Introductions-2

Maija

hanatan welcome to the forum! Nice to meet you

hanatan

Maija thank u!

Maija

hanatan is that common in your community?

hanatan

Maija No not really. I know of two other girls who wear or did wear. But it's not a super public thing, just because our parents are close church friends.

Milord

hanatan

Welcome

PigtailSam

hanatan how did they convince you to wear it if your reluctant?

hanatan

PigtailSam Combination of things, included privileges and money. Also it helps my relationship with my parents, and at least at the start there were some convincing moral arguments that are less convincing with age (hence reluctance).

pestulens

hanatan Welcom. You will probably get a lot of questions but feel free to share as much or as little as you are comfortable with. Also, feel free to ask any questions you have.

hanatan

pestulens thank u!

Damien

Welcome Hana. When in doubt, please always assume our questions and comments are not directed against you.

Joh

hanatan at the start there were some convincing moral arguments that are less convincing with age (hence reluctance).

What convincing moral argument did they use?
And did they say if you should wear it until end of school, UNI, or marriage?

Laura

hanatan How old are you?

hanatan

Laura I am 18, one of the reasons I am only posting now.

Damien

What's your regime, and how do you cope?

hanatan

Damien It gets removed every morning for me to take a supervised shower. It also comes off for various sports activities. Other than that I am always wearing. Coping is relative. I find it extremely frustrating at times, and then I can't cope really, especially early on but even now I do get mad/cry about it/try to cheat it but I have gotten better at distracting myself in those times. still farrrr from perfect tho lol. Other times it just exists and doesn't frustrate me except for being inconvenient/uncomfortable. Rarely I am glad to have it for some times I need to focus.

pestulens

hanatan, is there a plan for how long you will be wearing it?

Damien

Thank you for sharing that. How can we support you?

hanatan

Damien I have zero idea, I might vent sometime but mostly I just wanted to get the awkward intro out of the way and will use the board when I feel like it I guess.

Padre

I saw some other post:

Damien Thank you for sharing that. How can we support you?

The question "How can we support you?" sounds so much better and inviting.

hanatan

pestulens My parents would like me to wear until marriage, I would like to stop sooner. I think at some point if I can support myself I will stop.

hanatan

Joh First of all I was/have been/maybe still am also religious, and I believe(d?) that it was a good thing to be pure. The Church preaches the law of chastity as one of its big pillars especially to young people. And the reason for the initiation of chastity was what I fully acknowledge was too much time spent enjoying porn. And I do believe I was unhealthy about it and that sort of quitting cold turkey was a reasonable thing. So both those things convinced me.

Of course now I think I have more self control, and my faith waivers.

Milord

hanatan million dollar question: you surely know that you can get out when you want, and keeping you in is immoral and illegal. So, what will happens if you just demand to get out?
If you feel of to answer of course. No pressure

Joh

hanatan

hanatan I ask myself sometimes if it is worth it. But as I said earlier I have some incentives for staying in it, related to privileges at home and college financial support soon. I would lose that if I demanded out. I think it would also damage my relationship with my parents and their view of me. And on the one hand, at times I think all of that is worth it, that I don't care what they think of me, that I will survive on my own. And maybe it is true. But so far I haven't thought the frustration is worth the fallout.

It Sounds Like you developed. Maybe it IS an Option for you If you Take it in your Hand. Do you think you are able to handle your sexuality in a way which will fit in your parents View?
I think most poeple are able to learn to handle that is Part of their life and not the centre. If you think it is good to stay as virging until marriag you can do it without a CB as well. On the other hand you can use the CB on your own term as a tool in Situation which could be risky.

Rina

hanatan I've worn since I was 14.

That sounds like very long time. I honestly find making someone to wear chastity belt that age kind of not appropriate approach, though. Still I kind of had a curiosity about chastity back in days when I was around that age cause I somehow heard of medieval tales about it.

I would've never even be able to imagine that, neither my parents value premarital chastity that level nor I would've been interested into actually wearing it, back in time I just thought it was kind of a mythical object from medieval times.

Hope one day you can be free from belt!

hanatan my faith waivers.

hanatan First of all I was/have been/maybe still am also religious, and I believe(d?) that it was a good thing to be pure.

I think many people today are like that too. My partner is from Catholic family but she doesn't attend mass nor actively participate. I'm currently not associated with any religion, and I think I'd keep it that way at least for very long time...

hanatan I fully acknowledge was too much time spent enjoying porn. And I do believe I was unhealthy about it and that sort of quitting cold turkey was a reasonable thing.

Have you discussed about porn blockers / filtering tools? Honestly, I'm not fond of use of it but that probably would've helped more than a belt... just in my perspective...

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