@WriterAlexis I am a bit confused. In one poll you write you are belted by your parents and in this poll you vote it is never acceptable to be belted by ones parents?
Belted by parents #2
Milord Just wanted to clarify something. It is not my chastity that keeps me from moving, it’s my siblings. I made a commitment to them that I’d at least try to be there for them since our father can’t be. Ended up with a job where both mom and I financially support them.
Also, when unhealthy behavior becomes self destructive, extreme measures may be warranted. I choose this path and it’s worked pretty well. Probably wouldn’t for others and that’s fine. But I’ll say this. When a person doing what I was hits rock bottom, what they’re willing to do to get out of that hole is virtually unlimited. It’s a place not many can imagine being
Milord Then, doing unhealthy things is not so wrong, it happens to everyone.
of course it's not wrong, but if there's a risk that it could easily escalate, you want to protect yourself, that's how i've always understood @Sascha
Bryan I am a bit confused. In one poll you write you are belted by your parents and in this poll you vote it is never acceptable to be belted by ones parents?
why are you confused? if someone is involuntarily in the belt, that's the logical answer
Sasha Allow me to clarify from my point of view. You know already that I have great respect for your successes. But better to repeat here. I think you have accomplished an enormous amount, and if this is thanks to the belt, then belting yourself has been a very good thing, even if I think that it is a mere tool.
I think that what worked for you is not something that can be widely applied, on the contrary, is a one-on-a-million-a-million (even less) case. This is my opinion. It can be shared or not, but in this poll I tried to capture the various feelings about parental belting. And I honestly don't think that your own situation can apply to anyone else.
Sasha When a person doing what I was hits rock bottom, what they’re willing to do to get out of that hole is virtually unlimited. It’s a place not many can imagine being
I disagree. I had my own sharing of stories. Most people I knew when they hit the bottom start to dig. You are a wonderful exception.
I hope I have explained my self.
Milord Now you will explain me how to go to a gym or beach with a chastity belt fitted with tight bands
That is a good point. If the wearer is required to have thigh bands, then the gym or beach would be difficult (but not impossible) and probably not enjoyable. Most gyms and beaches are public enough that thigh bands would not be necessary to hold the legs closed to prevent attempts to defeat the belt.
I wear a belt to the gym, the pool, and the beach but I do not have thigh bands. They are less useful or necessary for male wearers.
Angelina My impression was that @WriterAlexis was an adult who was choosing to remain in her belt for various benefits, something more akin to answer 3 (or 4)
WriterAlexis While my views are plainly known to my family, it is my intention to leverage my situation for maximum personal benefit. We are all dealt hands we do not choose, be it our families, our economic status, place of origin, and cultural instruction. The bedrock principle of all waves of feminism is grounded in personal choice. My choice is to engage with my local representatives of the Patriarchy in such a way as to 1) reap any benefits available, 2) improve my situation to a personally tolerable level, amd 3) refuse to cede my philosophical viewpoints by acknowledging that it is necessarily a temporary state of affairs and I will ultimately prevail over them in short order.
@WriterAlexis Am I misunderstanding your situation?
Bryan My impression has always been that she viewed what her parents are doing as wrong, but that she has made the tactical decision not to fight them on it because she believes the consequences of doing so would be worse for her than complying. Especially since she thinks she will be in a stronger negotiating position in the future.
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In one poll you write you are belted by your parents and in this poll you vote it is never acceptable to be belted by ones parents?
Yep.
Bryan My impression was that @WriterAlexis was an adult who was choosing to remain in her belt for various benefits, something more akin to answer 3 (or 4)
in my opinion, she tolerates the belt so as not to unnecessarily burden the family peace, but she does not wear the belt voluntarily and considers it unacceptable to do it to other children
Owl I will not change my mind. Exactly as nothing can happens and convince me that whipping, closing in basement, genitals inspection to check for hymen integrity, and similar abuses are right.
In extreme situations, but really extreme, I can accept it. I can't remember where I read of a girl in psychic ward used to masturbate so much that she actually self mutilate her genitals, and have to be restrained. In case like this I think that a belt, under medical surveillance, can be an acceptable solution.
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General remark: We face the situation again, that the word "children" in English (as in some other similar languages, AFAIK) is unfortunately ambiguous. It conflates the attribute of being someone's offspring with the attribute of being young.
It makes however a difference in my evaluation, if we face a situation of a grown woman and her mother, e.g. Renita's, or an adolescent.
This just as to better reflect my own considerations in this or similar threads. Will think about the rest later again.
Owl What makes it worse is that some people use machine translators that map "children", intended as the word for "offspring", to the word for "pre-teens". Often in strongly-gendered languages as well where "child" as a gender-neutral equivalent to "son"/"daughter" does not exist.
Owl @youdontknowme
maybe we should stick on "adult child" so to remove any ambiguity.
Milord Good idea where it is relevant.
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Jeez, that's even worse. Adolescence is one thing (and difficult a topic enough), but if a generator made some pre-teen sh*t of it ... :-(
(For the records: My personal age of consent for chastity would be the same as for sexual relations. I categorically reject anything earlier. Even above every individual case needs to be considered very well if pre full legal age. Actually, every case should be considered well :-), but the more mature the person, the more I assume the persons is actually able and accountable. And being able to account for bad decisions or being responsible to end a situation, as well.)
Owl It makes however a difference in my evaluation, if we face a situation of a grown woman and her mother, e.g. Renita's, or an adolescent.
it makes a big difference, but when i talk about children, i always talk about children of their parents. for children under 18 i would say for clarification that we then talk about underage/minor children.
of course there can always be confusion, so we should try to be clear about what we mean and clarify if there are problems of understanding