Introductions-2

hanatan

Laura I am 18, one of the reasons I am only posting now.

Damien

What's your regime, and how do you cope?

hanatan

Damien It gets removed every morning for me to take a supervised shower. It also comes off for various sports activities. Other than that I am always wearing. Coping is relative. I find it extremely frustrating at times, and then I can't cope really, especially early on but even now I do get mad/cry about it/try to cheat it but I have gotten better at distracting myself in those times. still farrrr from perfect tho lol. Other times it just exists and doesn't frustrate me except for being inconvenient/uncomfortable. Rarely I am glad to have it for some times I need to focus.

pestulens

hanatan, is there a plan for how long you will be wearing it?

Damien

Thank you for sharing that. How can we support you?

hanatan

Damien I have zero idea, I might vent sometime but mostly I just wanted to get the awkward intro out of the way and will use the board when I feel like it I guess.

Padre

I saw some other post:

Damien Thank you for sharing that. How can we support you?

The question "How can we support you?" sounds so much better and inviting.

hanatan

pestulens My parents would like me to wear until marriage, I would like to stop sooner. I think at some point if I can support myself I will stop.

Joh

hanatan at the start there were some convincing moral arguments that are less convincing with age (hence reluctance).

What convincing moral argument did they use?
And did they say if you should wear it until end of school, UNI, or marriage?

hanatan

Joh First of all I was/have been/maybe still am also religious, and I believe(d?) that it was a good thing to be pure. The Church preaches the law of chastity as one of its big pillars especially to young people. And the reason for the initiation of chastity was what I fully acknowledge was too much time spent enjoying porn. And I do believe I was unhealthy about it and that sort of quitting cold turkey was a reasonable thing. So both those things convinced me.

Of course now I think I have more self control, and my faith waivers.

Milord

hanatan million dollar question: you surely know that you can get out when you want, and keeping you in is immoral and illegal. So, what will happens if you just demand to get out?
If you feel of to answer of course. No pressure

Joh

hanatan

hanatan I ask myself sometimes if it is worth it. But as I said earlier I have some incentives for staying in it, related to privileges at home and college financial support soon. I would lose that if I demanded out. I think it would also damage my relationship with my parents and their view of me. And on the one hand, at times I think all of that is worth it, that I don't care what they think of me, that I will survive on my own. And maybe it is true. But so far I haven't thought the frustration is worth the fallout.

It Sounds Like you developed. Maybe it IS an Option for you If you Take it in your Hand. Do you think you are able to handle your sexuality in a way which will fit in your parents View?
I think most poeple are able to learn to handle that is Part of their life and not the centre. If you think it is good to stay as virging until marriag you can do it without a CB as well. On the other hand you can use the CB on your own term as a tool in Situation which could be risky.

Rina

hanatan I've worn since I was 14.

That sounds like very long time. I honestly find making someone to wear chastity belt that age kind of not appropriate approach, though. Still I kind of had a curiosity about chastity back in days when I was around that age cause I somehow heard of medieval tales about it.

I would've never even be able to imagine that, neither my parents value premarital chastity that level nor I would've been interested into actually wearing it, back in time I just thought it was kind of a mythical object from medieval times.

Hope one day you can be free from belt!

hanatan my faith waivers.

hanatan First of all I was/have been/maybe still am also religious, and I believe(d?) that it was a good thing to be pure.

I think many people today are like that too. My partner is from Catholic family but she doesn't attend mass nor actively participate. I'm currently not associated with any religion, and I think I'd keep it that way at least for very long time...

hanatan I fully acknowledge was too much time spent enjoying porn. And I do believe I was unhealthy about it and that sort of quitting cold turkey was a reasonable thing.

Have you discussed about porn blockers / filtering tools? Honestly, I'm not fond of use of it but that probably would've helped more than a belt... just in my perspective...

hanatan

Milord I ask myself sometimes if it is worth it. But as I said earlier I have some incentives for staying in it, related to privileges at home and college financial support soon. I would lose that if I demanded out. I think it would also damage my relationship with my parents and their view of me. And on the one hand, at times I think all of that is worth it, that I don't care what they think of me, that I will survive on my own. And maybe it is true. But so far I haven't thought the frustration is worth the fallout.

Also, in my more rational times, I have to admit I feel stupid and silly and childish when I think that physical pleasure is worth all the debt and damaged relationships and everything.

The other hand is that they aren't abusive. I could demand out and take those consequences. It's not like they tied me down to belt me in the first place and for a time I do think I benefited from it. I don't know if that's true now but maybe it is.

