Chastity checks

Angelina

Saintprudence I totally see that. I struggle a lot with how easy it is to abuse the responsibility of being a keyholder.

right, that's why it's also said: "with much power comes much responsibility". 😉

Saintprudence

Angelina literally the greatest line in the last century of literature, in my opinion.

I, uh, might be a great big Stan Lee nerd.

Sara2001

Angelina right, that's why it's also said: "with much power comes much responsibility". 😉

Yes. I think because of this it is extremely important to clarify as much as possible before you choose a keyholder and I think it's very important that the keyholder has some freedom about what he can demand from you. I think it's unhealthy to always look for fairness. Wearing a belt for someone should feel right and should make you happy in the long term. But it's not necessary that you are happy with every situation that results from wearing the belt or that it feels fair for you. It's necessary that it feels consistent. That you know that, B or C is forbidden and doing A will always lead to X, Y, Z no matter what day your keyholder had.

Angelina

Saintprudence literally the greatest line in the last century of literature, in my opinion.

I, uh, might be a great big Stan Lee nerd.

i'm not really a fan of this, but this sentence has a lot of true 🙂

Sara2001 of this it is extremely important to clarify as much as possible before you choose a keyholder and I think it's very important that the keyholder has some freedom about what he can demand from you

somehow i see this as a contradiction. i agree with the first part, but aren't these clarifying conversations held to prevent the keyholder from having too much freedom (power) that he could abuse?

Jen

I don't send the photos any more, just a message when locked. There are occasional random checks or if I'm going out at night.

Raquel

Laura

Yes. Her mother Tere was serious but she has more trust in Ines than my parents in me. 😅 😅

Sara2001

Angelina somehow i see this as a contradiction. i agree with the first part, but aren't these clarifying conversations held to prevent the keyholder from having too much freedom (power) that he could abuse?

I think freedom for the keyholder within boundaries is very important to prevent endless discussions that leads to the feeling that something isn't fair. And this makes both unhappy.

Rafael

Saintprudence I think nothing would feel worse than to be belted full-time with the feeling that your keyholder just didn't really care. Chastity is not something to lock up and forget it was ever there, but an ongoing process of belt-wearer and keyholder working together for everyone's best interests.

Correct.

Saintprudence

Rafael You’re by far my favorite keyholder!

Angelina

Sara2001 to prevent endless discussions that leads to the feeling that something isn't fair. And this makes both unhappy.

Of course, I agree with you, although this can alternatively also be clarified by the fact that the rules have already been agreed upon beforehand. 🙂

Sara2001

Angelina Of course, I agree with you, although this can alternatively also be clarified by the fact that the rules have already been agreed upon beforehand

I think the more detailed the rules are, the more likely is it to have discussions because they are never perfectly free of interpretation and expectations. Rules have to transport ideas and boundaries, not more.

Angelina

Sara2001 I think the more detailed the rules are, the more likely is it to have discussions because they are never perfectly free of interpretation and expectations.

yes and this is exactly the point i see differently, if it would work as you describe it, then the rules are not clear enough and need to be revised, but the system as such works if it is well done

kat_anders

Yolanda I get daily cleaning and checks, if its a supervised clean out of the belt then of course it's put back on properly. My mother deals with all of that.

Dominik89

My lock is checked in daily basis and my GF unlock me 1/week for intense hygiene as well as check the skin status. Only she can touch and clean these parts of my body. She say that eliminination of my masturbation radically improved my behaviour to her (more interest, polite, do household works, etc.)

Dominik89

Lana corner time or light corporal punishment (or mouth soaping too).

Max9

Dominik89 oh, mouth soaping is pretty severe... sounds unpleasent.

Angelina

Lana

strange that your parents seem to trust you less when you are with them than when you live alone in the apartment, is there a plausible reason for this?

Max9

Angelina I think it's not about trusting her less, but about taking the opportunity to do what they believe to be their duty as keyholder. And also, they show ther that they care about her, that way.

Laura

Angelina strange that your parents seem to trust you less when you are with them than when you live alone in the apartment

They do it because they can 😂

Angelina

Max9 but about taking the opportunity to do what they believe to be their duty as keyholder

So out of bad conscience because they can't do it when Lana is not at home, they now do it twice as often as necessary when she is at home. ?

Dominik89

Max9 but very effective, great respect in case of any rules violation. I rather avoid of it.

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