StrictButCorrectFather Excuse me but the forum is about chastity. Eveyrbody else here is talking about the same thing. You don't even know what her opinion toward this is.

There is a significant difference between a wearer's perspective (either there is enthusiastic consent or it is not her fault) and a keyholder's perspective (even with explicit consent there are still power dynamics to take into account). I tend to go much easier on wearers than on keyholders.

As for my views on the various rules:

  • Orgasm schedule: 4 times a year feels rather arbitrary, and I do not see how such a schedule would eliminate distractions in a way that a more frequent schedule or a strict no-orgasm policy would not. This feels like a way to build a lot of anticipation that will soon be met with disappointment and ultimately create more distraction than is removed.
    Also, the idea of a parent paying that close attention to their daughter's orgasms sits ill with me. On the other hand, a more performance-based approach could be made to work as a motivational tool (speaking entirely in theory, of course, but some members here say they have made good experiences with that). But maybe not make the orgasm itself the reward and more increased freedoms (which may come with opportunities for orgasms, but do not make orgasm the main focus).
  • Lights out: That is the least disagreeable one from my perspective. Poor sleep hygiene can definitely cause academic performance to suffer, so there is a case to be made for it.
  • Supervised showers: Only if she asks for it, everything else is a violation of privacy.
  • Porn ban: Sensible, but enforcement seems intrusive again. How about limiting device access until schoolwork is complete instead?
  • Cell phone checks: Another major invasion of privacy.
  • Observed while masturbating: What is this, an incest fantasy?
  • Open-door policy: I think it would be fine for the bedroom until schoolwork is complete, but bathroom privacy, bedroom privacy at night and maybe some after-hours privacy once schoolwork is done are still valuable.

      StrictButCorrectFather I also wanted to ask why you agree this rule important for her?

      1. Addiction
      2. Waste of time and energy

      StrictButCorrectFather Because my wife is suggesting to loosen this rule

      What will she gain by having an access to porn? Nothing.

          pestulens Maybe their gender changed when their birthday went back in time another half year. Manipulating the temporal continuum may lead to unpredictable results.

          Well, that or he has multiple children n very simolar age ranges from different mothers, which tells a very different story of who it is that needs enforced chastity in his house.

              youdontknowme Weird that you seem to be against almost every rule. It s weird to you that I observe and care about the her orgasms and sexual pleasure? Almost everybody else in this forum is the same. There are popele who put steel bras on their daughters so that they can not even touch their breasts. Also people who think they should give their daughter an orgasm because they don't want them to touch themselves. just because this is all told from the perspective of the wearer it doesn't make it differnet.
              Do you tell those people too that they should say to their parents they are mean and have an incest fantasy?

                  Marder thanks for your interest. She was ok with trying it and now it is getting quite challenging for her because she says the urge is getting stronger. Or rather, she told her mom and she told me.
                  We had a two months phase of getting used to it where she wore it more and more often until I announced now would be permanent on Nov 21st. She was shocked because she told me right away that she hasn't touched herself for more than a week. But I didn't want to announce it earlier because I knew she would start with begging for more time to get used to. So I told her no, she will try to stay chaste from now on.

                      youdontknowme Thanks for asking about him. He is actually not my real son. I should have mentioned that. He is from my wife's first husband. But he lives with his real father who has a farm. We visit him once in a while. klast year he was at our place for more than two months and we tried the chastity device with him. He had just turned 17 before coming to stay for a while with us and since we don't see him often, I accidentally thought he ad turned 16, but i quickly corrected it a few days later when he arrived and told me he was 17.

                          StrictButCorrectFather Do you tell those people too that they should say to their parents they are mean and have an incest fantasy?

                          I rarely bring up incest fantasies unless the parent-keyholders involve themselves in the orgasms they allow the wearer to have, like you are doing here. But yes, I do often point out that some of the common themes of this forum are far from normal, and I do frequently advise wearers that the experiences they describe are not part of what mainstream society would consider to be within the realm of normal parenting.

                          And a no-orgasm policy, while not something I consider humane if not requested by the wearer, is at least something that is intellectually consistent with the idea of purity. Something that a regular schedule of supervised orgasms specifically is not.

                          StrictButCorrectFather I accidentally thought he ad turned 16, but i quickly corrected it a few days later when he arrived and told me he was 17.

                          You seem to be bad with ages. First getting his wrong, then the typo in your daughter's age... Who is her mother by the way? Your ex-wife?

                          By the way, your son should be 18 now if my math is right. You once mentioned that he eventually agreed to your use of chastity. Do you know if he still uses his device at times?

                                StrictButCorrectFather

                                I'll try to evaluate the rules.

                                "Lights out at 10pm (on school nights)"
                                this is the only rule that i think is really good and that i would also find acceptable for an 18 year old if it helps her

                                "No erotic videos/novels, porn or porn related images/videos etc."
                                I think it's ok, but it's hard to implement/control

                                "Doors stay open, no matter if bathroom or bedroom"
                                i think it's a bit too strict, but if she abuses her privacy to do bad things (and i mean really bad things, not masturbation), it's ok

                                "Cell phone is checked every week for any erotic pictures, games etc., cell phone trash is also checked"
                                i wouldn't do it unless she is being threatened/blackmailed by strangers on the internet

                                "She can only have one orgasm every quarter year"
                                pointless, either she gets breaks (but then much more please) or not

                                "At least one person has to be with her and watch her while showering without belt"
                                from my own experience i know that this is humiliating, better set a time limit

                                "When orgasm is allowed once per quarter year she is observed while masturbating"
                                please explain the meaning behind this, i find it disgusting

                                  So I'll have a go at evaluating the rules, too... should explain my voting.

