Parents and pocket money
Angelina Why can't you have your own money?
My father just wants to know what I spend my money for so I don't buy anything he disapproves with. In my family only the mans have access direct access to money.
Angelina What about the money you make in your education? Can you keep that?
It is saved for me on a bank account but I don't have access to my account. Something I have to spend money for something I don't want to buy but is for my use like the new tightbands.
The good thing is, now Daniel has to pay most of our expenses. I am allowed to buy the train tickets to him from my money, therefore my father puts money on my prepaid credit card from my bank account.
Not a bad rule.Being drunk is never a good idea.
He never ask you what you were buying with your money?
Sara2001 Something I have to spend money for something I don't want to buy but is for my use like the new tightbands.
Not a pleasant way to spend your money!
Angelina honestly, i don't think that's good from your father. you've earned the money, it's your money. you're of age and your father can't keep your money from you, i absolutely don't think it's in order.
I pretty agree.When it was him who gave her some money,well,I can understand he wanted to control what she does with it,but not with her salary.
Laura Agree. She can open her own account, go to a company's accountant and change destination any time. That's all.
I think it would put her in troubles...
It won't be a bad compromise,yes.
When married,would you be free to use money as you like,or would it be your husband who would give you some money,no more than needed?
Angelina I'm just worried that it might lower the motivation to finish your training successfully
what is it like when you have finished your training ?
I want a good education. Money is not my main motivation. I never had free access to money my whole life, so I don't know how it would be and don't really miss it.
It will stay like this even when I finished it and start normal work.
Vanessa Not a pleasant way to spend your money!
Definitely, but my father thinks it's for me so my money can be used and that I take better care of it when I know I have to pay for a replacement.
Vanessa I think it would put her in troubles...
It counts als GIGANTIC disobedience.
Vanessa When married,would you be free to use money as you like,or would it be your husband who would give you some money,no more than needed?
This is a question I have to clarify with Daniel but to be honest probably yes.
Vanessa If they look at her account,they would notice there is no more income...
Exactly.
@Vanessa
i only have a small pocket money of 50 euro, if i want something bigger, i have to ask my father, i get almost everything from him, but yes then he wants to know what i want
with small things I buy from my pocket money not 
i think sara's father may know what she spends her money on, but i think sara must have free access to her own money 
@Sara2001
at the latest when you have finished your education, i think it is imperative that you have it yourself, there is no discussion for me, because then you earn much more money than in education. even if money is not everything, i find that your father goes too far with it, especially because you are already of age.
sorry but also for Daniel I would have no understanding then if he wants to dispose of your money, he should work for it himself. you go to work and you own the money . I am really very sad and angry about it
Buff...
It is very complicated. We are looking the issue with our optics, and Sara is different of us.
I like dominant men, but, the needs of Sarah are very farther than mine.
So probably she would be happy allowing her man control the financial part too.
So I think we should avoid the "you should" "you should not".
Everybody here is different, starting for me, I only known my women family approach, so read some things here shocked me. Sarah stories are the most shocking for me... But...
If she is happy...
Sara2001 I want a good education. Money is not my main motivation.
Good way to think and manage it.
Sara2001 Definitely, but my father thinks it's for me so my money can be used and that I take better care of it when I know I have to pay for a replacement.
Understandable,but probably not easy when it is used for buying things to increase your chastity!
Sara2001 It counts als GIGANTIC disobedience.
Not surprising.
Sara2001 This is a question I have to clarify with Daniel but to be honest probably yes.
It would be hard to not be allowed to use money freely even after getting married!More than it is now,I think.
Angelina with small things I buy from my pocket money not
Good he trust you to use it wisely.
Angelina at the latest when you have finished your education, i think it is imperative that you have it yourself, there is no discussion for me, because then you earn much more money than in education. even if money is not everything, i find that your father goes too far with it, especially because you are already of age.
As long as it is kept on an account for her,and he doesn't use it for himself,I would understand(but not agree with)it,and,at least,she doesn't lose it.
Angelina sorry but also for Daniel I would have no understanding then
I think too,it should be different when married,however.
I'm not sure she's happy about it...But accept it.
Ines Buff...
It is very complicated. We are looking the issue with our optics, and Sara is different of us.
I like dominant men, but, the needs of Sarah are very farther than mine.
So probably she would be happy allowing her man control the financial part too.
So I think we should avoid the "you should" "you should not".
Everybody here is different, starting for me, I only known my women family approach, so read some things here shocked me. Sarah stories are the most shocking for me... But...
If she is happy...
Thank you for the nice comment. I can fully agree with it.
How is my situation: I never had access to money my whole life beside money I got to directly buy something. Like I was sent to the supermarket with a list of I was allowed to go to the cinema and I got the money for it.
I have to say that I don't miss it very much, but of course I had no problem if my father or Daniel would give me access to my bank account.
It is just not common to do something like this in our families. This doesn't mean that I work for it and he buys something nice for himself. It only means he is in control of it but has to take care of my wishes and needs and has not to be selfish like with any other point in my life where I submit.
A leader must act responsible with the power he has or I will stop the relationship. It's the same for rules, chastity belt, money, orders I get and any other restriction I can think of.