When does pressure to wear a chastity belt cross the line?

Ines

Vanessa Why?For some privileges,like a later curfew,it seems related...

No, Vanessa, I mean people that tell that she is totally forced. I am sorry, but in Western World, I do not believe them.
More or less reluctant it can be, and I see that is big amount of girls here.

Vanessa

Ines

Oh,yes,I doubt about being totally forced,too.There can be threat,but totally forced,I doubt it,too.

Jen Really I will be grounded so no phone no pocket money and no going out.

If they want to reduce your freedom if you don't agree,it could be the case,I think,yes.

Can it impact your decision?

Angelina i then answer rather with short texts (mostly for time reasons, because i write here in every topic)

Similar in my case...

Joh

They could not tell about the chastity belt,and explain they think it would have a bad influence on her,and want her to concentrate on her studies only...Many people would disagree but would accept it.

Jen

Foxies

I've been wanting to reply to this but not really knowing what to say. I think really I just want to say thankyou for saying what is common sense. This forum is a weird introduction. Most web searches for "chastity belt" are porn or fantasy. This place tries to have real discussion and make some things seem normal.
Statements like this I would not believe elsewhere but your posts are very genuine and so I believe you.

Foxies However, on the topic of thigh bands, I have to differ slightly. I do wear them almost 24/7 and for the most part I am happy to do so.

But yes a very different situation and you do so well at writing what is wrong with forcing on others and what is not normal.

I've been thinking about what punishment I will get for refusing and for going back on an agreement. I can't imagine any actual forcing to wear that is just not them. I hadn't even considered education until I read "shelter, sustenance, and education" if they didn't pay I'd move to a public school for my last year. That would be the worst they could do without breaking the law but that is impossible. They support me and invest in my future they would not ruin it. Really I will be grounded so no phone no pocket money and no going out. I have not gotten myself a job so this has a big impact on me.

Joh

Jen Really I will be grounded so no phone no pocket money and no going out.

Do you really expect this for a long period they would do it?
It would look suspicious and your friends would ask. If it would come public your parents would have to explain themselves. I don't think their view would be accepted.

RafaelGV

One thing that always stands out is the idea that it must be kept secret from people. There is one question that entered my mind as I learned about fgm and now this is. Is it appropriate for a teen to wear these? ...Consensual wearing is fine, whereby the act of the person(s) being made to wear the device is concerted. However, being forced to wear said device is extravagant; it's rather absurd. Disregarding the ethics of this and by this I mean forced use, i.e., using the carrot on a stick method (mixture of promises and threats), the act is not a concerted effort but rather an act of arm-twisting performed by the parents and when it is done perhaps has questionable legality.

Laura

JonesMacGyver I even went back to the about 5 year old discussions on Mister Poll to try to wrap my head around these discussions... I still can't wrap my head around it.

I had the same impression when I found it 😂

Angelina

Joh This not possible. The school also has an educational mission otherwise it would not work because of the misbehaviour of some kinds.

of course the school should intervene if it disturbs the lesson, but the school tries to educate children according to a certain pattern and I think that is wrong, as soon as the lesson is feasible the state (i.e. the school) has to keep out of it.

Foxies

you are welcome to continue writing long and emotional essays, i like to read it very much, i just have a bad conscience when i then answer rather with short texts (mostly for time reasons, because i write here in every topic)

Vanessa In my case,I don't have much time to answer it much more,sorry...

exactly the same reason with me

Joh

Vanessa They could not tell about the chastity belt,and explain they think it would have a bad influence on her,and want her to concentrate on her studies only...Many people would disagree but would accept it.

Sorry, I don't get it.

Joh

Vanessa They could not tell about the chastity belt,and explain they think it would have a bad influence on her,and want her to concentrate on her studies only...Many people would disagree but would accept it.

But this would count as abuse in Australia.

Vanessa

Joh

If people ask about her restrictions,her parents can tell it is to make her focus on her studies,etc...while not telling it is because she hasn't accepted to wear a chastity belt.

Jen

Vanessa If people ask about her restrictions,her parents can tell it is to make her focus on her studies,etc...while not telling it is because she hasn't accepted to wear a chastity belt.

Well I think it not so common for friends to be asking parents why, they just ask me. But I wouldn't tell the truth either.

Joh

Jen But I wouldn't tell the truth either.

This exactly the way how they got many of the unwilling wearer. They created a threat you will not likely show you to your friend or someone else because it is embarrassing and humiliating.
Parent should never build threat and put their child under pressure. They should protect you from this.

Vanessa

Jen But I wouldn't tell the truth either.

Me too.

Jen

Anyway,it can always be destroyed or the lock picked.

Jen

Joh I'm talking about reason for grounding only. I wouldn't say why I was grounded. You seem to be talking about stuck wearing but I don't think that is possible.

Joh

Jen I'm talking about reason for grounding only.

Sorry, I had misunderstood.

Jen You seem to be talking about stuck wearing but I don't think that is possible.

What do you mean by this?

Jen

Joh I mean I don't think I could ever actually be stuck. Like if I did put it on and demanded it off it would come off.

Joh

Jen Like if I did put it on and demanded it off it would come off.

This sounds not so bad. It looks like you have a good change to prevent it at all.

Angelina

Vanessa Anyway,it can always be destroyed or the lock picked.

right, if @Jen's parents want to cheat on her, then she should destroy the belt (theoreticly)

Joh

gwen
Thank you or posting it.

mekekelo

Just wanted to say, parents should not be allowed to raise their children however they see fit.
It is crucial that schools not only teach math and history, but also about life, norms and generally help raise children.

Angelina

mekekelo Just wanted to say, parents should not be allowed to raise their children however they see fit.
It is crucial that schools not only teach math and history, but also about life, norms and generally help raise children.

regardless of the chastity belt (i have to say this clearly, of course), i disagree with both statements 100%.

education is a matter for the parents and in my opinion the school should stay out of it if it is not too extreme.

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