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Daphne's dilemma
Daphne a thought, then: you might review how much you do around the house and figure out what additional domestic chores you might take on.
youâre 23, so they probably couldnât actually stop you on anything, but I assume living with parents will not be an impediment to chastity? Youâve indicated they know about it but wonât be involved.
Correct, i won't have issues from being in chastity
Daphne Iâll send a question your way now: what are some areas in life you feel would be improved by self-discipline and ladylike behavior?
My self confidence, my own abilities and a little bit of gender euphoria of being able to be a lady
Daphne Iâm also referring to concrete things or actions that would help this.
I'm not too good with that if i am honest
Daphne flip it to the other side then: what specific things are holding you back in general in life? And on the gender front, what currently stands between you and your goal of being an ideal young lady and housewife?
Mostly having the attire and pushing myself to actually start being like that
Daphne then think of the basics. Focus on what youâre capable of doing now, and do it. Watch your posture; slouching is easy. Never put your hands in your pockets unless youâre getting something out; itâs a slovenly look. Speak respectfully but not overly formally to authority, including your parents. Endeavor to remain calm at all times. Put schoolwork and domestic duties first above all other things. Offer to help your parents more, and donât just ask them to direct what you do. Find ways to ease the burden around the house.
Watch your mannerisms to confirm that youâre carrying yourself like a young lady and not a man. Thereâs a lot to unlearn. In my view, two thirds of what makes a trans woman a woman happens inside, regardless of surgery, hormones or clothing.
Will do! Although what should my uniform be?
Daphne modest, appropriate and not attention-drawing. Google âmodest school uniform adult sizeâ and youâll get some good options. The thing about adopting school uniform is that most of the sources out there are angling to sexualize it. You want something that would not be out of place at a religious service.
The occasional Japanese source does do it well. Google-shop âAkane tendo cosplayâ and youâll find a very respectable look. The important thing with any skirt is that the hemline is below the tips of your fingers with your hands at your sides.
Looked it up, such a dress could easily hide a belt or cage!
Daphne yes, since theyâre not designed to accentuate sexuality, that area is pretty well covered up!
Daphne Iâll be honest, your focus on the uniform is a red flag that maybe youâre not taking this as seriously as you let on, but Iâll give you the benefit of the doubt. Iâve been openly trans for ten years and I still get excited about new clothing!
Yeah I'm just excited to be wearing a pretty dress
Daphne I can certainly appreciate that! But try some of these exercises and see how they affect your self-confidence and how you carry yourself, whether youâre in a skirt or a t-shirt and jeans. Manners and comportment matter a lot in being a respectable young lady.
Correct ^^
Although for me a skirt helps