Sara2001 I don't like the idea of a safeword for this. A safeword means that it is still my final descision. I think a keyholder must see situations of emergency when the belt needs to be removed. I don't have a safeword nowadays, why should I need one after marriage?
If you haven't one,you have no reason to get one after marriage,sure.But if you can accept it without any risk of distress,panic,and such,and the emergencies are taken care of properly(immediate unbelting),it can be useless.
Sara2001 I think life changes permanently and any descision can be redone any time. Nobody knows how we feel in 5 or 10 years. I think changes like this with a big impact on your lifestyle should have some kind of waiting period. Like when we decide, that we don't want the belt anymore, there should be a period of one or two months where anything stays at it is, and if we still feel the same after these months, we chould do the change.
The waiting period is a good idea.
Do you think the rules/decisions should be think about again on a specific schedule(like every year,every 5 years,etc...)to decide if we keep it the same way or change it,or only when one of the partner ask to redone one of the rules/decision?
Sara2001 I think that's how it should be. As the wearer you often have "short time" wishes and the system must ensure, that you stay happy, not that you can get out of the belt whenever you want. It's the keyholders descision to release you or not. I don't want to have any kind of final saying in it, I think it would work, because I would use my power to easy.
Mainly,yes.But I think there is some cases(especially if the wearer is emotionally hurt),which requires an unbelting,and a calmer talk.Even if the belt is put back on right after the talk.
If the wearer feels her keyholder doesn't care of her feelings,even if she feels very bad and is hurted emotionally,I don't think it would work.Not for long,at least.
Sara2001 For an obvious emergency, no safeword should be needed. I would never give the key to someone that doesn't know me well enough to see an emergency.
Ines Comprehension and tenderness is what I need! 🙃
Not sure it is always enough.Especially if the belt stays on during the talk and comforting.
Angelina this is exactly what i mean, the belt should not cause any psychological damage, especially if it is based on a voluntary basis 😉
But if she feels trapped,and no care taken to make her feels better,I think it would fail.Even if she started to wear it voluntarily.