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  • your feeling first time(s) you worn a chastity belt

reactionary69 1) This is a general point, it is not specific for dating:
If they notice your belt then you just tell them that it is an anti rape device. 🤗
If they should bully or ridicule you wearing it then just them that you had two near misses. That should get them quiet.

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reactionary69 But then your parent take the necessary precaution so that it does not happen to you, yes?

I understood,but I think lieing to him about it,telling I was close to be raped while it wasn't the case was disrespectful to the women who were raped or close to be raped.

My parents told me about the anti-rape device,and I guess it can works well in such situation,sure.But I never was in a situation in which I would have been raped if I was not wearing the chastity belt,so using it to protect us against rape seems not very a classic reason.But it can help someone accept to wear one more easily.

reactionary69 2) Introduce him to your parents.
They have a longer and therefore better life experience than you.
And they are not influenced by your love hormons.
Listen to them carefully.

Necessary for me.An approval talk is needed before I start dating a potential boyfriend/girlfriend.And a "No!" means I must stop the relationship immediately.

reactionary69 4) This you better do sooner than later as hugging you will make him wondering what you are wearing underneath.

I agree.Not too soon but waiting too long makes very difficult to hide the belt.And better to tell and explain it than letting him/her discover our belt this way.

reactionary69 f you you have a better idea how to stop such a harassment, please share it.

What harassment?Asking us to have sex?Well,explaining the chastity belt,why I have to wear it and the purpose of it;and what I'm prevented to do,too.

Laura Why not? Just don't tell him you don't have the keys, he should find it out later.

He will think you're open to have sex soon,and so will quickly ask you when you're going to take the "toy" off to have "sex"! 😉 Especially if he think you have the keys.

                Vanessa and so will quickly ask you when you're going to take the "toy" off to have "sex"!

                That's what the game is, to not open this "toy" 🙂

                    Vanessa

                    I have a question. You say if your parents don't agree with the relationship, you have to end the relationship right?

                    what if you refuse ?

                        Laura That's what the game is, to not open this "toy"

                        Yes,but if it lasts several months or years,he may feel it is strange,if it is used as a game!

                        Angelina

                        They do what it needs to be sure the relationship won't last,or until I obey.Grounding,no cell phone,no unsupervised use of the computer,not allowed to go out or meet/phone/write my friends,etc...

                        Even if we meet during the days,when the holidays come,it means no meeting anymore.And,if the relationship started soon(which is generally the case,approval talk should be done quickly after I decided I wanted to date someone),not being allowed to have any contact means often that the unapproved boyfriend/girlfriend will lose intesrest in us and finally decide it is better to break-up.Even if I haven't decided to obey my parents before(it is a very hard punishment).

                              Vanessa Yes,but if it lasts several months or years,he may feel it is strange,if it is used as a game!

                              He will find out the truth by that time, that "game" is a little more complex 🙂

                                  Laura He will find out the truth by that time, that "game" is a little more complex

                                  Yes,probably.But it would need some talk,when he understands it.

                                    I think a potential partner should know about the belt and the reasons behind it in advance. Otherwise it's very likely that the relationship doesn't last or that you or your family get in trouble.

                                    I think many boys would overreact and start a verbal fight with parents because they feel they have to rescue you. In worst case they call the police or something like that.

                                    I don't think that would end up well.

                                    I think nowadays most relationships start online, that is a good way to explain things before meeting.

                                      my relationship has also started online. i also think it is important to talk about chastity quickly. at the latest when you want to touch yourself intimately for the first time, he/she finds out. it should definitely not be the first thing you talk about but it should happen early enough

                                      I do not agree. I think is better take some time, and when there was trust enough, talk.

                                        Ines

                                        at the latest when you snuggle up for the first time he will notice it, and maybe he finds it disappointing that you didn't tell him that sooner

                                          Sara2001

                                          Right,it can be hard to be sure our partner don't react too hardly.With Emilie,I had to talk a long time with her to be sure she won't start an argument with my parents when I explained her about the belt,as it would have do no good for me or for our relationship.

                                          WIth precedent partners,it was easier.My chastity belt was not worn permanently,only as punishment,and I can insist on this part to tell them we just have to wait a bit and it would be taken off,telling them it was not so bad,or,that I understood my parents' decision to punish me this way.Even if it wasn't true,most of the times(and especially the second and third arguments),it was generally enough to be sure they won't react too much and accept it.

                                          I think we should not discuss it too soon,not before knowing enough each other and be pretty sure he/she can accept it,or,at least,keep it secret.But not too late,as,when we become closer,it is hard to avoid them feeling the waist band.A woman can refuse her new boyfriend/girlfriend put his/her hands between her legs too soon,but not accepting he/she touch or caress her waist,it is harder to explain.

                                            a year later

                                            strictfather Everything that you described was all these feelings. Although I was trained for a long time and I myself began to accept the statements that masturbation is unacceptable for a teenager.

                                                Laura July,7 last time

                                                he can write again if he has (again) problems with his daughters 😉

                                                  a year later

                                                  Moving here- don't want to be writing more in bargaining with parents.

                                                  It's like this thing it's just a bit of metal but also it's supposed to have power over me. @Sin yeah I'm excited. I've not locked it obviously but the padlock holds it in place fine but yeah thinking about what if it was locked...

                                                  Crap thing is I'm worried about the size - I've got both sides of the hip band on the widest hole and it won't slip down but I think I could tighten that one notch. But the band over my sex seems too long. Mines not adjustable there.
                                                  Also it's noisy I'm trying to quietly test😳
                                                  But yeah i never thought about it not fitting

                                                    I thought it was just glorious, that I was finally in full control, that nobody could take me against my will, that what ever I did sexually, or didn't do, was up to me which was what God intended.

                                                    Jen is it definitely a MySteel? There's a good chance they just got an eBay special to scare you.

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                                                        Jen Can be fixed, but this is why you never buy stuff by guessing.