dorothea Yes, my mum and my aunt also have a belt like that. My mum sometimes has it for a few weeks when my dad is away at work for a long time.
Of course they both support me, but my mum also makes sure that everything is safe and works.

About self-pleasure, my parents never said that you would go to hell because of it or anything like that. But they have always made it clear that something like that is not welcome.
And somehow I think that's okay, but sometimes you just can't resist it.

It must be weird having 2 keyholders. AJ does everything, locking, unlocking, monitoring during showers, etc. Security checks to make sure it is comfortable and fits well. Self-Touching is not allowed and AJ is pretty strict about it. That is the hardest part for sure.

youdontknowme

So was it your mother's idea that you were the belt or yours? How was your mother introduced to her belt? Are there any rules about 24/7 wear that you are already planning?

dorothea

Laura
Yes, I know that topic. My things were not affected by this yet.
However, it must also be said that there would have been other good alternatives.

youdontknowme So was it your mother's idea that you were the belt or yours?

It came from my mother. But I'll go along with it.

First of all, there's training to be done, which will take some time; in that time, it's easier to talk about rules and the like.

Laura

dorothea My things were not affected by this yet

Maybe your belt is the last one

Angelina

dorothea First of all, there's training to be done, which will take some time; in that time, it's easier to talk about rules and the like.

One question: this 3 month test phase. Does it take place after the training, i.e. should it cover 3 months 24/7, or is the training part of this test phase?

dorothea

Laura
I don't think so, it was ordered in November, but they were still accepting orders until the end of December, a few weeks after mine.

dorothea

Angelina Does it take place after the training, i.e. should it cover 3 months 24/7,

Yes it is

Angelina or is the training part of this test phase?

No, training doesn't count.

Milord

dorothea

Seems very mindful to me.

Kaja

May I ask what are your purpose?

Are you addicted on self pleasure and you want to stop? Do you want only to prevent self pleasure at all?
Do you want to stay virgin (and you can not do it without cb)?
It is for you more symbol of a "good girl" than exact reason?

Do you want wear one 24/7? Do you want breaks?

dorothea

Kaja Are you addicted on self pleasure and you want to stop?

Addicted would be too harsh to say.

Kaja Do you want only to prevent self pleasure at all?

That's what the belt is for.

Kaja Do you want to stay virgin (and you can not do it without cb)?

This can also be possible without a belt, but one careless action and something might happen.

Kaja It is for you more symbol of a "good girl" than exact reason?

Maybe you should define more precisely what you mean by reasons and symbols.

Joh Why do you think it is ok you do not self pleasure yourself?

Saved energy for others, it is also something you should have together with your partner.

Joh

dorothea Saved energy for others, it is also something you should have together with your partner.

How much time will you save if you wear the CB 24/7 taking into account the additional time you need for the CB and the circumstances?

Angelina

dorothea Saved energy for others, it is also something you should have together with your partner.

i admit that i see it similarly, i haven't masturbated since i got married, but if you wear the belt you can't save "it" for your partner because sex is also prevented

Susan

dorothea This can also be possible without a belt, but one careless action and something might happen.

This is exactly what my aunt says

Susan

dorothea She says this too!

dorothea

Joh
It's not just about time. It's also about the action itself.

Angelina but if you wear the belt you can't save "it" for your partner because sex is also prevented
But these are completely different requirements if you continue to wear the belt for your partner.

curious

Angelina
Not when your partner has the key and can unlock whenever both of your desire sex together.
(and when only you desire and not your partner, of course that would mean no unlocking)

Angelina

curious Not when your partner has the key and can unlock whenever both of your desire sex together.

in @dorothea's case, however, the parents have the keys and not the partner

Joh

dorothea It's not just about time. It's also about the action itself.

Could you explain it more. I like to understand your reason why you think it is good to do so.

dorothea

Joh
If I don't do that and wear the belt, I also have more freedom at home. Like being allowed to stay away longer, visiting male friends and all that.
My parents don't want me to do that either. Therefore more freedom through the belt.

Joh

@"dorothea"#p109681Ok, I understand why you have more freedom when you wear the belt outside the house. But I still don't understand how you have more time when you're not touching yourself compared to the extra effort you would need to wear the CB when you're at home.

dorothea

Joh But I still don't understand how you have more time when you're not touching yourself

I don't know, but I didn't actually say that I had more time.

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