Reasons for chastity

Hiding is not lying

Too bad your father feels differently 🙁

Vanessa

If you can't keep it secret without feeling guilty,it is more an advantage,to get a lighter one.

It is a bit different,you would get an harder one instead of a normal one,while @Angelina may get a lighter one instead of a normal one.

My parents too.And it is often the case,I think.

Sara2001 Yes, our families are different in this aspect but I can totally understand my fathers position.

My parents have the same opinion,considering lying,and I can undearstand it too.

Had you considered adding a similar rule?

Sara2001

Angelina Hiding is not lying

Yes, our families are different in this aspect but I can totally understand my fathers position. For the same reason my rules always cover the idea behind something and not only the exact wording.

Angelina

i understand why your father thinks so and i have often wondered if this is the right thing for us, but we succeed with this special rule 😉

Angelina

no we have never thought about adding penalties for silence. my father wants to give me an incentive to freely admit a mistake.

and one week grounded is better than 3 weeks grounded or? 😉

Vanessa

You get only 1 week of grounding if you admit something that would be punished by 3 weeks of grounding?It is a way lesser punishment!

What are you restricted to do when grounded?Only going out and spending time with friends(and Camryn),or some leisures are taken away too(watching TV,listening music,going on the net...)?

Angelina

yes it is a much easier punishment, so I often use this chance 😉

most of the time i have to write a long essay about my misbehaviour, it has to be finished by the end of the week, as long as i can do that i am allowed to do everything, but i am not allowed to have any personal contact with camryn or my friends during this time (only phone, writing etc.)

Vanessa

It is worth telling the truth,if it is so reduced,sure.

Even if writing an essay,and no meeting with friends or girlfriend is not pleasant,it is not too hard.In my case,if the grounding is severe,I've not much leisures left.But the first thing taken off during grouding is meeting my friends and Emilie,and then,cell phone/net taken away.

Sara2001

Vanessa I have similar rules if grounded. I am normally limited to my room or have to do chores in the house. I am normally not allowed to use the internet, tv, music or my phone. I am only allowed to stay in contact with others by phone once a day, supervised by my father. In my family grounding should be boring and if I am to bored, I can ask for tasks in the household.

Vanessa

Same for me.Being boring is part of the punishment.I could do more household tasks too,or studying(even if not a student anymore,if grounded,I can still ask for reviewing my lessons).

Does your boyfriend have special privileges and can meet you if you're grounded?

But when the essay is done,you can have a not so bad grounding.

Angelina

my father always says that i must comply with the punishment, but i may continue to use everything else, of course i am restricted to my room and may only leave it if my father allows

but mostly the essays are very long and i have little time for tv/online etc. 🙁

Angelina

the essay should be the main part of the punishment once i have finished writing it and my father has accepted it i may do what i want but i must stay in my room until the end of the punishment

Vanessa

Do you often manage to finish it several days before the end of your grounding?

Prevented to meet friends and girlfirend,and staying in your room,is not pleasant,sure,but it seems you can have a lot of leisure to manage your grounding pretty well.

Angelina

mostly i need almost to the end to finish the essay, 🙁

but you're right, it does make it more pleasant if I can take a break 🙂

Vanessa

So,even if you've leisures,you can't use them much...

Are you allowed to take breaks even if your essay is not finished?

Angelina

unfortunately yes 🙁

i am allowed to take a break, my father tells me what and how much i have to write and then i have to organize the time myself

Vanessa

What happen if you haven't finished the essay before the end of the grounding?

Angelina

then I am still grounded until the essay is finished. As I said before, the essay is the main part of the punishment, not the house arrest

Vanessa

It is understandable.He mainly want you to think about the rule you've broken during the punishment.The grounding is more a side effect,right?

It is easier to understand why you're not restricted too much about leisure,so.

In my case,the grounding is part of the punishment,not a side effect.And very boring...

Angelina