Joh Yes Sasha is correct, thankfully not dead but parent divorced when I was younger and he has new family and moved to the North Island of the country. I hear from him at Christmas and Birthdays and that is about it. So was raised by a single mum.

I moved to my aunt and uncles as we always used to holiday over here on the farm and always liked the idea of the country lifestyle but was raised a city girl. So I fancied a change of scenery and with my cousin recently moving out asked if I could come stay and work on the farm and they said yes. So was really just a change of scenery and pace of life. I mean things are busy here as there is always something to do but its different. I am sure there are some people out there that will understand that.

It will certainly remain part of my life whilst I am here. I have not thought to much about it continuing away from here as still happy here and not really considered moving back home or elsewhere for the foreseeable future at least. I do see the virtues of it though so would not be opposed to carrying it on if I had a keyholder. My mum I am sure would be happy to continue it if I wanted to return to city life.

    milkymilo I can well understand you, as I used to want to do the same. But I didn't have the opportunity to live and work on a farm.
    I mean, you haven't had the CB on all the time for very long. It may become more challenging in the near future. But you are free to decide whether to continue or end it. It has to feel right for you then it is right.

      Joh Yes I am very fortunate to have family into farming to allow this pathway. I mean its still possible without as lots or jobs going around here but it is nice to have that familiar family surrounding for sure.

      Yes you are correct, it does feel ok and right at the moment. But that is because I am focused on the new day t day lifestyle and work and not looking for a relationship anytime soon.

      I am a bot of a loner and quite shy so do not do well in the city with all the people so find this way of life much more enjoyable as associate with a limited group of people

        milkymilo I am a bot of a loner and quite shy

        For being shy, you appear open and confident here. Not that I'm criticizing it. On the contrary, I think it's good. 👍

          Joh that is because I have the luxury of typing and not having to deal with people face to face. Same here I can speak with people on the phone and order that and that for the farm and talk to the accountant and suppliers but going into the office or shops is a completely different ball game.

          I guess its the beauty of the internet in that I can speak to people all over the world about many things personal and not but know I am not going to bump into you when I go into town

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            milkymilo Yes I know how looks FS belts. By us are used our European "classic style" belts like my-steel and neosteel. Mainly neosteel. And yes, youu hae to change sometimes a bit clothing when you want to hide belt.

              milkymilo I agree with you on that. It's much easier to write something on the computer, it's as if I were writing a diary and someone somewhere in the world is reading it.
              And it's very, very unlikely that we would meet. I haven't been to New Zealand yet and I probably won't travel there, as much as I would like to. And you live in the country, which makes it even less likely. So you're on the very safe side.

              milkymilo Yes probably as far away as you can get from some places

              Too far from both Americas and Europe.

              milkymilo No my mother doesn't have a spare key

              And she never raised this question?

              milkymilo that can be discussed I suppose moving forward when I visit

              In this case you could visit your mom without being accompanied by your aunt.

              milkymilo I just have a 5 minute limit when unbelted which is just enough time to clean the belt and down there

              It usually takes more time for me, mom just makes sure, that I don't sneak out without the belt.

                Anne yes I do like the look of the neosteel belts they are rather nice. If it is something that continues then we may look at those as an option as well to change things up. It was just the locality thing with fancysteel that was easiest with shipping and customs and gst (service/import tax) etc

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                  Renita As for my mother no she has not raised the question yet as its only been 6 months and everytime I have gone back it has been with my aunty. Its about a 4hour drive back to where my mum is so we have always gone together or a 40min flight but I am not a fan of the little plane flying up and over the southern alps

                  If I start making the journey myself that is a good point and something to discuss moving forward and see if my mum is keen. Its not that my aunt accompanies me as in a chaperone sense its just hand to travel together or my mum comes here. Plus when I do go back it is only normally for a few nights at max so can forgo a unlock and just have a few soaks in the bath

                    Anne yes they are based in Australia, and I am in New Zealand. Although totally separate countries as we are geographically close....well in our terms lol so the post service and customs is a lot cheaper and easier between the two countries in most cases. Plus we looked at option and all like the look of the FS P1 belt so made it an easy decision

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                      milkymilo but they explained their reasoning and that my aunty wears and cousin wore

                      They had the good reason, but they had to tell it in advance rather than after you have arrived to the farm. If I got such surprise I would probably refuse or at least take some time to think.

                        Laura well I did get time to think, it wasn't as if I was locked in a belt straight away, that would have been crazy and yeah I would have certainly panicked there. They talked about it and I agreed and we got the belt measured and ordered. It was not a busy time of year so got the belt in about 6 weeks so was fortunate there

                        milkymilo and see if my mum is keen

                        And if she is strict enough to keep you belted.

                        milkymilo Plus when I do go back it is only normally for a few nights at max so can forgo a unlock and just have a few soaks in the bath

                        You need to have the key available shortly in case of emergency, etc.

                          Renita yes I agree with the emergency key and I have one. It is in a plastic tube with a security seal on it so I cannot use the keu without ripping that off. They I would have some explaining to do. Are there bettter options for an emergency key ? I am hear to learn as much as I can from other

                            milkymilo And what is your agreement about wearing belt or how do you expect , that you will wear belt? How long, what are rules and conditions...?

                              Anne My aunt and uncle are a big believer in no sexual intercourse before marriage. It is something that enforced for my cousin and is something that they would like to ensure for me whilst under their roof and their care. I was happy to honour that wish of theirs and they suggested in the chastity belt to help ensure that and have that extra piece of mind. My aunty told me about her wearing it and I also spoke to my cousin in depth about it and agreed to wear one myself.

                              I think they are a bit worried with nature of the countryside as there are quite a few farm workers and especially around shearing time alot of people on the farm so I will be out and about helping and cooking for the shearing gangs so adds that piece of mind for them and indeed me tbh

                              How long for? at this stage the duration I am here or until/if I decide to get married.

                              The rules are pretty simple. I wear it, keep it discrete. It can only be removed with my aunties permission and under supervision and that is for cleaning or medical visits