Church and Chastiy

Max9

Saintprudence Well, I experienced the completely opposite ... I started watching port at the age of the last year of elementary school as a friend of mine told me what it is and showed me some. It tought me about masturbating and I slowly became addicted to porn and masturbation. After some years, as I got the chance, I wanted to try out playing kinky games... of course I was still minor and the person who offered me to have a relation with was a pedophile psychopath... and had ... ideas abiut what to do that I didn't like at all, but I was under her power and sort of brainwashed... I absolutely hated it but I had to take part. She was a psychologist before she lost her job for child abuse in a different case...
It did get me already then, I got into drinking at very young age... since then I have been locked by myself (with breaks) ... after some time I want back to normal, like if nothing happened... had two other normal relationships... but the next relationship which I had after that all broke me ... she was way older as me, too, but totally different. Very long hair instead of very short one, different hair colour, and a titally different personality... she's an angel... we have been a couple for two years till I broke up... she cheated one me with someone in her age, her ex actually... he wanted her back and and she couldn't decide who to take, switched her opinion from time to time and finally wanted to have us both... it got me because she did cheat on me - a no-go - and she didn't seem to care too much about it ... and what would my position have been then? ... I did lover her like nobody else before - and maybe more as I ever will. All the bad memories came up again, like it had opened the box of the pandora, just that hope wasn't inside... I had several suicide attempts that time and I got a cyst in my brain, probably from the crash I had as I drove home on christmas. I wanted to suprise her and come over for christmas ... well, I did suprise her... with someone else...

I am really sorry for how bad your parents did treat you for masturbating... but sex and masturbation at young age can also destroy ones life.

Saintprudence

Max9 I’m so sorry you had to endure all that.

Max9

Foxies Smiles - I am 65 and my partner is even older. I do not think it would be fair on any child to have parents that old, who could conceivably die (or lose their marbles 🤣 ) before the child reaches maturity.

I'm 20 years old and my dad is 70 years old... you could adopt a teenaged kid....

Foxies I would be curious to understand what experiences and at what age, would cause you to have that wish. To say I am shocked is putting it mildly.

Max9

Max9

Saintprudence What I wanted to say with that: I know that when on'se locked there's nothing one would rather do then masturbate. But I also know what masturbstion as a child made me go through and what a happy and innocent life I had before

Saintprudence

Max9 did you end up
embracing religion as a result?

Max9

Saintprudence I did always believe in God and the holy catholic church, and still do. It didn't change anything about what I believe in.

Saintprudence

Max9 I’m grateful you have found peace and happiness in it. Truly.

I’m starting to get there myself. I worry sometimes that I might fully embrace the church’s teaching on masturbation, because I don’t really believe it in my heart, and yet I remain more or less willingly belted, so maybe I do. I suppose one of my fears is how it will change things with my wife if I find self-touch to be truly sinful - she doesn’t deny herself the way I do!

Max9

Saintprudence how about you touch her instead of her doing it herself?

Saintprudence

Max9 I do it, on occasion, but she also likes it the other way. And she’s not stepping into a belt willingly any time soon!

Saintprudence

Max9 Hmm... I haven't been tought about that. What is actually the basis of this rule, is there any passage in the bible about that? What is acrually the reason for it? I

The catechism of the Catholic Church, section three, part two, article six, entry 2352.

“By masturbation is to be understood the deliberate stimulation of the genital organs in order to derive sexual pleasure. "Both the Magisterium of the Church, in the course of a constant tradition, and the moral sense of the faithful have been in no doubt and have firmly maintained that masturbation is an intrinsically and gravely disordered action." “The deliberate use of the sexual faculty, for whatever reason, outside of marriage is essentially contrary to its purpose." For here sexual pleasure is sought outside of "the sexual relationship which is demanded by the moral order and in which the total meaning of mutual self-giving and human procreation in the context of true love is achieved."”

GoodyProctor

Kurt Can somebody explain me, why masturbation can be seen as a sin? I think this is also a only human made rule.

Here's Pru's favorite passage for the catholics:

Saintprudence “By masturbation is to be understood the deliberate stimulation of the genital organs in order to derive sexual pleasure. "Both the Magisterium of the Church, in the course of a constant tradition, and the moral sense of the faithful have been in no doubt and have firmly maintained that masturbation is an intrinsically and gravely disordered action." “The deliberate use of the sexual faculty, for whatever reason, outside of marriage is essentially contrary to its purpose." For here sexual pleasure is sought outside of "the sexual relationship which is demanded by the moral order and in which the total meaning of mutual self-giving and human procreation in the context of true love is achieved."”

