Reasons a chastity belt sucks?

Jen Good to hear your perspective

Although pro-chastity, I think "health issues associated with long term belt wear" should make it to the "sucks" list. I'm thinking pinched nerves and/or back trouble.

Jen Yes! But how! They've basically got control of the belt.

I think wearers should keep the key until they're well used to the belt. Any future key hand-over is then founded on informed consent.

Jen

do you want to have only contra arguments now or what? i don't quite understand, actually you should make 2 lists, one for the pro and one for the contra side . otherwise you have already written quite a lot in the list and yes most of it is really not nice, but what i would like to point out is that most of it is a problem when you wear the belt 24/7. i am also not quite sure what you want to know from us here, you are right about all the problems described above, do you want tips on how best to deal with them?

Almost all of the comments above are pretty much spot on. My advice is to keep control while learning to see if you really want to do this. Start off slooowwwwwly. Do not expect too much at the start. One or two hours a day for a week, then add an hour a day each week. Do not only concentrate on how it feels, but learn also how it effects you emotionally and how you handle all the problems listed at the first post.

Yours and my circumstances are different. You are doing this alone so you need to see how you feel. And don't forget to imagine what it would be like if you give up the control to someone else. Since you don't really have a loving partner that understands you, I strongly recommend that you do keep it secret as to what you are doing. Long before you give the keys up, all doubts as to whether you really want to do this should be eradicated.

Finally, from my perspective, if you ever do find a keyholder, make sure they understand what it is you want. The keyholders wishes and wants for you, should be irrelevant. And if you ever show any unhappiness about it they should not hesitate to return your keys. If you even think they wouldn't then never part with your keys.

In the end a chastity device is an incredibly potent tool to effect your mental well being. It is too dangerous to put its power into the hands of someone you can't trust absolutely that your happiness and well being is the most important thing they care about.

In the end, you should only wear a chastity device if it makes you happy. No other person's opinion is relevant!

Jen

A lot of frustration.
Impossible to relieve your urges.

But your list is pretty complete.Would you write the opposite one,for the "positive" effects of it,too?

Parties and dancing,with appropriate clothes,it is possible;but you should take care no one touch you on a place where there is the belt(hard to avoid for the waist band...).

For pool or beach,it is almost impossible to hide it,except if you wear some swimsuits like the one of @Angelina...

Sin I'm not saying 24/7 isn't possible (it's certainly an ideal for a lot of people) but we all have to start somewhere. And going into it with unrealistic expectations is a great way to set yourself up for failure. I would suggest that carefully exploring your limits is a healthier approach, especially for a beginner.

It is a bit like we advice,when discussing about training.

Sin

Not possible,The belt,even if not worn,is locked and without the keys.She must ask her parents to unlock it to try it.

Jonas I think wearers should keep the key until they're well used to the belt. Any future key hand-over is then founded on informed consent.

It could work for @Jen's case,yes.

But not sure her parents would accept.

Foxies Almost all of the comments above are pretty much spot on. My advice is to keep control while learning to see if you really want to do this. Start off slooowwwwwly. Do not expect too much at the start. One or two hours a day for a week, then add an hour a day each week. Do not only concentrate on how it feels, but learn also how it effects you emotionally and how you handle all the problems listed at the first post.

I agree.Even if your training is a bit long.

Jen

Playing sports.... well, I am half-professional player and I wear a belt....
Obviously when I play sport I do not wear it, but it is the normal in a belted lifestyle.
Daily there are a lot of situations in which the keyholder must release the belt, for that, I do not believe the truculent tales that sometimes we have to read.

Vanessa Jonas I think wearers should keep the key until they're well used to the belt. Any future key hand-over is then founded on informed consent.

It could work for @Jen's case,yes.

But not sure her parents would accept.

From what I've read the issue of personal consent has (correctly) been made top priority and the belt is currently a useless "white elephant" hidden away in a suitcase.

However, the belt remains a option. As a consensual choice, it can still be seen as a positive gift: a possible course of action that most people don't have simply because chastity belts are so darn expensive.

Vanessa But not sure her parents would accept.

after what @Jen has written about her parents, it is best that they don't know about it, not even that she wants to test it. at the moment this doesn't seem possible, so I would advise @Jen not to test it at the moment. maybe in a few months when "the dust has settled".

Jen Yeah that's one of my reasons. If I wait a few years and then the belt is gone or doesn't fit I think I'll regret not even giving it a go.

What ever you want to do. Never give the key to your parents.

Jen Hi, I get that your interested but I don't really want to share the pro list. I think it's part of my thoughts on what to do and I want it to be my decision.

let me guess, you have found too many pro arguments and now want us to give you contra arguments

Jen Yeah that's one of my reasons. If I wait a few years and then the belt is gone or doesn't fit I think I'll regret not even giving it a go.

maybe not a few years but a few months you should wait, at least until your parents no longer think that you have this idea. and you should not let yourself be pushed by youself.

Angelina let me guess, you have found too many pro arguments and now want us to give you contra arguments

Could it be that the pro arguments are more like feelings? Harder to put into words? And confusing because, rationally, actually deciding to wear a chastity belt in 2021 seems so crazy!

Angelina maybe not a few years but a few months you should wait, at least until your parents no longer think that you have this idea. and you should not let yourself be pushed by youself.

Waiting is a good idea if it means that the belt can re-approached in a positive way. Presentation of the idea was totally messed up imo (as is it was in your case too I think). I guess key-holding is a skill that needs to be learned too.

Jonas Could it be that the pro arguments are more like feelings? Harder to put into words? And confusing because, rationally, actually deciding to wear a chastity belt in 2021 seems so crazy!

this may well be the case yes

Joh Ever since my chastity began, I began to feel insanely sexy. I have never experienced such strong sexual sensations. Not being able to get rid of your urges feels like being in a constant rush of adrenaline. I love it madly, although at first I was very afraid that I would lose the opportunity to masturbate and I would have to endure a lot.

But now my position has changed. I think that chastity allows you to explore the other side of sexuality, to feel the sensations that you would never experience constantly getting rid of sexual tension.

Joh It is certainly difficult to accept when it does not depend on you. But I accepted chastity after persistent persuasion, so I kind of accepted it myself, somewhere in half. Therefore, I do not know if this choice should be considered imposed.

Jen Sexy clothes

In my case, I feel much sexier with a belt, and I want to dress as sexy as the boys' fashion allows. Anyway, if it weren't for the belt, I would hardly have paid attention to skinny fit, thongs for men and short bonded jackets.

Alex
Everything has min two sides and what you experienced is another way. It is dependent on the viewpoint if it a bad or a good thing.

I did a similar way with my girlfriend sometime. I excited her until just before the climax and then stopped. After some time started again and so on. I let her come only at the end of the weekend. She found that very nice, even the next day without having come, because it resonated in her after.

Jen Limits sport activity

My cup, like the previous cage, did not interfere with my sports activities. if you wear tight and slimming underwear, in order to press the belt to the body as much as possible, then the cage will find itself in a very tight space in order to loose it to the sides. But this applies to male cages, full belts for girls probably rigidly restrict movement.

I wear tight and tight men's thongs with a wide strip and a voluminous codpiece to completely cover the cup. And the only hindrance to active movement is only the feeling of the perceptible weight of this device. But in the end it doesn't matter, since he's already tucked up tight.

I also tried the dance bondage that dancers usually wear. It is just like a thong, and I found it the most comfortable for athletics. if anyone does not know what it is, you can easily find it on the Internet for the query "dance bandage"