Fooling around with boys

Angelina

Vanessa (I doubt she cares about her daughter's boyfriend's feelings and reactions).

even if it is not her task, this is also an important gesture 🙂

Vanessa You should.If her chastity belt is the reason for a break-up between her and her boyfriend(not because he only wanted sex,but because he's shocked),she could react very badly about her chastity belt,and get some resent towards you,too.

if this is the reason, she will definitely never want to wear the belt again

I absolutely agree with you.

Vanessa

Angelina even if it is not her task, this is also an important gesture 🙂

It would be,sure.

Angelina if this is the reason, she will definitely never want to wear the belt again

Yes,as she was in a relationship before having to wear it,and it seems it would be very sudden for him to discover it,he could feel it very weird and be shocked enough to decide he should stop the relationship,even if he would truly love her and could have waited.It is a very difficult situation for her,and I think @HHelen should care a lot about it.Even more if it is the first serious relationship for her daughter.

It would be good if her daughter could come here to discuss it a bit,we could help her to manage it and try to help her to find how to announce it to her boyfriend.

Angelina

Vanessa It would be good if her daughter could come here to discuss it a bit,we could help her to manage it and try to help her to find how to announce it to her boyfriend.

that's true, it's a very risky subject, especially for her it's even riskier than for us. we already had the belt before our relationship started.

who knows, maybe the two of them were already sexually active and now (for maybe several years) to do without it is certainly very hard 🙁

HHelen

Vanessa Even more if it is the first serious relationship for her daughter.

It's not serious.

Vanessa

Angelina

It seems they were not,but even in this case,knowing it won't be possible,even if they both want,would be hard.

HHelen

If they were close to have sex together(what you told before),and she's still virgin,it is probably serious for her.If she cares to stay virgin until she's over 18,I doubt she would give it without being in love.

Angelina

HHelen

how do you know that ?

HHelen

Angelina how do you know that ?

Because I'm a parent.

Vanessa If they were close to have sex together(what you told before),and she's still virgin,it is probably serious for her

I didn't mean sex, however.

Sarah

Angelina parents know these things

Angelina

Vanessa It seems they were not,but even in this case,knowing it won't be possible,even if they both want,would be hard.

I agree, hard situation 🙁

Angelina

HHelen Because I'm a parent.

but you don't know the young man 😉

Sarah parents know these things

no, not about someone they don't know 😉

Vanessa

HHelen Because I'm a parent.

As you don't even know him,I've some doubts.

HHelen I didn't mean sex, however.

I guessed so,but don't remember which post have made me think this..

Angelina no, not about someone they don't know 😉

I agree.

Sarah

Being in love is not necessarily a secret...

And,even if she keeps the fact she has a boyfriend secret,it doesn't imply she's in love or not.

Angelina

I agree;even if there would not have been the approval part,if I wanted to be in a relationship with someone,and hope it becomes serious,I would not have hided it to my parents.Maybe I would not have told them I date someone right after the first date,but I would not have kept it secret for weeks.

I'm not sure either the chastity belt affect my relationship with my parents.I was pretty close to them even before wearing it,and I don't think I'm closer to them now.

Sarah

Angelina parents know from your attitude and behavior when you are keeping secrets

Angelina

Sarah when you are keeping secrets

normally it should not be a secret 😂

Sarah

Angelina exactly and if you are keeping a secret then any mom or dad who is close to her daughter will soon realize something is being held back as that is not expected behavior, it shows in your emotions when things are not quite right, one of the things I have noticed about chastity is that the parent and (usually) daughter have a much closer relationship than is normal, that to me is a big positive, taking control also increases responsibility and attentiveness on the.part.of the parent as well as the girl, there are many positives I can see and few negatives.

HHelen

Angelina normally it should not be a secret

She might not even understand what's going on.

Angelina

Sarah

i have to agree with you on some points, but i think in a good parent-daughter relationship such secrets shouldn't even exist. i have a very close relationship with my father (although i think it would be neither better nor worse without a belt), so i also told my father that i have a girlfriend, that should be self-evident 🙂

but of course a closer relationship can develop 🙂

Vanessa

Angelina exactly, if it had been like that with me i would not have said it immediately, but at the latest when the relationship would have been serious and official 🙂

It seems logical.Not too soon,but not waiting too long too.

Angelina i would say that this creates a new connection, but i also want to say that this connection is not necessarily positive, but it is definitely a new (and very deep) connection

Maybe.It affects the relationship a bit,sure,but I don't think it would impact it a lot.I was close to my parents,and,even if I don't like at all their decision about using a chastity belt on me,I'm still close to them.

But,by reading again @Sarah's answer,and especially

Sarah increases responsibility and attentiveness on the.part.of the parent as well as the girl

I think it can be the case;not a lot more,but at least a bit.

Angelina i don't understand your answer

I don't understand her answer either...

Angelina

Vanessa Maybe I would not have told them I date someone right after the first date,but I would not have kept it secret for weeks.

exactly, if it had been like that with me i would not have said it immediately, but at the latest when the relationship would have been serious and official 🙂

Vanessa I'm not sure either the chastity belt affect my relationship with my parents.I was pretty close to them even before wearing it,and I don't think I'm closer to them now.

i would say that this creates a new connection, but i also want to say that this connection is not necessarily positive, but it is definitely a new (and very deep) connection

Angelina

HHelen

???

i meant that in a good mother-daughter relationship a boyfriend should not be a secret, i don't understand your answer

HHelen

Angelina i meant that in a good mother-daughter relationship a boyfriend should not be a secret, i don't understand your answer

She doesn't understand what kind of relationship she is involved to due the lack of expereince.

Angelina

Vanessa .I was close to my parents,and,even if I don't like at all their decision about using a chastity belt on me,I'm still close to them.

i have always been very close to my father but i do not mean that it changes this connection but that a new one is created

in addition to the connection parents and daughter now comes the connection chastity belt wearer and key holder

HHelen She doesn't understand what kind of relationship she is involved

how do you know what kind of relationship your daughter has if you do not even know the young man ?

Vanessa

HHelen She doesn't understand what kind of relationship she is involved to due the lack of expereince.

If it's her first relationship,it is understandable.She would need some time to understand her feelings better.

But,before being sure she doesn't understand it better than you think,you should meet them together.

Angelina i have always been very close to my father but i do not mean that it changes this connection but that a new one is created

in addition to the connection parents and daughter now comes the connection chastity belt wearer and key holder

However,it is not the major part of the relationship with our parents.More an add to it.

Angelina but you are judging both

I agree,she should meet them both.She can't know well a relationship by knowing only one of the two persons involved in it.

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