Should only females get belted?

GoodyProctor

Laura But why did you even start?

One of the reasons I'm so uncomfortable at the idea of belting in college is that my mother had a very specific plan for me in life, and I skipped pretty much all of it. There's a saying in the midwest: "women go to college to get their M.R.S. degree." I was supposed to go to college, find a nice christian man, marry, and start making babies by the time I was 21. Obviously I had different plans. If my mother had locked me up, I wouldn't have been able to follow any of my plans. And I'd be married and desperate and miserable right now. And knowing the kind of man my mother would have approved of, I'd still be locked up too. Me having free will was never part of the plan!

Laura

GoodyProctor my mother had a very specific plan for me in life, and I skipped pretty much all of it

And you did it just to spite her

GoodyProctor If my mother had locked me up, I wouldn't have been able to follow any of my plans.

Strange she didn't know about chastity belts at that time

HHelen

GoodyProctor It's not like the days when women's virginity was a valuable prize to be traded off to some man for a good marriage match.

And it's another reason for belting.

GoodyProctor Would you have accepted being locked in a belt by your parents when you were about to make your way in the world?

Yes, but I would have bargained more.

GoodyProctor One of the reasons I'm so uncomfortable at the idea of belting in college is that my mother had a very specific plan for me in life, and I skipped pretty much all of it. There's a saying in the midwest: "women go to college to get their M.R.S. degree." I was supposed to go to college, find a nice christian man, marry, and start making babies by the time I was 21. Obviously I had different plans.

Well said. It's enlightens all my concerns @Angelina and @Vanessa ask about.

GoodyProctor

Laura And you did it just to spite her

I did it because my plan for my life was not her plan for my life. I respect my parents, but I don't blindly obey them.

Laura Strange she didn't know about chastity belts at that time

It was the 1990s, they weren't that easy to come by! And my mother wasn't really in the kinds of circles where she'd hear about them. I only think about the college scenario now because it's a common reason for belting among the women here. My mother actually did use my college fund against me because I didn't want to stay Catholic and go to Notre Dame, so I paid my own way. If it was up to her I'd be a quiet housewife right now and depend on my man for support. Instead I'm married to the woman I want to be married to, I make enough money to support myself if needed, and if I want to spend the weekend in my sweats playing PS4, not a damn person can tell me not to. Everything I have in my life is because I want to, not because I have to.

Saintprudence

Laura And you did it just to spite her

It’s kind of a tragedy that Goody and I couldn’t have swapped lives. I would have loved to go to college as a woman and be kept locked the whole time. Alas, it’s a hypothetical — her mom wouldn’t have belted anyone back then. I but I have a little more appreciation for her mom’s strictness than she does!

The really weird thing is that my parents are long gone; both passed before I started to transition. But I think I would get along a lot better with my mom now and maybe even willingly handed off the keys to her.

Vanessa

Jen

I can understand you,it's not an easy decision.Both have pros and cons.

Personally,I had several experiences and I don't regret it,and it make me more skilled in sex.But being virgin during the wedding can be romantic too.Even if your husband isn't.

Mainly,I don't think others can't give good advices for you about it...It is a personal choice you would have to do.

MaximeJourennes

Yes,it seems easy.

I don't know what cage it is,it seems very classical.And many cages are similar(and I don't look at it closely,as my parents keep it in a closet when not used,so,if it can be looked,it is when it is on him...).

He doesn't have to wear it everyday,only if punished this way.

GoodyProctor Which is another thing I worry would have been suppressed with a belt.

Not necessarily,based on several members here(not including me,as I didn't wear the belt permanently at first).

Laura But why did you even start?

To try,I guess.

GoodyProctor they weren't that easy to come by!

Internet helped a lot about it,yes.

HHelen I would have bargained more.

For what?

Saintprudence

Me too...

Jen

Don't let it worry you too much,you're not going to marry tomorrow,probably,so you have time to decide.

Angelina You can discuss this with your brother 😉

It seems,with the right pants,it is ok.He has not to care about tops,length of the pants(well,he maybe not wear short shorts),etc...

Angelina think so too, but she seems to be able to convince her daughter of her will.

Difficult to say,with @HHelen's pretty cryptic answers,it is hard to know if her daughter is a convinced wearer or a reluctant wearer(probably not a willingly wearer)...

Angelina because I am not married yet 😉

But you said:

Angelina for my father, it's not the end of the world if i lose my virginity, it's about who i lose it to.

So,in fact,more than your partner,the most important fact for him is you're married,right?

Saintprudence

Jen Is it her lack of experience or the difference between you that bugs her?

I don’t mind Goody’s level of experience. I’m glad she’s enjoyed herself! My worry is that I feel like I missed out on most of my 20s because I was crippled by guilt over sex. A belt comes off eventually but guilt is forever.

Saintprudence

HHelen haha, I’m not sure if you’re saying you like Goody’s plan or her mom’s plan!

HHelen

Saintprudence haha, I’m not sure if you’re saying you like Goody’s plan or her mom’s plan!

I like to disrupt Goody's-like plan.

Vanessa For what?

For ordinary things that girls at this age need.

Jen

Joh Do not let yourself go crazy. Do what feels right for you.

Sorry I end up with thoughts going around and around and it is like there is no space and I need to get out - but what am I even getting out from...

Thankyou though. Mostly waiting feels right but I don't always know.

Joh

Jen Thankyou though. Mostly waiting feels right but I don't always know.

No one knows for sure at any time. I still do, even though I have more experience.

Angelina that is impossible in my opinion

The steady drop wears away the stone.

Vanessa Don't let it worry you too much,you're not going to marry tomorrow,probably,so you have time to decide.

Right.

