Just chatting
Jen
I guess from the little you have told us, that the belt is not the issue but the overall situation.
If I remember correctly, you just finished school and are about to enter a new phase of your life and a lot of things will be different. Old friendships and contacts will sometimes fade a bit to the background and new things require your attention.
It is not uncommon to feel a bit lost in such a situation. Don`t worry, thousands of young people experience the same every year and eventually come out on the other side of that step stronger and more prepared to face the next phase of life.
Jen I'm glad you're still here, and glad you have decided to stay in the belt. Of course, we will respect and support you if you decide to step out of it for a while. (I mean, it's US, so at least some of us will try to convince you to go back into lockup, but we're nice about it, I hope!) In the end, you have to do what's best for you and taking the belt was a big step.
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Jen Belt ain't the problem I decided. But trying to be too like actually good like church good - yeah it's not me
The underlying problem seems to be:
You have not clearly defined for yourself what is actually your goal. There are expectations of your parents which may or may not overlap with what you want for yourself. Don't get me wrong, when you are young it is absolutely normal not to know what you want and needing time (and maybe even trial and error) to figure that out.
Take your time, don't hurry things. Eventually you will know what you really need in order to be happy. That might be a life completely without belt, a life 24/7/365 in strict belting or anything in between. In the end it does not matter what it is, only that you have figured out for you, what your goal is and then go for that goal unafraid.
When you are 80, you are more likely to regret the things you never did / experienced because you did not have the courage to take that path than to regret something you actually did and tried and that turned out as something you found not live up to your expectations.
Joh I think the best thing will be for the UN to dissolve and the states to form something new.
What if the nations all got together and started some kind of league, through which they could promote world peace?
Laura
Thank you SO much for posting this! I keep seeing references to it here, but I couldn't find the discussion on misterpoll.
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MissBlossom but I couldn't find the discussion on misterpoll
I still can see it. You just need to login there
https://original.misterpoll.com/forums/296929/topics/290755/
But I have the archive here, that will never disappear
https://unwedchastity.org/files/misterpoll.zip
MissBlossom
Hate to burst your bubble, but all that has from the beginning always been about power and influence, never about world peace. The League of Nations formed after WW1 excluded Germany and the dominating powers therefore were UK, France and USA. After WW2 when the UN were established, it was not by accident that those countries with permanent representation and veto power happened to be those that actually won the war.
(For those who are not aware:
China as permanent member was originally actually the country we know as Taiwan (Republik China) and only 1971 it was replaced by the China we know today under that name.) And China / Taiwan became a permanent member to actually give an Asian country the edge over Japan in the eastern Asian area.
MissBlossom What if the nations all got together and started some kind of league, through which they could promote world peace?
It would be a beginning. The biggest barrier to getting anything sensible done is unanimity. Since, for example, in the Security Council each of the permanent members has a veto, no action will ever be taken if one of the powers represented is involved in the conflict.
I think binding decisions and sanctions should be decided by a two-thirds majority.
Joh I mean, that is less of a design feature and more of a recognition of the realities. If Russia says nyet to a UN measure, with or without a legal veto, what do you think is going to happen? Precisely what is happening now. America's friends will be mad at Russia, Russia's friends will not give a damn and China will do whatever suits their plans best. Changing the UN laws has absolutely no effect because the UN has no power to enforce them without the cooperation of its members.
youdontknowme I agree with you but it would have an different impression as now. I suppose it will not make a big difference but they could not any longer pretend they are the victim and it is only self-defence.
These organisqtion are (and were) for nothing. premiss good and rules keeping people. And they cant deal with bad boys...
curious Hate to burst your bubble, but all that has from the beginning always been about power and influence, never about world peace.
No bubble to burst. I was making a cynical little joke, like "here we go again." :-\
You would think the "league of nations" reference would have made that obvious.
maybe (and now just an idea), the UN could be replaced by a democratically elected peace committee