Feelings about being a chastity belt girl.

Angelina

Sara2001

I hope that for your, even though I'm not always sure about it.

Vanessa

Sara2001 Yes. My mother would be happy for me and my father would accept it.

Would she prefer you don't have to wear it after marriage?

Sara2001 That's how it will be and my father is really looking forward to the day where he can handover the keys. He is very proud of me that I will go into a marriage where I stay belted and he thinks that I will have a very happy life because of that. That's why he is very happy about it.

And you?If you've the choice,with no consequences,what would you decide(only about the chastity belt,not for other aspects)?

And would your choice be the same,if the only consequence is you would be equal in your marriage,and it would not be a male led relationship?

Angelina i would live with camryn with my father or her parents. at least my father would agree 😉 as i said we can get married as soon as camryn is 18 and everything else we can organize afterwards 😉

I would not like much being married but still live with my(or her)parents,with my wife...

Sara2001 Most happy he is about me going into a male led marriage but CB is a nice add-on 🙂

Yes,a chastity belt isn't necessarily a part of it,but I guess it is "common" in such relationship.

Sara2001 That's the idea behind everything.

It's the more important,sure.And it seems it's the case!🙂

Sara2001

Vanessa Would she prefer you don't have to wear it after marriage?

I know in general she is very happy with her own situation and supports marriage in a belt but she knows that it is completely different for us girls. She knows that it is very hard for us because it was not our own descision to wear it now. She hasn't forced us to wear one but is also a strong believer of the benefits. It's most important for her that we are happy.

Vanessa And you?If you've the choice,with no consequences,what would you decide(only about the chastity belt,not for other aspects)?

It depends. If I agree that my husband has the right to decide when I am allowed to have orgasm I would prefer the belt. If I can choose freely when I have orgasm I would not decide for one.

Vanessa And would your choice be the same,if the only consequence is you would be equal in your marriage,and it would not be a male led relationship?

I think this depends on my partner. I have to say that I don't have any experience with equal roles in a relationship but I think it can be difficult to make decisions together.

Vanessa Yes,a chastity belt isn't necessarily a part of it,but I guess it is "common" in such relationship.

I am not sure about that. I searched the internet for more information very often and I think it is very uncommon.

Vanessa

Sara2001 I know in general she is very happy with her own situation and supports marriage in a belt but she knows that it is completely different for us girls. She knows that it is very hard for us because it was not our own descision to wear it now. She hasn't forced us to wear one but is also a strong believer of the benefits. It's most important for her that we are happy.

Good she understands you,and how you feel,even if she thinks the use of a chastity belt is a good thing.

Sara2001 It depends. If I agree that my husband has the right to decide when I am allowed to have orgasm I would prefer the belt. If I can choose freely when I have orgasm I would not decide for one.

And would you prefer if you can decide freely or if it is your husband who can decide when you have an orgasm?

Sara2001 I think this depends on my partner. I have to say that I don't have any experience with equal roles in a relationship but I think it can be difficult to make decisions together.

It is a bit related to what we discussed about @strictfather's family.If both are totally equal,it can be hard to decide if both don't want to do a compromise;so having a main leader,who can decide in such case,but far from a man led relationship,could be useful.

Sara2001 I am not sure about that. I searched the internet for more information very often and I think it is very uncommon.

Oh?I thought it was a classical case when a chastity belt is used.

Angelina i wouldn't have a problem with that, there's a realistic chance that i'll work with my father later on, but of course we would only do that if it's ok for camryn, but i don't have to worry about it 🙂

I don't know you planned to work with him;anyway I think it is better for a marrried couple to have their own house.But if it's ok for you and Camryn,no problem,sure.

Angelina you can lead your relationship the way you want, but I can tell you it is not difficult to make decisions together if you talk about it before and compare the arguments 😉

It depends.Some people don't want to make compromise easily,or have troubles to find one in some situation.

