Jen yes even as I think most are stories - Ines I think commented that if it was real abuse they wouldn't have access to internet to tell the world. But even stories- people shouldn't be thinking like that.
Story does not imply fiction. Every time someone talks about events, whether they experienced them, relay them or thought them up themselves, they are telling a story. But yes, in communities like this one, it is hard to tell an outlandish fact for a well-written fiction. It is very easy though to tell the badly written fiction from fact.
As for the "real abuse" question, obviously abusive behavior is worse if there are effective measures against reaching out for help, but that does not mean everyone here who is locked up by the people supposed to care for them is being treated correctly and legally. Just because someone else is treated worse does not mean they are not mistreated, but having an out in involving (or threatening to involve) authorities does make the situation a bit more palatable.
Jen Yes this describes what I'm feeling like even if making deals - I get anxiety if not really staying in control as well. This is good I'll say this to them.
You are a legal adult, and your parents do not owe you the training. So I would argue that, as long as you are not being threatened into it, your chastity arrangement is consensual, but you should be making sure it stays that way. That you can step out of the agreement, even if it means there are consequences like having to return incentives. That means indefinite lockup in exchange for something that only lasts for a short time - like lessons, or a driving test or something - is out of line, as you cannot "return" those to settle any real or perceived debt that arises from not being willing to follow through with the arrangement.