                                  "Lights out at 10pm (on school nights)": Sounds reasonable to make sure she doesn't skimp on sleep. Especially if there have been problems before

                                  "At least one person has to be with her and watch her while showering without belt": Well IF someone is wearing a belt for anti-masturbation purposes, it makes sense not to leave a loophole here. "watch" could be interpreted loosely in this case: There's no reason to stare all the time. Just being around to make sure there are no unreasonable delays with her hygiene would be sufficient.

                                  "She can only have one orgasm every quarter year": Not sure what the intention of this is. Like @youdontknowme said: If she's supposed not to masturbate, then it's too often. And if only excessive masturbation is supposed to be limited, it seems too strict.

                                  "Cell phone is checked every week for any erotic pictures, games etc., cell phone trash is also checked": Hard no from me, this would be a major privacy intrusion, as if you would be looking over her shoulder ALL the time.

                                  "No erotic videos/novels, porn or porn related images/videos etc.": Would not be enforceable anyway without the cellphone checks, which I'm against, so also no, if only for practical reasons.

                                  "Doors stay open, no matter if bathroom or bedroom!": Also a big privacy violation here, so no. Sounds like jail-level surveillance. What is the intention here? You don't trust the belt to do its job?

                                  "When orgasm is allowed once per quarter year she is observed while masturbating": Disturbing idea. Not only because of the extreme privacy violation, but as others already mentioned, it seems to imply sexual motives on your side.

                                    StrictButCorrectFather She was ok with trying it and now it is getting quite challenging for her because she says the urge is getting stronger.

                                    But she still is ok with it...? (email in profile, just in case)

                                      Marder Would not be enforceable anyway without the cellphone checks

                                      Easy.

                                        StrictButCorrectFather

                                        There is a big difference between agreeing or being forced to wear the CB for 24/7.
                                        I don't know if she is of age in your country at 18, but I assume so. In other words, you are restricting her rights and forcing her to do something she doesn't want to do. You are clearly making yourself liable to prosecution. So don't be surprised that we are supporting you.
                                        Sexual development is a right that everyone has. Preventing it just because it doesn't suit your point of view is a crime.

                                        You want her to concentrate more on her tasks. If she can't satisfy her desires, it will put more stress on her and she will be less focused on her tasks.
                                        Your imagination, execution and reality do not match. Whether you like it or not. That's why you won't get broad support for your plan here.

                                        If you were really a responsible father, you would reconsider the whole thing. If you want to get her to focus more on the tasks then talk to her and convince her what is a good way. Accept your fatherly duties and guide her instead of forcing her.

                                          Open bathroom door, no. Bedroom door possibly but not the bathroom.
                                          Checking her devices is an absolute no. Restricting erotic content is ok, but she should have input on that.
                                          Observing her orgasms, wtf no way! If she’s allowed the break it’s her free time leave her be. Lights out at 10, not a bad idea.
                                          4 per year? Why that arbitrary number? One a week, two weeks, monthly can be performance based and adequate to relieve the tension. Or IF she agrees, none at all.
                                          That’s my input on those suggestions

                                          I will add my thoughts on your proposed rules.
                                          A consistent bedtime is a good idea for everyone's health. 10PM is a reasonable time for young adults with later time on Friday and Saturday.
                                          If you are supervising your daughter's belt because she has agreed for its help, then you should mutually agree on the frequency of her organisms. It seems creepy and wrong for you to want to watch when they are permitted. What is the purpose for this?
                                          It seems unnecessary and improper for someone to watch an 18 year old while they shower to prevent masturbation. It is just as effective to limit the amount of time spent in the shower. And it saves on hot water.
                                          Inspecting cell phones is also unnecessary and, as other have stated, an invasion of the privacy of an adult. There are parental monitoring apps that are available that will block access to objectional material and report material that you want to forbid. The continued presence of the apps on the phone can be verified without inspecting the phone.
                                          I am in favor of parents (or others) helping people be accountable when they want the help. Forcing unwanted help on independent adults is likely a mistake.

                                          @StrictButCorrectFather

                                          i forgot the most important thing, what does your daughter think about your ideas for the rules? would she agree with one or more of your ideas? i think you've got a few opinions here now, discuss it with the person it concerns

                                          what you are doing is unacceptable. if she did not agree to it, you are commiting a crime by putting her in a chastity belt. if she has revoked consent, you are commiting a crime. It does not matter that the entire point of chastity is that the person has no control. This is irrelevant to consent law in almost every part of the world. if she only agreed to it for a specified amount of time and that amount of time is over then you are committing a crime. Actually no it's a crime either way since you're in a place of authority so it is as such statutory rape.

                                          I am solely on this forum to prevent cases of abuse.