Ann, my girlfriend, said she wants it to be sure, I behave. My sexdrive is a bit stronger than hers.

Not that I need it. And we definitely have a well balanced relationship, I hope. But I am definitely more often in the mood than her. So she sometimes gets a bit annoyed, when I try to tease and push her. (often I overdo it, because I know it drives her nuts. And occasionally I just have my own fun.)

I know it sounds stupid and silly. But since I know, she actually is serious about it and started researching it a bit more, I have to admit, I started to get intrigued a bit too. She promised me, I can pick it as long as it secure. Hope I won't regret it too soon though!

    Zoe but I would like to wear one that looks nice as well as beeing as comfortable as possible.

    I don't have any complaints about mine from that side.

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        Christine Which one are you wearing, if you don't mind me asking?

        I am kinda thinking about one from my-steel. But open to any suggestions, really.

            Zoe Which one are you wearing, if you don't mind me asking?

            My-steel hips style with the secondary shield.

                Zoe

                hi welcome here 🙂

                will you both wear a belt?
                What about breaks for cleaning, masturbation, sex, etc.?

                i wear a mysteel waist style belt which is very comfortable but also very safe and not cheap

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                  Hi Angelina,

                  Thanks for having me here.

                  The deal is, she has to wear one, when I wear mine. We'll both hold the keys for the other ones belt.

                  But I have no doubt, I will be the one suffering more 🥺.

                  Well, I hope she won't be patient enough to keep me belted 24/7. But she definitely knows when I get itchy. So no doubt she'll make sure I won't be able to scratch my itch without her.
                  🙄

                    Zoe

                    i think it can be a great proof of your love if you wear one but it must be voluntary and you must not be pushed to do anything

                        Zoe

                        Welcome!

                        You can lose some freedom,the possibility to get orgasm when you desperately want one...

                        But to answer your question,I've to wear a My-Steel chastity belt(with cable at the rear),waist style,and it is very secure and as comfortable as a chastity belt can be,I think.

                        Zoe

                        She may accept you masturbate enough to reduce your sex drive and make it match her...

                        Zoe I am kinda thinking about one from my-steel.

                        Good idea.

                        Christine My-steel hips style with the secondary shield.

                        I think hips style would be better(and allow more clothes,including some sexy ones).

                        Zoe

                        Both wearing one at the same time is pretty romantic,I think!🙂

                        Even if it would be harder for you,if your sex drive is stronger...But you could have some revenge when she would be very aroused and you would keep her locked...Maybe she would think about freeing you a bit more after having felt it a few times!😉

                        Angelina

                        I agree.

                                      Zoe Ann, my girlfriend, said she wants it to be sure, I behave. My sexdrive is a bit stronger than hers.

                                      A secondary shield is mandatory. Mine is Neosteel waist.

                                      Zoe The deal is, she has to wear one, when I wear mine. We'll both hold the keys for the other ones belt.

                                      I was always wondering why couples never wear belts this way. So you will be the first.

                                            Vanessa But you could have some revenge when she would be very aroused and you would keep her locked...Maybe she would think about freeing you a bit more after having felt it a few times!

                                            I love that idea. I'll definitely try this! =)

                                            Vanessa Both wearing one at the same time is pretty romantic,I think!

                                            I feel the same at the moment.

                                            Renita I was always wondering why couples never wear belts this way. So you will be the first.

                                            Well, it is not an easy topic as deciding to wear a friendship bracelet.

                                            We definitely had quite a rollercoaster ride until I got to this point. As I said, initially I thought she was joking. When she mentioned it again a couple of weeks later I pretended I did not hear it. But I had quite the sleepless night questioning if Ann does trust me. What I have dones, that she doesnt. I am sure you can imagine the arguing voices in my head. And of course, I was already in fighting mode when I raised the topic the next morning. (needless to say that sleepdeprivation was not helpful either.) The worst fight we ever had since my emotions definitely had taken over my brain.

                                            A few weeks later when we were watching TV and cuddled, she started it again. At this point my brain was in "Ok, I am listening!". At the end I really aaaaw... this actually is quite romantic. And we started to look at a couple of websites.

                                            Angelina i think it can be a great proof of your love if you wear one but it must be voluntary and you must not be pushed to do anything

                                            I have no doubt, I can stop it, if I really want to. My ego will make sure I am not qutting on a whimp though. (And the fact that if I quit first, I have to cook dinner for a month. I hate cooking. I am utter rubbish at it. So this definitely will motivate a bit too. Gosh it sucks when people know your weak spots x) ! )

                                                      Zoe

                                                      by both of you wearing a belt, you can support each other, even though you may need a little more support than she does 😃

                                                      have you already ordered a belt? if so, what did you decide on?

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                                                          Angelina

                                                          Angelina have you already ordered a belt? if so, what did you decide on?

                                                          I have put the my-steel total with pink silicon in my basket a few times. But hesitated to click buy sofar.

                                                          I can't decide between waist or hip style. And i am still not sure this is a good choice. Having said this, i like this one best at the moment.

