Realistic expectations

Milord

Hi all, I take the title from @Sin post

Sin Avery Hooray! Another normal person with realistic expectations!!

Now, it's been a couple of months since my wife has been wearing a chastity belt, and I've realized a lot of things that reading others experiences I have been unable to understand before.
Here are mine, and of course ready to discuss
1) 24 is not 24. The simple idea of having a girl closed in a belt for 24 hours is silly. Time for cleaning, getting out for various reasons, pinching, chafing, sports, other unplanned reasons (going to beauty salon, traveling are just examples), and just plain discomfort (when for example, having to stay several hours sit at the desk) makes the idea of continuous wearing impossible and for long time utterly dangerous
2) Pinching and chafing. It happens. Even after 2 months sometimes the belt is not comfortable. Body change shape, this is a truth that cannot be denied. When it happens, open, use aloe cream or other soothing cream, and wait before putting it
3) Panic attack. It happened just once, but when it happens, you just have to open.
4) Just not wanting. Ok, this is tricky. There are times when she's very distressed. When it happens, the belt is removed.
5) Out when she wants: it's pretty easy to understand, living daily with the belt, that you can't keep someone unwilling in a belt. NO WAY. IMPOSSIBLE. Maybe I will do a post on this, but if she wants to get out, she will get out. True for my wife, true for everyone wearing it. Unless maybe you live in a remote country, you will not be able to get the Internet or the forum.

Sasha

Milord As usual you bring up good points. For me I’m actually in the belt and accessories about 19-20 hours of the day. Cleaning, letting my skin breathe, exercising, etc. But the concept of chastity remains I’m committed to not touching and I don’t.
Pinching and such varies greatly from person to person, mine is rarely an issue, moms seems to happen a bit more often.
But you are correct if a panic attack happens it should be opened immediately, this is a duty of the key holder to care for the wearer’s mental and physical well being. And yes, if a person isn’t willing there’s no way to force it, that’s been made a clear point many times, they will find a way out. Even in a remote isolated place with no internet that person will find a way.

Avery

Milord Hi all, I take the title from @Sin post
Sin Avery Hooray! Another normal person with realistic expectations!!

Now, it's been a couple of months since my wife has been wearing a chastity belt, and I've realized a lot of things that reading others experiences I have been unable to understand before.

Good thread. I too feel I don't really understand what others go through. I continue to think the belt should be used as a tool to help a person or a couple achieve their chastity-related goals. Sometimes it almost seems to be an instrument of tyranny.

Angelina

Milord makes the idea of continuous wearing impossible

you bring up good points and i agree with most of what you wrote, but it's not impossible, it depends on who has control of the keys and how he/she lives it out. it's not really good no question, but not impossible

Tjc

Milord makes the idea of continuous wearing impossible and for long time utterly dangerous

Like @Angelina, my counter argument is that I have worn a belt continuously for years and am also still alive and, I think, doing well.
Continuously has meant different things over the years but right now means 24/7 except removal about once a week for cleaning and "me time". I did not start 24/7 but worked up to that over time. The build up allowed for adjusting and modifying to prevent pinching and to build a tolerance for chafing. I have, so far, never had an issue with panic attacks. There are times when I would like to be out of the belt so as not to be subject to its restrictions but the agreement with the person holding my keys deals with that and with being out when I want. Being able to easily be out of the belt whenever I want, defeats the purpose (for me).
Some disclaimers: I see and accept the advantages, for me, in wearing a belt. I consented to wearing and to it being very, very difficult for me to stop wearing. I am a man so I am not subject to monthly issues of body size and shape change. I do have to watch what I eat to not change shape due to that. That restriction is a benefit of wearing.

Milord

Sasha Sasha, here

Sasha For me I’m actually in the belt and accessories about 19-20 hours of the day. Cleaning, letting my skin breathe, exercising, etc.

you said that you manage for 19-20 hours a day. This is more than my wife manage to do, but it’s not 24 hours per day. For me 20 over 24 is realistic. I know it can be done.

It’s the always locked on except for few minutes cleaning I feel it’s not realistic. But it’s not set into stone. I may think it is possible if someone can provide reasons. This is how it works for me. I give several reasons why I think it cannot be done. Feel free, if you want, to address my concerns.

Milord

Angelina

I live it. I can see it with my eyes. I also have given my motivations, if you disagree feel free to provide counter arguments. I’m ready to change my position, if given a logical reason to do.

Angelina

Milord if you disagree feel free to provide counter arguments.

my counterargument is that i have worn the belt permanently except for cleaning for years and as you can see i am still alive, so it is possible

Milord

Angelina

This is not a valid counter argument for me.

