Angelina I know that she has to decide for herself, and if she is happy with it, it is also ok for me 😉

It's not that I have a choice anyway. So it doesn't matter if I like it or not. It's not to question in our family and I am happy that Daniel may get some access. Better then nothing.

    Sara2001

    Did you talk to your father, can Daniel get access?

    of course you have a choice you are 18 and it is your money 😉

    but i understand why you don't want that, it's the same as with our belts, we want to keep the family peace 😉

      Angelina but i understand why you don't want that, it's the same as with our belts, we want to keep the family peace 😉

      Exactly. Turning 18 is not different if you want your family stays intact.

        Sara2001

        Did your father ever explain to you why he didn't want you to have access to your money?

          Sara2001 Are you a Muslim by any chance? Women are not allowed to pay there themselves.

            Angelina

            I don't think especially positively about it,but I can understand the idea;even if I think it is a very uncommon rule.

            Sara2001 I am happy that Daniel may get some access. Better then nothing.

            Sure.And it seems he would be less strict than your father.

            Sara2001 Exactly. Turning 18 is not different if you want your family stays intact.

            Same for several of us.

              Angelina Did your father ever explain to you why he didn't want you to have access to your money?

              Yes, because his experience is that there is more harmony in the family/relationship if the man makes the descisions and the woman follow. That's the basic premise behind everything.

              Renita Sara2001 Are you a Muslim by any chance? Women are not allowed to pay there themselves

              No, Christians but no strong.

                Vanessa if I think it is a very uncommon rule

                I thought many of us have to ask before they buy bigger things, it's just more strict in my family.

                  Sara2001 Yes, because his experience is that there is more harmony in the family/relationship if the man makes the descisions and the woman follow.

                  It works only if woman doesn't make money.

                  Sara2001 Yeah thats cause if the girls think its unfair and speak up, they get an extra hour of cornertime and a spanking with a hairbrush on Sundays 🤭

                    BikelockFugitive

                    @Renita

                    i don't think any muslima has the name sara 😉

                    @Vanessa

                    there is in my opinion nothing to understand it is simply wrong, very wrong 🙁

                    @Sara2001

                    yes i have to ask before i want to buy bigger things, but it's not my money, it's my father's money. you have your own money, that's something completely different

                    this is an absolutely wrong and stupid reason, i will ask my father what he thinks of such a reason . sorry but your father could have at least come up with a reasonable reason 🙁

                      Sara2001 Yes, because his experience is that there is more harmony in the family/relationship if the man makes the descisions and the woman follow. That's the basic premise behind everything.

                      Is it your boyfriend's opinion too,or would you be more free on some aspects when married(not about chastity,nor,totally,money,but maybe on other parts)?

                      Sara2001 I thought many of us have to ask before they buy bigger things, it's just more strict in my family.

                      Yes,for things expensive,I've to ask before.

                      BikelockFugitive Yeah thats cause if the girls think its unfair and speak up, they get an extra hour of cornertime and a spanking with a hairbrush on Sundays 🤭

                      Generally,as long as it is done calmly and with respect,I dont' think it would be the case.Except if they insist too much after a clear "No.",maybe...

                      Angelina there is in my opinion nothing to understand it is simply wrong, very wrong 🙁

                      We can disagree,but try to undertsand his idea!😉

                      Angelina this is an absolutely wrong and stupid reason, i will ask my father what he thinks of such a reason . sorry but your father could have at least come up with a reasonable reason 🙁

                      It could be interesting;but let's hope it doesn't give him ideas!

                        Vanessa Is it your boyfriend's opinion too,or would you be more free on some aspects when married(not about chastity,nor,totally,money,but maybe on other parts)?

                        This is the main concept behind a male led relationship and for Daniel it is not a question that he will become the male leader and that it is the job of the mail leader to make any decisions and that it is his job to always give my interest the top priority.

                        I think this is a very difficult job. Much more difficult then obeying.

                        I think I will be as restricted as I am now, just some parts will be less strict while others will be more strict. But I think a common misunderstanding in the concept for outsiders is that I am regularly not allowed to do many things. An example is that I need permission to go out. My father would never deny my request without a good reason nor would Daniel. If I want to go out and I have done my tasks for the day, I can of course go out. I just have to ask permission before.

                        Renita It may not be her real name

                        It is 🙂 I'm not a muslima and I know Sarah is a common name in Iran but my name is Sara 🙂

                          Sara2001 I know Sarah is a common name in Iran

                          It's common name everywhere 🙂

                            @Vanessa

                            my father would never deny me access to my money 😉

                            @Sara2001

                            it's something completely different whether you want to go out or want your money, I think that's not a good comparison 🙁

                              Angelina it's something completely different whether you want to go out or want your money, I think that's not a good comparison 🙁

                              The rule is as simple as I say. My father has the final saying about absolutely everything. End of the story. In some aspects I can decide on my own until my father has other ideas (like clothes in a defined range), for most things I have to ask in advance.

                                Sara2001

                                i have understood your rules, up to a certain point i live by such rules myself, but your father must realize when he goes too far

                                  Angelina i have understood your rules, up to a certain point i live by such rules myself, but your father must realize when he goes too far

                                  I think my father draws the red line at another position then you 🙂

                                    Sara2001

                                    well people are not all the same, I hope you can cope with this system 😉 (even if it's hard for me to accept it)