Angelina

@Vanessa

i wouldn't have a problem with that, there's a realistic chance that i'll work with my father later on, but of course we would only do that if it's ok for camryn, but i don't have to worry about it 🙂

@Sara2001

you can lead your relationship the way you want, but I can tell you it is not difficult to make decisions together if you talk about it before and compare the arguments 😉

Sara2001

Vanessa And would you prefer if you can decide freely or if it is your husband who can decide when you have an orgasm?

I never thought about it as a singular aspects. I think it is a very important aspect in a male led relationship and for now I really like this concept.

Vanessa but far from a man led relationship,could be useful.

At the end it is closer as it looks. One has the final saying. I don't get orders like in the army, everything is done out of love and in a very respectful way.

Angelina

Vanessa

it's ok for us, and it's not forever, once we'll earn enough money camryn and i'm looking for my own house or apartment, but for starters it's ok.

i have the same interests in bookkeeping as my father so i can imagine working with him later, but he wants me to study first, i'm not sure yet

@Sara2001

even if you consider the relationship to be happy, you should consider individual aspects, because these individual aspects compose the relationship and make it a happy one 🙂

Ines

Sara2001 for now I really like this concept.

I share this feeling with Sarah. It is very nice the trust in our man when we give him all this power, and it is very nice love demonstration towards the girl that husband manage all this power and responsibility making happy his wife.

Vanessa

Sara2001

I think the difference,in my opinion,his the "main leader" only use his possibility to decide,if they have discussed long enough and can't agree.Most of the time,they would be equal,and can decide things together.

Ines

Reading it makes me willing to try it,for a limited time,later,with Emilie...

Angelina it's ok for us, and it's not forever, once we'll earn enough money camryn and i'm looking for my own house or apartment, but for starters it's ok.

i have the same interests in bookkeeping as my father so i can imagine working with him later, but he wants me to study first, i'm not sure yet

I agree,if it's for some time only,and plan to live together later,it can be a good compromise to marry as soon as possible.

You don't want to try a bit living together before,as I want to do with Emilie?

Sara2001 It is but it is something you normally only get as bundle 🙂

I think too.

Sara2001

Angelina even if you consider the relationship to be happy, you should consider individual aspects, because these individual aspects compose the relationship and make it a happy one 🙂

What do you mean with individual aspects? I can do my hobbies and anything.

Angelina

Sara2001

because you wrote you've never thought about singular aspects, I think it's important every single one 😉

Sara2001

Angelina because you wrote you've never thought about singular aspects, I think it's important every single one 😉

It is but it is something you normally only get as bundle 🙂

Angelina

Sara2001

i know 😉 but i am a human being who likes to take things apart and look at single points, but i understand that not everybody is like that 😉

Sara2001

Vanessa I think the difference,in my opinion,his the "main leader" only use his possibility to decide,if they have discussed long enough and can't agree.Most of the time,they would be equal,and can decide things together.

Yes, in 99.9% of the situations we have the same opinion.

Angelina

Vanessa

of course, when camryn turns 18, we definitely want to live together for 2 to 3 months, we have to test if it works 😉 but at the latest afterwards we will get married

Vanessa

Sara2001 Yes, in 99.9% of the situations we have the same opinion.

In these cases,both possibilities(male led relationship or equal relationship with a main leader)are very similar,sure.But I guess having as often the same opinions is not the case in all male led relationships...

Angelina of course, when camryn turns 18, we definitely want to live together for 2 to 3 months, we have to test if it works 😉 but at the latest afterwards we will get married

Good idea,you must be sure all is ok when living together.Will you live with your father during,or will your father rent an apartment for you during these few months?

Sara2001

Vanessa In these cases,both possibilities(male led relationship or equal relationship with a main leader)are very similar,sure.But I guess having as often the same opinions is not the case in all male led relationships...

I think having strict rules leads to much more situations where you have the same opinion because major questions are already clear because of a rule or the main concept we agreed to, that the other one comes first for both of us.

