Angelina i agree, however, if the checks cause too much nervousness in a girl, it can go to the opposite, the girl lives in constant fear of being punished. let's say you have a small accident with the belt and there are slight marks on the belt, the key holder might think you want to cheat and would punish you.

I totally see that. I struggle a lot with how easy it is to abuse the responsibility of being a keyholder.

      Saintprudence I totally see that. I struggle a lot with how easy it is to abuse the responsibility of being a keyholder.

      right, that's why it's also said: "with much power comes much responsibility". 😉

          Angelina literally the greatest line in the last century of literature, in my opinion.

          I, uh, might be a great big Stan Lee nerd.

              I don't send the photos any more, just a message when locked. There are occasional random checks or if I'm going out at night.

              Angelina right, that's why it's also said: "with much power comes much responsibility". 😉

              Yes. I think because of this it is extremely important to clarify as much as possible before you choose a keyholder and I think it's very important that the keyholder has some freedom about what he can demand from you. I think it's unhealthy to always look for fairness. Wearing a belt for someone should feel right and should make you happy in the long term. But it's not necessary that you are happy with every situation that results from wearing the belt or that it feels fair for you. It's necessary that it feels consistent. That you know that, B or C is forbidden and doing A will always lead to X, Y, Z no matter what day your keyholder had.

                  Laura

                  Yes. Her mother Tere was serious but she has more trust in Ines than my parents in me. 😅 😅

                    Saintprudence literally the greatest line in the last century of literature, in my opinion.

                    I, uh, might be a great big Stan Lee nerd.

                    i'm not really a fan of this, but this sentence has a lot of true 🙂

                    Sara2001 of this it is extremely important to clarify as much as possible before you choose a keyholder and I think it's very important that the keyholder has some freedom about what he can demand from you

                    somehow i see this as a contradiction. i agree with the first part, but aren't these clarifying conversations held to prevent the keyholder from having too much freedom (power) that he could abuse?

                          Saintprudence I think nothing would feel worse than to be belted full-time with the feeling that your keyholder just didn't really care. Chastity is not something to lock up and forget it was ever there, but an ongoing process of belt-wearer and keyholder working together for everyone's best interests.

                          Correct.

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                              Angelina somehow i see this as a contradiction. i agree with the first part, but aren't these clarifying conversations held to prevent the keyholder from having too much freedom (power) that he could abuse?

                              I think freedom for the keyholder within boundaries is very important to prevent endless discussions that leads to the feeling that something isn't fair. And this makes both unhappy.

                                  Sara2001 to prevent endless discussions that leads to the feeling that something isn't fair. And this makes both unhappy.

                                  Of course, I agree with you, although this can alternatively also be clarified by the fact that the rules have already been agreed upon beforehand. 🙂

                                      5 days later

                                      Angelina Of course, I agree with you, although this can alternatively also be clarified by the fact that the rules have already been agreed upon beforehand

                                      I think the more detailed the rules are, the more likely is it to have discussions because they are never perfectly free of interpretation and expectations. Rules have to transport ideas and boundaries, not more.

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                                          Yolanda I get daily cleaning and checks, if its a supervised clean out of the belt then of course it's put back on properly. My mother deals with all of that.

                                            Sara2001 I think the more detailed the rules are, the more likely is it to have discussions because they are never perfectly free of interpretation and expectations.

                                            yes and this is exactly the point i see differently, if it would work as you describe it, then the rules are not clear enough and need to be revised, but the system as such works if it is well done

                                              16 days later

                                              My lock is checked in daily basis and my GF unlock me 1/week for intense hygiene as well as check the skin status. Only she can touch and clean these parts of my body. She say that eliminination of my masturbation radically improved my behaviour to her (more interest, polite, do household works, etc.)

                                              Lana corner time or light corporal punishment (or mouth soaping too).

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                                                  Lana

                                                  strange that your parents seem to trust you less when you are with them than when you live alone in the apartment, is there a plausible reason for this?

                                                      Angelina I think it's not about trusting her less, but about taking the opportunity to do what they believe to be their duty as keyholder. And also, they show ther that they care about her, that way.