Hello all I have recently introduced myself on the forum and it has been suggested I create my own thread. I must admit I do feel a bit awkward having a thread to myself but here it is anyway.

So those that habe already spoken with me will know the below but for those that have not here is it. My name is Kaitlyn and I live and work in rural New Zealand on my Aunty and Uncles farm on the West Coast.

Not long into being here the subject of chastity was brought up and that they would like me to wear a belt as they are a big proponent of no sex before marriage. I was not alone in this as my cousin was also belted for 10 years until she recently got married.

So long story short after some discussion and understanding their ideas I agreed and currently have a fancy steel P1 as they are local to this part of the world. It is effective but takes some adjustment at this stage.

A bit more about me... well I am from Christchurch so originally a city girl but have always been a country girl at heart as used to holiday here grown up. I am an only child from a solo parent household so used to my own company and not a very outwardly going person. If you got me to a party I would be that girl sat in the corner minding my own business. I suppose I would say I am on the more creative side and enjoy writing, reading and art. I even knit from time to time.

    Laura My mother and my aunt are sisters. My mother is my aunts youngest sister

        Laura it was something her husband (my uncle by marriage) introduced my aunt and cousin to. It was not something they were exposed to growing up

          milkymilo enjoy writing, reading and art

          There's probably not a lot of art exhibitions where you live now. Do you draw, make things or write stories? Does your new lifestyle reflect in what you create?

            there is a nice art gallery in the local town and as it is quite wild and spectacular scenery here and sparsely populated there are a lot of creative types that are around. So rather weird and wonderful people that is for sure. Not really a maker other than the knitting just short stories and diary. Yes a draw a little and water colour as well. Its nice and therapeutic

              milkymilo it is nice that you are so fine with your new lifestyle. yes good fitting belt is later when you learn routine not so bad not so much restrictive or so...not so hard to wear. And it's nice if you once started that you continue...

                  Anne it is more a matter of accepting rather than fine I suppose. I see no harm in it, well not at this stage and I kind of like the control. I have adhd so thrive on structure and routine and that is why the farming is so good. There is structure and routine on the farm and keeping the house.

                  It is summer here so starting to get warmer so will see how it goes in the hotter months

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                      milkymilo if You like control rules and similar, then it can be ok or good for you. In summer it is for me ok too, only can be sometimes more difficult to hide belt

                          Anne yes that is true it will be harder to hide in summer. Thankfully I am not on the farm doing all the manual work so will be with my aunty. She did ask my thoughts on people knowing about it

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                              milkymilo yes but depend which kind of clothes do you wear...
                              How she means this question? And what did you answer?

                                  Anne well winter and autumn and spring are easily sorted as I just wear sweaters and cardis and as they are big and baggy. I suppose summer will be shorts and singlet or t-shirt

                                  I think she meant not going out the way to hide it and if people see to say it is an antirape and virtue protection chastity belt. I do not mind really, I imagine I would be embarrassed a bit at first bit there are so many other weird and wonderful things going on in peoples lives these days I am not sure people would care too much once they ask a few questions

                                  I mean we have a good couple of people with us full time. A lesbian and her trans partner (f-to-m) another married couple and a few farm hands. So I guess it would be them that knew

                                      milkymilo yes loose trousers or shorts will be ok, or dresses, skirts...

                                      Yes always is chance that somebody can see or recognize belt, but in now days are really many "crazy" things , outfits... in now days... And if somebody see maybe can ask...but belt means that somebody take care for you , your safety ....

                                          Are other people open about their chastity or is it a very secret thing for most ?

                                          I suppose if people knew it stops question on why am I not dating etc

                                            Anne yeah that was exactly my thoughts to be honest. There is so much variation in peoples lives and interests out there.

                                            Who knows you are belted?

                                            Currently it is my aunty, uncle, mother and cousin...and no doubt her husband

                                                milkymilo yes it can be some kind of secret. But from other point of view why not be open if others respect you, your reasons to wear,...
                                                I do not know how is it by other people's here, but usually I think knows others in family , maybe some others around with similar interests or lifestyle... Chastity lifestyle ( or how we can call it) is generally not so common.
                                                And as can you see here on this forum too, not all people's respect others and their reasons...
                                                Do you know if you cousin still wear belt?

                                                    Anne I do believe my cousing wears her belt, not sure whether full time or when her husband is working, He is a shift worker so I imagine he will lock her up when he is away at work.

                                                    thats what I thought, I mean I accept other people interests, gender identities and sexualities, religions etc. I mean I can see how chastity may be unique and different to someone and even strange but I cannot see how it is offensive in anyway as long as it is between consenting adults.

                                                    Yes it is the same with any community whether it is be a workplace, church , social club or craft club etc there is always those that want to impose their view of things on everyone else. I am a big believer in each to their own, you do you and I will do me. Just because my view or story or reasons differ from yours, doesn't make me wrong, just makes me human.

                                                    As I said as long as it is between consenting adults then we should be able to live out lives how we please

                                                        milkymilo yes all must be ok with lifestyle rules and for example with chastity too. All with agreement, nobody forced by power. But if you live between peoples with some lifestyle, values ..it is more common for you, and normal and you accept and want continue.