Maybe it is because of the way we talk about things, because any back talking is a punishable offence, I am used to make my point in a calm way. That means I mostly think before I make a point and it never sounds like a disagreement but another option. Then we automatically talk about the advantages of the options we have and than it is mostly very clear which on is better. There is no fight and there is no reason to feel overruled even if it is technically the case.

Vanessa

Sara2001

I think you're right.If there is strict rules,which both agree for,it covers a lot of situation when the two memebers of a couple could disagree without these rules.

And having to stay calm and respectful,or be punished otherwise,but still be allowed to propose other ideas and discuss them(it should not be discarded without any talk),can help to agree on an idea,or a compromise,without imposing an opinion.

But there need to be a lot of trust between the two partners.

Angelina we will either stay with my father or my father will rent us an apartment, but only if it is near my father (if I need to be unlocked) but there is plenty of time until then 🙂

It should be clsoe,sure.But you're right,not for now.

Angelina it is of course a good way to avoid quarreling, i just wonder if it is the right way because the female part of the relationship has strong disadvantages. this kind of relationship is definitely not for dominant women 🙁

It doesn't fit dominent women,sure.But the man should have to be trustworthy and fair,and take care of his wife and her desire too.If he doesn't act like this,it can't work,or it is abusive.

Angelina

@Vanessa

we will either stay with my father or my father will rent us an apartment, but only if it is near my father (if I need to be unlocked) but there is plenty of time until then 🙂

@Sara2001

it is of course a good way to avoid quarreling, i just wonder if it is the right way because the female part of the relationship has strong disadvantages. this kind of relationship is definitely not for dominant women 🙁

Sara2001

Angelina this kind of relationship is definitely not for dominant women 🙁

That's for sure. But I heard that some couples have a submissive man and a woman as head of the household. Maybe this could work, too, but it doesn't feel normal for me.

Vanessa But there need to be a lot of trust between the two partners.

Yes, yes and yes. It is all about trust. Trust is the key. That's why "blind" honesty is so important.

Athania What rules do you think a male keyholder should set for his lady. and how do you think he should enforce those rules in a fair way.

What do you mean? In a father - daughter relationship or in a man and woman as a couple relationship? If it is no. 2, I think the 4D are always a good start. No dishonesty, no disrespect, no disobedience and no dangerous things. If opened, no orgasm without permission.

Athania

Vanessa What rules do you think a male keyholder should set for his lady. and how do you think he should enforce those rules in a fair way.

Vanessa

Athania What rules do you think a male keyholder should set for his lady. and how do you think he should enforce those rules in a fair way.

I think it depends,for both questions.

There is classical rules:no disrespect(including swearing and talking back),no dishonesty,not looking slutty,not be late,not putting his health or life at risk,etc...And other rules can be adapted to the woman,some would need a rule to not be lazy,some to not spend too much in useless things,etc...These ones are working for a couple,in a parents-daughter setting,she can have some more like curfew,stricter dress code,having good grades(if she's a student),etc...

About punishments,it depends on each woman.Some don't care to have disappointed her partner/parents,and react way better if she gets spanked,others don't care about spankings,but feels very bad if she notices her partner/parents is/are disappointed.Some hate groundings or having to do more tasks in house,others don't care at all...It needs to know her well to know what punishments are effective and which are useless.

Sara2001 That's for sure. But I heard that some couples have a submissive man and a woman as head of the household. Maybe this could work, too, but it doesn't feel normal for me.

I know it too.But,even if I'm sometimes a bit rebellious,I won't be at ease dominating a man.Even if being the dominant in a lesbian relationship is something I would like to try(but not for now,and for a limited time only).

Sara2001 Yes, yes and yes. It is all about trust. Trust is the key. That's why "blind" honesty is so important.

I agree with you.Trust is very important in a couple,and even more in such relationship.

Sara2001 If opened, no orgasm without permission.

Hard one!But not allowed to have an orgasm can be a punishment,too,I guess(for being too jealous without any reason,or flirting with other people,for example).

Angelina of course, the man must be very careful, considerate and loving, only then can a man-led relationship function in which the woman is also happy 🙂

It is a major part of his role in such relationship.

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