Telling others about your belt

Max9

Angelina problematic question would be to explain why i am wearing the equipment.

Tell them it's a fetish game between you and your girlfriend. I mean, being a fetishist isn't something bad, just like it isn't bad to be bisexual... when they are liberal enough about you being engaged with a girl they will also be liberal enough to you telling them to be a fetishist.

Angelina

Joh You did it at the forum already. You have only to repeat it to them. All argument you know.

here in the forum i am still very anonymous although i write a lot about myself. many of my friends know my father and i am afraid of getting him into trouble.

Max9 Tell them it's a fetish game between you and your girlfriend. I mean, being a fetishist isn't something bad, just like it isn't bad to be bisexual... when they are liberal enough about you being engaged with a girl they will also be liberal enough to you telling them to be a fetishist.

the idea is not bad, but it would be a lie and i hate lies. my friends are too important to me to tell them a truth that is not true.

Vanessa You're in a relationship since a long time,you can tell it is a game.

See my answer above to @Max9

besides, what should i do when my friends ask camryn where the key is?

Vanessa

gwen One friend even asked to try it on, and my key holder agreed. I cleaned it up and she wore it over some shorts. She is close enough to my size that it fit her pretty well. I would not be surprised if she joined the club. 😂

It is not very uncommon to want to try it,it seems.

Did she like it?

Angelina I don't either, but it would be a big step forward for many people. 🙂

Sure!

Angelina and the forum 😉

Right!😉

Jen Say i take it off whenever I want

Which is currently not a lie in your case!😉

Foxies Knowledge of my chastity belt is now known by a few others and the result has been similar to Gwen's experience and they are now experimenting with chastity devices and enjoying doing so.

You started a fashion!😉

Foxies I still don't believe society as a whole is ready for our lifestyle though some progress has indeed been made.

I think you're right...

Angelina i can dress openly and talk openly with her when we are alone 🙂

Which can be helpful.

Saintprudence

Good!🙂

Angelina the problematic question would be to explain why i am wearing the equipment.

You're in a relationship since a long time,you can tell it is a game.

gwen This is where it gets weird. Being in a D/s dynamic does make it possible for me to start to experience some sexual feelings. If they chose to make sexuality part of our relationship, I become receptive to sexual interaction. This is where the chastity belt comes in.

So it is very useful for you,right?

gwen

Vanessa Did she like it?

Yes, but not enough to justify the cost. Her partner was also present, though, so there may have been more discussion after. I would no be surprised if I saw her in one in the future.

Vanessa So it is very useful for you,right?

Very useful indeed! Time will tell how it works out long term, but at this point I quite like how things are.

Vanessa

gwen Yes, but not enough to justify the cost. Her partner was also present, though, so there may have been more discussion after. I would no be surprised if I saw her in one in the future.

The outcome could be interesting,yes.

gwen at this point I quite like how things are.

So,good!🙂

Joh If you continue to explore yourself and topics which attracts you you will know it too.

I agree.

Angelina i am still very anonymous although i write a lot about myself.

It is precisely because it is anonymous that we can talk more easily about ourselves,I think.

Angelina the idea is not bad, but it would be a lie and i hate lies. my friends are too important to me to tell them a truth that is not true

If they discover it accidentally,what you would tell them?

Angelina besides, what should i do when my friends ask camryn where the key is?

That it is not their matter(in a more polite and nice way).

Joh

gwen
Thank you to get you insides.
I can understand what's going on with you, but I can't follow it. It's too far away from my own emotional world.
It's nice to read that you have found it and that you enrich your life with it.

gwen

Joh I can understand what's going on with you, but I can't follow it. It's too far away from my own emotional world.
It's nice to read that you have found it and that you enrich your life with it.

I've spent many years learning that standard shape, and I'm quite skilled at emulating it. But once I wrap up a few projects I'm taking a break. I'm eagerly looking forward to leaning into my submissive side more fully for some time.

One of the things I find a bit ironic is that the day to day of my life seems to be converging on the vision that @Sara2001 has described, yet our values seem almost entirely opposite! Isn't it a funny thought? 🤣 @Sara2001, I swear that I'm not copying you, but parallels do seem to be emerging.

Tonyand03 A punishment for one person can easily be a source of pleasure for another. Very often the difficulty is not about the the pleasure/fear/fetish itself, but living with it in a world that tries to mould you into a standard shape.

Wise words! Sometimes it pays to realize that one is a salmon, swimming against the stream. The way i sense the world seems quite different. A smell others might find pleasant overwhelms me, but yet I keep an 'evil stick' at my desk just in case I feel like indulging in a bit of sting.

Tonyand03 I'm glad that you're learning what works for you and finding happiness.

