Sex on the first date

Renita

Christine I can imagine what your mom thinks.

Vanessa

Renita

Probably like the parents of must of us here.

Angelina

Vanessa

we would calmly discuss when she will wear the cb and then write a contract 😉

Vanessa

Angelina

A good way to act.You will use contracts with your sons and daughters,too?

Christine

Maybe because we're of the same age,and with a similar situation(wearing a chastity belt permanently,with secondary shield on,and reluctantly)! 😉

Good you had the opportunity too.🙂

Christine

Angelina me too, maybe the cb was the right decision

Fortunately I had the opportunity earlier like @Vanessa .

Vanessa I agree !

Thank you. We are on the same page.

Angelina

Christine

even if I don't believe in sex on the first date, I can assure you that it was just a joke and I am not judging you 😉

Christine

Vanessa Maybe because we're of the same age,and with a similar situation

Coz our parents found chastity belts later on.

Angelina

Vanessa

definitely 😉

it has helped me a lot and I would do the same with my children, so that they behave better and prevent parental arbitrariness 🙂

Laura

Christine Coz our parents found chastity belts later on.

Do you think you would have worn a belt if she had found it before your marriage?
I hope this forum will let parents know about this option for their daughter when she starts dating

Vanessa

Christine

In my case,I wear it since several years(as punishment at first)but wear it permanently "only" since a bit more than 2 years and half,now.

Angelina

It seems it worked for you,so not a bad idea to act the same.

Laura I hope this forum will let parents know about this option for their daughter when she starts dating

If we give them ideas,I hope they'll discuss with them,not decide for them!😉

You're for letting them self-pleasure if they aren't dating,so?If yes,an abstinence belt would be a better advice!😉

Angelina

Laura I hope this forum will let parents know about this option for their daughter when she starts dating

please do not, if you are successful with it we will soon have many new girls in the forum 😂

Christine

Laura Do you think you would have worn a belt if she had found it before your marriage?

Ofc. It's pity for her.

Laura

Vanessa If yes,an abstinence belt would be a better advice!

Of course, I would suggest an abstinence belt for this purpose

Angelina

Laura

i think using the cb as a abstinence belt is an option that i would discuss with my daughter when she goes out with a boy

I wouldn't locked her completely, even if she wanted to.

but the most important thing is that the daughter agrees 😉

Vanessa

Laura

It would be easier to accept.

Angelina

Good idea.I would maybe suggest something similar to my daughter(if I've one)when she would start dating.

It makes masturbating,and so,relieving the urges,still possible,but can help her to manage the asking of her boyfriend,if he would insists(same if she would have a girlfriend);no need to explain why to wait,she woud be belted and would not have the keys,so,she couldn't.

Of course,if,after some time,she would be ready for this,we would have a talk and I would let her go to the next date with one of the keys in her purse(and a condom).

However,if she would want to be locked completely,with a chastity belt,we would have a a talk about it,and I would accept if she's sure she wants this.But we would have to make an agrement about it to not ask me to take it on and off depending on her urges.Maybe a minimum time of wearing,or not wearing it again for some time after it is taken off...But it is very unlikely she would ask me to be completely locked.

And,in both cases,only if she would agree,of course.

Laura

Angelina I wouldn't locked her completely, even if she wanted to.

Why?

Vanessa .I would maybe suggest something similar to my daughter(if I've one)when she would start dating.

But you are going to marry to Emilie, not to a guy. Maybe you should take this into account.
Same for @Angelina

Vanessa but can help her to manage the asking of her boyfriend,if he would insists(same if she would have a girlfriend);no need to explain why to wait,she woud be belted and would not have the keys,so,she couldn't.

That's the best option if she agrees

Vanessa But we would have to make an agrement about it to not ask me to take it on and off depending on her urges.

She can always put it on without asking you

Ines

Sara2001
It is written in prospect in the risks and adverse effects. You have to make breaks every X time, to avoid it.
It has several secondary effects.
Reading in the page of the Spanish Institute of Nursery:
A use without breaks:

20% more of risk of breast cancer
60% cervix cancer
15% of colon and rectum cancer

Statistic of 116.000 nurses that sign for study since 1989.

So, carefully with it, and always under medical supervision.

Angelina

Ines So, carefully with it, and always under medical supervision.

there are gynecologists for that 😉

honestly, there are of course always driven, but it is a contraceptive which has been used by women all over the world for several decades

Vanessa

Laura But you are going to marry to Emilie, not to a guy. Maybe you should take this into account.
Same for @Angelina

Not a problem,I think.

Laura That's the best option if she agrees

I think too.

Laura She can always put it on without asking you

But if she would keep the key,it wouldn't be useful.And I can put the chastity belt in a locked closet.

Angelina i would do the same, but only with her consent 🙂 if my daughter asked me for a complete closure, i would have a conversation with her about whether she knows what she is doing and is aware of the consequences. my daughter would then also remain locked

Yes,she would have to be sure to understand very well what it means,and accept she couldn't take it off as soon as she would want it(we could decide for a safeword,but using it would mean not using her chastity belt this way again before a long time).

Sara2001

Good plan.

But condoms and side effects should be explained even if she wouldn't plan to have sex on first date,but later,while still not married.😉

Angelina if she asked me, i would talk to her about it and then make a decision, but i find it very hard to imagine my daughter coming to me and saying: mom i want to be completely closed off so i can't have sex and can't masturbate

It can happen.Can't have sex:if she wants to remain virgin until marriage;can't masturbate:if she thinks she does it too much.Or if she feels masturbating and having sex should both be kept for her sexual activity with her husband after marriage,like @Ines.If she fears she won't be able to do it,a chastity belt can help her.

Angelina she can do that without cb 😉

Yes,but it can be harder.

Angelina interesting, i thought Daniel would definitely want your daughter to wear a cb

Me too.Good he shares her opinion.

Angelina

Ines' informations are a bit worrying,but I think gynecologists and even general doctors can advise us to use safer ones.

Sara2001

Angelina honestly, there are of course always driven, but it is a contraceptive which has been used by women all over the world for several decades

I think the psychological side effects of a chastity belt, especially when it is forced, are MUCH higher.

Christine

Mom thinks he is not supposed to know about the belt on the first date.

Angelina

Christine

not on the first date, but if it goes well, you will have to explain it soon 😉

Vanessa

Christine

Sure,in our parents' opinion,it should not go farer than a kiss on the first date(or even less).

But they're not totally wrong;if he/she knows it,it won't lead to sex(as we're prevented to do it),but it is risked.There is not much chance to be sure he/she won't talk about it with other people(except,maybe,if you were friends before dating,meaning you can know each other pretty well).

Angelina

I agree.

Angelina

Vanessa

i think it is generally very difficult, even if it goes well, he might expect too much and would be very disappointed if it would not be possible 🙁

Laura

Vanessa Sure,in our parents' opinion,it should not go farer than a kiss on the first date(or even less).

I agree with it, a girl shouldn't let him go below waist on the first date regardless if she wears a belt or not

Vanessa here is not much chance to be sure he/she won't talk about it with other people

Another reason for right behavior to not be ashamed later

Angelina he might expect too much and would be very disappointed

She shouldn't create such expectations

Renita

Vanessa re is not much chance to be sure he/she won't talk about it with other people

However it could be good for her reputation in the long run.

Christine

Vanessa There is not much chance to be sure he/she won't talk about it with other people

That's her goal.

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