Conrad

Max9

I have fairly similar beliefs as you, I believe sex before marriage as well as masturbation and lustful thinking distances a person from God. In the Church, Chastity and virginity are virtues for men and women, virtue includes your thoughts though, not just body. Not much virtue for being a Virgin if you are constantly fantasizing about sex and/or masturbating.

I wouldn’t want to wear a chastity device unless it is necessary to curb sinful tendencies. I think in some men it would be necessary as masturbation can be a strong compulsion, hard to break but not impossible.

I have decided not to wear a device, I have been struggling against the masturbation habit for years without a device and I find God grants me some progress, I have made it past a month probably a dozen times, currently I’m at 5 months since I’ve masturbated.
also, the device might arouse me more because it might draw my attention to my genitals more.

God bless you

Kurt

Max9 I have two questions. I'm a atheist but have gone 8 years on a christian school. I attended many worship services. I have read parts of the holy bible. Why do you reduce god to a building of stones made by humans? If you wear your chastity device 24/7 god knows it and he knows your reasons. So why can you walk outside the church in your device, but can't step inside? Even if chastity devices are associated with fetish and sex toys. These associations are made by humans and god knows, that you see it different.

Max9

Kurt Well, I don't reduce God to the church, a temple of stones, but I see the chirch as a temple built for him, a holy ground.
Moses used to wese shoes all his life, but ehen he climed up the hill and met god he told him to take off his shoes because of the top of this hill to be holy ground.

You also wear heats anywhere outside, but when you go into church you take them off...

What I wonder is that it might be inapropriate even though it doesn't have a bad intention behind it...

Kurt

Max9 Thanks for answering my questions.
Interesting view. I read the books of Moses and I think the god who is described there has more human characteristics, e.g. he wiped out every living being except Noah etc. only because they didn't do want god wanted. (In my eyes more a childish behavior.) But the god described in the new testament don't has such human characteristics.
These are only my opinions 😅

Max9 You also wear heats anywhere outside, but when you go into church you take them off...

As far as I know this rule apply only to the male visitors. And I think it's not a rule from the bible.

Kurt

I think only god can decide what is holy ground and what is not. See your own quote.

Max9 he told him to take off his shoes because of the top of this hill to be holy ground.

And the other traditions, like wearing of hats or not, are only human made. And the connection of chastity devices as fetish toys are also human made. Because everybody can decide for himself/herself what they see in these devices and for what reasons they use them. So from my side I would see no problem to wear this devices to church.

Max9

Kurt And I think it's not a rule from the bible.

That's true, it's a tradition of the roman cstholic church. It applies to all heats that are not decorative, as far as I know. So when you wear it to comolete your ourfit you can lesve it on, when it's just a weather protection you are to take it off. Generally males don't wear a heat to complete their outfit.
For example:
https://i0.gmx.at/image/552/31627552,pd=2/royal-ascot.jpg
This can stay on
https://c8.alamy.com/comp/kpa966/traditional-bavarian-hat-kpa966.jpg
This is to be taken off

Max9

Kurt Yes, the appearence of god changed a lot from the old testamonial to the mew one... also some rules were renewed...
edit:
Still, the respect for the holy ground of the church is a big thing... for example ehen Jesus came into a temple and saw businessman making money exchanges and sold goods there - a clear disrespect pf the holy ground. Jesus became so furious that he destroyed the whole market by his hands.

Angelina

Max9 for example ehen Jesus came into a temple and saw businessman making money exchanges and sold goods there

i don't know why but somehow i always see myself in this role, as someone who uses the church to do business (just joking) 😂

Max9

Angelina Well ... that time everybody went to church in order to not be so socially excluded ... so trying to seel goods before church / in church is smart, because anybody will see them when they walk out of the buulding. Also, when there's to holy mess, the empty building offered weather and dust protection for the goods... just that it's a disrespect towards god to make business or even sell slaves in a building that is intended to honor him.

Max9

Max9 It's like riding on the back of a slave to the human rkghts convention of the united nations

Angelina

Max9

i agree with you it was meant more as a joke as described but my economic site breaks through sometimes 😂

Max9

Kurt That's a good point. I mean on the one hand Jesus did accecpt the church / temple as a place ment to be a place about god, but on the lther hand we do wear shoes in church, and as you don't wear shoes on a holy ground churches are probably not on the same level as the ground god told us to be holy. And that also means that as we do wear shoes in churches there are not the same rules that don't say anything about chastity belts.

« Previous Page Next Page »