Thanks! The pandemic has been terrible, but at least it has given me time to sort some things out. I emerged much more knowledgeable about what makes me tick, and more able to communicate it with my partner and others. It takes much self reflection to figure oneself out when are so different than the norm 🙂

Tonyand03

gwen Something I've been previously aware of, but this forum has certainly confirmed, is that we are all wired differently. A punishment for one person can easily be a source of pleasure for another. Very often the difficulty is not about the the pleasure/fear/fetish itself, but living with it in a world that tries to mould you into a standard shape.
I'm glad that you're learning what works for you and finding happiness.

Tonyand03

gwen Thank you for your kind reply. I've found that being someone who doesn't fit well in society for a number of reasons (the classic square peg in a round hole) I tend to relate better to other 'misfits' than those who happily blend in with the crowd. I'm wondering if you have the same experience?
Ironically it seems that many in that position have developed quite brash personalities and as something of an introvert that makes me shy away.

Jen

gwen you know yourself so well 🙂

gwen

Jen you know yourself so well 🙂

I'm sure you're on pace to come out ahead of me. I am in my 30s, as @Joh mentioned, and have had a much greater number of failures to learn from 😃

Joh

No wonder. She is much older and spent time to find out who she is, what she likes and not etc.
If you continue to explore yourself and topics which attracts you you will know it too.

gwen

Tonyand03 I tend to relate better to other 'misfits' than those who happily blend in with the crowd. I'm wondering if you have the same experience?

Yes. It was very rough until I found other misfits.

Tonyand03 Ironically it seems that many in that position have developed quite brash personalities and as something of an introvert that makes me shy away.

I've found this to be complicated. For much of my life I clashed with the typical people, but never understood why. It took well into my adulthood to learn how to socialize with typical people.

However, getting along with other misfits required no such learning. They tend to communicate clearly. What others see as brashness, I see as honest candor. We also tend to be more forgiving of each others' shortcomings.

Joh

Angelina here in the forum i am still very anonymous although i write a lot about myself. many of my friends know my father and i am afraid of getting him into trouble.

Why? You are 18 and when you tell you agreed to wear it where is the problem?
And it is not a lie. You agreed to it otherwise you would have informed the authority already.

Angelina

Joh Why? You are 18 and when you tell you agreed to wear it where is the problem?

because it's not true, plus it would put a wrong light on my relationship with camryn. it's not something i can talk about without problems. my friends are very liberal, but if there's only one person who makes it problematic, then there can be problems.

Joh

Angelina
Sorry, you did agreed to the compromise. You decided for yourself that you will not face the consequences which could arise if you not agree. And you told us that you signed an agreement with your father whis the new rules.

Angelina

Joh Sorry, you did agreed to the compromise. You decided for yourself that you will not face the consequences which could arise if you not agree. And you told us that you signed an agreement with your father whis the new rules.

that's all true, but one has nothing to do with the other. you know how our society works, all it takes is one person to misinterpret that and my father and i would have big problems, so i prefer to keep quiet.

Vanessa It is precisely because it is anonymous that we can talk more easily about ourselves,I think.

especially because what i write here stays here in the forum and has no effect on the rest of my life.

Vanessa If they discover it accidentally,what you would tell them?

then i would use the excuse that i am wearing it for camryn. don't get me wrong, in an emergency yes, but i don't put it on that.

Vanessa That it is not their matter(in a more polite and nice way).

You can do it but you don't have to

Joh

Angelina my father and i would have big problems, so i prefer to keep quiet.

It is your life and your decision to make.

Angelina especially because what i write here stays here in the forum and has no effect on the rest of my life.

Hopefully.

gwen

Angelina what i write here stays here in the forum and has no effect on the rest of my life

Honestly, I wouldn't make that assumption. Most of the posts here are open to the web, which means they are being scanned by bots. The ability to correlate content to the author is already great, and improving over time.

I would not count on this forum is anonymous, or your identity will remaining secret forever.

Vanessa

Angelina then i would use the excuse that i am wearing it for camryn.

It seems wiser.

Angelina You can do it but you don't have to

Do what?Be nice and polite?

gwen

But it's unlikely that someone we know IRL know what we write here.

And,until now,I've not get any ads for chastity belts! 🤣

Angelina

Joh It is your life and your decision to make.

of course, but i don't really make this decision voluntarily but for opportunistic reasons. as a self-employed person, my father has to transfer the taxes to the tax office himself, does he like to do that? No! But he knows that otherwise he will go to jail. that doesn't mean that he pays taxes voluntarily.

gwen I would not count on this forum is anonymous, or your identity will remaining secret forever.

but most things stay here in the forum, of course not completely anonymous, but anonymous enough to say that no one from my circle of friends would find me here (unless he/she wears a belt himself/herself).

Vanessa And,until now,I've not get any ads for chastity belts! 🤣

neither i have 😉

Vanessa Do what?Be nice and polite?

no, to get into the situation of having to talk about it. because if i talk about the belt, the question will come shortly afterwards.

gwen

Vanessa And,until now,I've not get any ads for chastity belts! 🤣

That's honestly a pretty good thing to watch for. Very clever!

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