Angelina

Joh Than try to change his thinking. 😁

that is impossible in my opinion 😂

Vanessa Don't you think cages are easier to hide?

You can discuss this with your brother 😉

Vanessa However,it seems it is @HHelen who wants it,not her daughter.

I think so too, but she seems to be able to convince her daughter of her will.

Vanessa Why he doesn't unlock your belt when you're alone with your girlfriend,so?

because I am not married yet 😉

Max9

@a_father I know you were recebtly asked the quesrion somewhere aleeady, but I couldn't find it anywhere... so... how about your children? Are they belted? Are they alllwed to masturbate? Do you make a difference berween your daughters and your son?

Angelina

Max9 Are they belted?

if @a_father's kids are belted , i'll eat a broom 🤣

Max9

Angelina I just can't remember all the peoples life story here

Angelina

Max9 I just can't remember all the peoples life story here

neither do i, but when someone launches such an open attack on chastity, it stays in the memory. 😂

Jen

Vanessa Don't let it worry you too much,you're not going to marry tomorrow,probably,so you have time to decide

Yeah thanks

Angelina

Vanessa It seems,with the right pants,it is ok.He has not to care about tops,length of the pants(well,he maybe not wear short shorts),etc...

I think it would be harder if he wore a real belt (for men) like you do (for woman)

Vanessa Difficult to say,with @HHelen's pretty cryptic answers,it is hard to know if her daughter is a convinced wearer or a reluctant wearer(probably not a willingly wearer)...

probably a mixture of both, an involuntary wearer who has been manipulated into thinking she is a voluntary wearer (my guess).

Vanessa So,in fact,more than your partner,the most important fact for him is you're married,right?

then i will make it clear again. i have written that it is important to my father who i lose my virginity to and by that i mean that it is important to him that i lose my virginity to my spouse. i hope you understand what i mean.

GoodyProctor

HHelen I like to disrupt Goody's-like plan.

I can see why Pru likes you. (I mean, beyond the strict-mother-figure thing she has going on.) Your blunt honesty is a strange breath of fresh air! I've convinced myself pretty well that my mother was kind of a psycho and an outlier, but it's not bad to be reminded plenty of other people would genuinely think I should have gone to college, married a nice bland man, and not created any fuss about my rights or how I just don't like men. But that's just not my style, laughs!

Vanessa

HHelen I like to disrupt Goody's-like plan.

About experimenting during university?

Angelina I think it would be harder if he wore a real belt (for men) like you do (for woman)

I think so,too.

Angelina probably a mixture of both, an involuntary wearer who has been manipulated into thinking she is a voluntary wearer (my guess).

Possible...

Angelina you understand what i mean.

Now,yes.😉

GoodyProctor I was constantly wondering if my slight bow-legged stance or kind of awkward walk would give me away

It's normal to fear almost anyone can notice something and guess you're wearing a chastity belt,especially at start.

GoodyProctor I'm eager to get out of this thing and put Pru back where she belongs!

🤣

How does she feels about it?.)

Foxies I am really finding your "CB wearing" diary of interest.

Me too!🙂

GoodyProctor I feel like it will make me even more committed as a keyholder.

So this trying have one of the expected effect!🙂

GoodyProctor

Fourth day in the belt. I'm at our shared computer during my relatively short belting break. Just two hours unbelted (and closely supervised) today, down from four yesterday and six the day before. My body is handling it okay. A little soreness and redness, but desitin and talcum powder take care of that with no problem. Much as it irks me to say that Tobbe was right about anything, it was a good idea to scale down breaks over several days and not go full-force up front. The relief my skin feels at release, and the extent to which it heals itself in a few hours of freedom, makes a difference. I can feel the beginnings of deeper soreness, but I think that would only concern me if I was wearing longer than a week. I only have three days to go! Last night Pru and I went grocery shopping. I figured I would take it fine, but it turned out it was kind of unnerving to go out in public while wearing a belt. It wasn't a huge thing, just a trip to the neighborhood market, but I was constantly wondering if my slight bow-legged stance or kind of awkward walk would give me away. And all this made me a lot more aware of the fact I was the only person in the place wearing the equivalent of a medieval interrogation device that she can't take off. It's like, imagine walking through a supermarket while wearing handcuffs, except absolutely nobody sees them and everyone assumes your state is just normal? That's what it was like. Pru and I were totally reversed from our usual selves. I take up a lot of space and don't care who knows it. Pru loves that and enjoys hanging on my arm in what she imagines it is to be a compliant version of housewife femininity. This time she was taking up the space and I was leaning on her arm for comfort. Jesus, I really can see how long-term wearers get so attached to their keyholders and eager to please them. Clinging to Pru made me feel safer and less exposed. I'm glad we're still wearing masks in my county, because it felt better to feel a little anonymous. If any of my friends had seen me holding Pru's arm like the girlfriend in a horror movie, I'd never hear the end of it! Afterwards, a very nice early dinner by sunset on the patio cafe a few blocks down from our building. I was a lot less self-conscious while I was sitting there than I was walking around. It felt good to spend some quiet time outside with Pru. We have not done that much in the last year, and I've only been to an outdoor cafe a couple of times since vaccines started. Overall, this is still a worthwhile experiment, though I'm eager to get out of this thing and put Pru back where she belongs!

Foxies

GoodyProctor

I am really finding your "CB wearing" diary of interest. I can identify with a lot of what you say and I see that you get a sense of the power the device has on your mind and they thoughts it creates. I remember in the time before i convinced my partner to allow me to wear a CB thinking that it would have some considerable effects on my thoughts. I was not disappointed once the belt went on.

I can say that effects on my mind have not significantly waned over the course of my "incarceration" smiles

Angelina

Joh The steady drop wears away the stone.

but not a mountain of rocks 😂

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