Angelina

Milord This is not a valid counter argument for me.

the fact that i exist is not a counterargument to your thesis that it is impossible to wear the belt almost permanently for many years (except for cleaning)? you can claim i'm a fake now, but if you don't, your argument makes no sense

Milord

Tjc

A bit difficult to read. Anyway @Tjc you are male, and this makes all the difference of the world: male and female genitalia are completely different, and have different needs and maintenances.

So, while I believe you and your experience, I don’t consider your experience a valid counter argument. I know more than a man in such a situation, but no woman

Tjc

Milord A bit difficult to read

How can I improve this to make it less difficult?

Milord

Tjc dividing the quoted part and your part

Tjc

Milord Hopefully, my edit made it more clear.

Milord

Tjc thank you. Now it's perfect.

Milord

Angelina I don't want to be rude, but if I have to choose between believing my wife and what I see with my own eyes and believing someone who is doing something I believe is impossible, then you have to provide some proof. If not physical, at least logical. A cable belt is very snug against the body, but it's flexible, and still, my wife is unable to stay in for more than 12 hours continuously. I should believe, based only on your word, that you wear a rigid one with accessories like tight bands and chastity for much more time. No, it's impossible.

Angelina

Milord

then don't believe me, but believe the many other girls/women who describe similar things. and you have to remember one thing, without the keys you have no other choice

Tjc

Milord Respectfully, you are using a sample of one (you and your wife) to draw a conclusion that you apply to whether or not something is possible. Given that there are multiple counter examples, your conclusion may not be justified. Perhaps it is better for us to know that for your wife, because of the reason you list above, 24/7 wear is not possible. Your wife's experience does not necessarily apply to everyone else.

pestulens

Milord I am going to propose a hypothesis. I don't have the means to test it but it fits the available anecdotes.

Perhaps those who insist that a custom-fitted ridged belt is more comfortable than a cable belt are correct and long-term wairing is more possible with that design.

youdontknowme

Angelina There 🛠 are 👮‍♂️ always 👩‍🚒 choices ⚖ to get out.

Milord

Angelina

As there girls here that believe that continual belting is impossible. And if no one explain me how you can do I will not believe.

Angelina and you have to remember one thing, without the keys you have no other choice

When unbelt for clean you just refuse to get back in the belt. So what?

Elisa

Angelina get to understand Milord means Mitruth or Miword

Angelina

youdontknowme There 🛠 are 👮‍♂️ always 👩‍🚒 choices ⚖ to get out.

of course, i mean now in a "non-emergency escalation situation"

Milord And if no one explain me how you can do I will not believe.

then don't believe me, but to call half the forum untrustworthy just because your wife has different experiences is presumptuous. i don't mean that unkindly, i have a lot of respect for what your wife does and of course it's totally ok if she can't wear it for longer than this a day, but that doesn't mean that others can't

Sasha

Milord I’m only responding once to this, you have several women myself included who wear continuously with few breaks. We do it and live with it.
We spent many months perfecting a custom fitted belt and adapting to it, we did not just dive in head first.
So if it’s not something your wife can manage that’s fine and I suspect she wouldn’t be the only woman who can’t. But that doesn’t mean that others can do it

Milord

pestulens
@Tjc

I will try to answer you both
1) my wife has an impressive resistance to pain. Beside this, if she resisted for 6 hours and other said that they can resist in for 12, 18… ok it’s personal. But here it’s 10 hours against 3 years. Now, I don’t know how much experience you have whith a female belt, but the area near the crotch, where every belt end, has the skin that is very thin. Tissues can chafe the skin. Can you imagine metal? Because the body change shape. And the belt is metal, doesn’t change.

2) Once chafing start, it will get worse and worse. The skin will redden and will start bleeding in the long run unless you remove

3) Skin need to breath, and metal is not something that allow for breathing. Especially in the most delicate part of a woman. This alone will cause irritation.

4) It needs a lot of breaks for cleaning

5) Even the best fitted belt, and I fitted and changed the belt several time to adjust to my wife body, is still rigid.

And I never even started to talk about accessories 24 7.

Anyway, I’m ready to rethink my position, but not based on “because I say so”. I have all the rights to not consider this valid.

Edit

Tjc Given that there are multiple counter examples, your conclusion may not be justified

Who?

pestulens Perhaps those who insist that a custom-fitted ridged belt is more comfortable than a cable belt are correct and long-term wairing is more possible with that design.

And what about social opportunities, going to a Beauty salon? Sport? Pool? Beach? A marriage? Travel?