Milord

hanatan I have to say, I will never understand USA idea that paying for study is a privilege allowing parents to have control on their offspring. In Italy if parents can pay for university (the rest of school are free) they will just gladly pay for it. No one here will ever consider to deny university if the can afford it
Stopping support for an adult child is considered abuse and blackmail, and the adult child a victim.

hanatan Also, in my more rational times, I have to admit I feel stupid and silly and childish when I think that physical pleasure is worth all the debt and damaged relationships and everything.

Not exactly physical pleasure, more about personal freedom. Not a small thing.

Helena

hanatan Hello, welcome. How long have you been wearing the belt and how did it first start?

hanatan

Milord I think if it wasn't available parents who really cared would just rely more on other forms of pressure. I mean browsing the forums we have many girls with varying degrees of cooperation wearing in Europe right? Anyways I think they only use the pressure point out of a sincere belief it's best for me. Lots of parents try in various ways to get their kids to do things they hate if it's good for them. Maybe in reality if I demanded it off or cut it they would not actually enforce the consequences.

Now, don't take the above rationality for a defense. I disagree with it. I resent the dilemma. But the point is there isn't a magic get out with no consequences button available, and hypotheticals are not a key.

Milord

hanatan very well put, congratulations. Currently in Europe girls wearing are voluntary, even enthusiastic. I, as a father, don't believe it's morally acceptable to force my belief on a adult child, and on minor only for his own good, and for sure respecting the law.

Then my note applies to the high level education and a place where to live. While for example buying a car can be used as pressure, not paying studies will not be considered acceptable. In Italy kicking a child out is not possible. Law and society will prevent it

Marder

hanatan You make a much better point here than most do, impressive. Welcome! I'm looking forward to read more from you.

Kaja

hanatan Nice to meet you!

Rina

hanatan

Welcome! I like anime and games too!

hanatan western US in a pretty LDS area.

Utah?

hanatan I like anime (kinda a weeb ngl), crime novels, and gaming.

I like open world games like Genshin Impact (Raiden Shogun main, also have Arlecchino, Kazuha and I tend to switch one other depending on needs), and idol anime like Love Live! (It is also how I met my partner (so my partner also likes anime and games, as well as deeply interested into tech) who is now in long distance relationship, so it's quite special to me). I kind of enjoy watching true crime documentaries, not crime novels though.

Is your username named after one of Vtuber "Hanatan"? https://virtualyoutuber.fandom.com/wiki/Hanatan
My partner likes several Vtubers (I don't really know much about vtuber but I know few of them).
My username is originated from Love Live! (Rina Tennoji)

hanatan I wear a Fancy Steel p1 belt, reluctantly but willingly.

Chastity kind of interested me from long ago, when I stumbled upon with it from tales of medieval times. I wished I could be locked in one of these, by a significant other one day from that time. Not as a fetish but I want it to be part of who I am, which after exploring multiple communities (So many were about fetish / porn) I found the closest place that would fit the most with my view on chastity belt's use (non fetish use).

Current situation kind of doesn't go well with even getting started, I wish I can live together with my partner, keyholding and many things would be practically best if I live together with her. (My dream belt is My-Steel belt, maybe Neosteel too but Neosteel looks even more expensive than My-Steel)

I heard Fancy Steel is good and they are trying quite many new things, and these somewhat look like they do care more about long term wear as time goes on.

Do you wear other accessories like thigh bands / chastity bra as well, or belt only? (I didn't know there were thigh bands or other accessories until I came across this forum as well) I heard fancy steel has o-rings instead of d-rings, which functions same, if yours have one, be aware there may be a chance even if you are not wearing one now...

hanatan

Rina

Rina Utah?

Let's just say western US.

Rina Welcome! I like anime and games too!

Super cool!

Rina Do you wear other accessories like thigh bands / chastity bra as well, or belt only? (I didn't know there were thigh bands or other accessories until I came across this forum as well) I heard fancy steel has o-rings instead of d-rings, which functions same, if yours have one, be aware there may be a chance even if you are not wearing one now...

I have thigh bands which I have had to wear a couple of times as a result of attempting to cheat the belt, but only for short times. Yes, there are o-rings which are very irritating and don't lay flat/are always present.

Rina Current situation kind of doesn't go well with even getting started, I wish I can live together with my partner,

I hope you can live together soon!

Milady2

hanatan welcome!

hanatan

Helena I've worn since I was 14. It started due to a porn addiction that was affecting my life and not tolerable to my parents.

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