hanatan I have thigh bands which I have had to wear a couple of times as a result of attempting to cheat the belt, but only for short times. Yes, there are o-rings which are very irritating and don't lay flat/are always present.
Can I just say, wow, this is NOT ok. Nobody should ever make you wear thighbands, no matter what. It's wrong on so many levels, I don't even know where to begin.
First of all, there's nothing wrong with attempting to cheat the belt. It means it's doing its job. If you didn't feel the need to cheat the belt, you wouldn't need the belt in the first place.
If you spend 20 minutes trying to cheat the belt, it means you just spent 20 minutes trying to move a small piece of metal, and 0 minutes doing whatever it is you were trying to do. If you didn't have the belt on, you would already be doing whatever it is for 20 minutes - but with the belt, you have to give up and do something else. As long as the belt stays secure, trying to cheat it doesn't matter - what matters is that it stays on.
Second of all, thighbands are a horrible, restrictive, physically harmful way to "solve" a "problem" that doesn't even exist. It's not possible to get around the belt by spreading your legs - I know that for a fact. It seems possible, but it isn't.
But even If it was possible, there's better options, like adjusting the belt, or buying a better-fitting one. Even doing nothing about it is still better than thighbands.
And lastly, it seems like you had to wear them as punishment. That is very, VERY messed up. It shows how your parents think about the belt - they use it as punishment for you having completely natural urges, and when your urges, to no surprise, didn't stop when you started wearing the belt, they decided to punish you even more. That's not good parenting, they are disrespectful to your boundaries and needs. Buying a belt was the right thing to do, but with how they handled it, you would be better off not ever having worn it.
Let me explain.
I do believe that it's good to wear a chastity belt, starting as soon as possible, and up until turning 17-18. The reason is simple - at 17-18 it's ok to be sexually active, because people are more responsible at that age, and can be responsible for their own decisions, making a belt unnecessary.
But until then, there's a good reason to wear one. At that age, if you are not in a bathroom, you don't ever need access to what's in you underwear. But there is nothing stopping you from moving your underwear aside and doing things which are too early for you to be doing.
The chastity belt helps avoid that - with a chastity belt, you can still use the bathroom, but you can not do those other things - it's still underwear, but it keeps everything inside it safe, making sure that you don't do anything you're not supposed to at that age.
However, it must not be used without agreement, it must not be a punishment, it must not be for money or some conditional support, and, it must not interfere with regular everyday life.
Agreement is a must - being forced to wear a belt without agreeing first is abuse.
The belt is not punishment - having urges is not wrong, attempting to act on them is expected, the belt is only there to put a stop to those attempts before anything happens.
Financial and other support must be unconditional - this applies to parenting in general, not only to the belt - but making financial support dependent on wearing the belt makes the first point about agreement very blurred and ambiguous.
And it must not interfere with regular everyday life - life should not revolve around the belt, it's just a piece of underwear - it should be like wearing braces or hearing aids, excep more private.
A belt should only be used if all four of those conditions are met.
In your case, none of them are.
They made you wear the belt, even though you don't want to.
They threatened to withhold college money if you don't wear it.
They punished you for fighting the belt, even though it's not wrong to.
And lastly, they made you wear thighbands, which make it impossible to move around normally.
There is only one acceptable reason for them to have bought you a chastity belt - to stop you from doing things you were too young to do. Wearing a chastity can not have anything to do with with virginity, purity, innocence, or anything like that - none of those things matter. They are not personal qualities, they are labels. Having them doesn't make you a better or worse person. Having to wear a chastity belt to preserve any of those labels is extremely wrong, and your situation is, unfortunately, an example why. Having urges is normal, every teenager has them, it does not make you "impure", it does not make you guilty of anything, and the belt is there to stop you from acting on those urges anyway. You do not deserve to be punished for it by having to wear thighbands.
Your parents are mistreating you. You might want to have a serious discussion with them about this.