                                                                Zoe

                                                                this is exactly the belt i wear, i also have pink silicone 🙂

                                                                it is very comfortable but 100% safe i have waist style but i have no experience with hip style

                                                                of course it is hard for you, maybe you should do it together with your girlfriend 😉

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                                                                    Angelina this is exactly the belt i wear, i also have pink silicone 🙂

                                                                    it is very comfortable but 100% safe i have waist style but i have no experience with hip style

                                                                    Phew! Thank you! This makes it a lot easier.

                                                                    Angelina of course it is hard for you, maybe you should do it together with your girlfriend

                                                                    Will have another night sleep over it and then tell Ann I made a decission tomorrow morning. I've already whatsapped her the picture. You should have seen her smile when she looked at it =)

                                                                          Zoe You should have seen her smile when she looked at it =)

                                                                          😉

                                                                            Zoe I can't decide between waist or hip style.

                                                                            Hips style is the new trend. I also think to replace mine.

                                                                                Renita I was always wondering why couples never wear belts this way. So you will be the first.

                                                                                I think too it can be more fair and romantic(as long as it is voluntarily for both).

                                                                                Zoe I love that idea. I'll definitely try this! =)

                                                                                😉

                                                                                Zoe few weeks later when we were watching TV and cuddled, she started it again. At this point my brain was in "Ok, I am listening!". At the end I really aaaaw... this actually is quite romantic. And we started to look at a couple of websites.

                                                                                It was some stormy discussions at the start,but ended well!😉

                                                                                Wearing one both is her idea?

                                                                                Zoe I have no doubt, I can stop it, if I really want to. My ego will make sure I am not qutting on a whimp though. (And the fact that if I quit first, I have to cook dinner for a month. I hate cooking. I am utter rubbish at it. So this definitely will motivate a bit too. Gosh it sucks when people know your weak spots x) ! )

                                                                                Good you can stop it,and I like the "penalty" for doing this!😉

                                                                                Zoe the my-steel total with pink silicon

                                                                                Good one!🙂 What type of rear?

                                                                                Zoe I can't decide between waist or hip style.

                                                                                If you want an advice,I think hip style would be better.Easier to hide,and allowing more clothes.

                                                                                Zoe Will have another night sleep over it and then tell Ann I made a decission tomorrow morning. I've already whatsapped her the picture. You should have seen her smile when she looked at it =)

                                                                                Has she choosen her,too?

                                                                                I understand she's happy to know you're ready to do it.🙂

                                                                                Laura

                                                                                Your parents are ok for this one?

                                                                                                  Vanessa

                                                                                                  Vanessa Wearing one both is her idea?

                                                                                                  To be honest, I am not sure. I know, that screamed at her that if she is so obsessed with it, she should wear it.

                                                                                                  She suggested it, when she realsied I was close to commiting to wearing one the night on the couch.

                                                                                                  I've been wondering many times, how she got the idea to put me in one in first place and how she knows this kind of underwear actually exists. But I am still not brave enough to ask those questions :s.

                                                                                                  Vanessa Good you can stop it,and I like the "penalty" for doing this!

                                                                                                  This will be a penalty for both of us. You should see the panic in our friends eyes, when I ask them whether they fancy coming over for dinner. And the relief when Ann says, she'll cook. x)

                                                                                                  Vanessa Good one!🙂 What type of rear?

                                                                                                  The continious rear belt. The chains and thin tube looking like rear are giving me the shivers for some reason.

                                                                                                  Vanessa If you want an advice,I think hip style would be better.Easier to hide,and allowing more clothes.

                                                                                                  That's strangely the most difficult part of the decison making process. I am really tall and slim. So wondering if the waist version gives is a bit more hold. But on the other side, with the hip version I definitely would be more flexible with cloth.

                                                                                                  Is there is difference in the feel of wearing it?

                                                                                                  Vanessa Has she choosen her,too?

                                                                                                  She is wavering between neosteel and the my-steel comfort with chains

                                                                                                  Vanessa I understand she's happy to know you're ready to do it.

                                                                                                  She definitely is. =) And I am really glad she did not push me. But gave me the time and space.

                                                                                                                  @Zoe
                                                                                                                  First, interesting idea to have fun together and tease one another.
                                                                                                                  Second, from reading online in other places, I think the hip style would be better, but I'm a guy, so I can't say for sure. Plus, you have better chances to hide it with most pants and other leg wear. As for the rear, I don't know, since there are many different things, but make sure you can clean properly.

                                                                                                                  If you do have punishments planned, look up accessories like thighbands or things to attach on the inside of the belt, it'll make your dares... interesting. 😏 But yeah. a bit TMI there, so I'll leave it at that.

                                                                                                                  Finally, if you are absolutely sure you want to try out a belt, take plenty of time to decide before buying. Get plenty of time to adjust to the belt, reshape, bend, etc, so you could wear it for extended periods of times. Most of all, welcome to the forum, I just saw some of your posts, so congrats on the trusting relationship and the shared secrets you'll be sharing, sounds like a joyful kind of play. (I guess you are the first official couple on here to use chastity as foreplay, if that's what you want to call it, but with both of you giving consent) Good luck and have fun!