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gwen You can't hug your friends without risking some questioning looks.

My belt looks like it sits very low but yeah upper body hugs only!
Yikes what about sitting on a flat seat - like next to someone on a bus seat?

Jonas she's already established that they cannot force her to wear it

Yeah that can't happen - not here - and they know that I know it so it's over really. But I want to try in my own time - not have any promises or pressure or anything which might make my anxiety blow up.

Jonas If however, she is simply attempting to keep to the previous agreement...

not doing any more agreements. Curious is a good way of putting it - maybe even curious about long term but there is issues and I cant even think how so not now I think.

Jonas I still think the 3 day trial isn't sensible - better to take things much more slowly, a couple of hours a day with regular unlockings

no that stupid thing was to keep building up until 3 days is possible, not start all at once.

Vanessa Do you think they would accept?

(asking for key).. no idea really just a bit scared about bringing it up

              Vanessa Jonas - Gently experiment with not having the key.

              How would you do it?

              When I'm being chased by the Masturbation Monster my aim is to chuck everything I can into it's path as I beat a hasty exit out the door! 🤣 Anything that makes it more difficult to act out helps. Hence porn filter, distractions and the belt itself. I mean nothing is totally secure, but it all helps. It's often more of a question of making "escape" just a little too much effort for you to bother. 😀

              I used a combination key safe a whole lot, using an app to do time-locking. After this I used to wait for my partner to open when home from work. That led on to occasional lock ups that were longer than I intended and an increasing degree of making me wait. 😅 Of course when I got to the full 24 hours, the key is just for emergencies really.

                  Jen Vanessa Do you think they would accept?

                  (asking for key).. no idea really just a bit scared about bringing it up

                  If/when you want to try it, you could pick a quiet moment and say what you wrote above to your father:

                  "I want to try [the belt] in my own time - not have any promises or pressure or anything."

                  If the belt and key magically appear then great, if the awkwardness starts up again maybe this was the wrong time/place to try chastity.

                    Jen no idea really just a bit scared about bringing it up

                    If it is too scary you could wait until you have around €50 to buy one at Alibaba. It would do the job to fulfill your curiosity.

                        Jonas But who knows eh? We have too little information to do anything more than speculate

                        i agree. my recommendation to @Jen is to wait a little longer, but i understand if she decides otherwise because she knows best in the end. 🙂

                          Joh around €50 to buy one at Alibaba. It would do the job to fulfill your curiosity.

                          And produce a negative outcome

                              Vanessa Yes,if she has her keys,it would be very different than "true chastity"

                              For me it's the same as chastity belt without lock.

                              Vanessa You can try it to convince them,if you want to try it.Trust you by giving you the keys during your trying,if they want you to trust them if you decide to continue wearing after(without having the keys,so).

                              It souldn't be such an option. Either try locked belt or not try at all.

                                    Renita It souldn't be such an option. Either try locked belt or not try at all.

                                    As things stand; the belt is in a suitcase, parents disappointed, Jen stressed. Trying the belt would address all of these and maybe solve them.

                                    Even though I took the whole process very slowly, and had access to the key, my belt is just as secure at the end.

                                      Laura And produce a negative outcome

                                      You never know if you not tested this and one from Fancy Steel.
                                      From what I see it looks similar to one of Fancy Steel. Sure it will not in the same quality but to get an answer to your own curiosity is certainly enough.

                                          Joh From what I see it looks similar to one of Fancy Steel.

                                          yes but i am as unconvinced about the quality of fancysteel as i am about the quality of a cheap belt. of course @Jen can order a belt for 50$ on the internet and test it, but it would probably not be a comparable result and would lead to disappointment.

                                            Jen Yikes what about sitting on a flat seat - like next to someone on a bus seat?

                                            Hard surfaces are not advisable, however hands behind "sit spots" help to manage it.
                                            At the end you learn to sit.

                                                Jen But I want to try in my own time - not have any promises or pressure or anything which might make my anxiety blow up.

                                                As they kept the keys for the locked chastity belt,it can be hard...

                                                Jen Curious is a good way of putting it - maybe even curious about long term but there is issues and I cant even think how so not now I think.

                                                You would be able to know more if you want to try long term or not after a short trying,but not without a try,I think.

                                                Jen (asking for key).. no idea really just a bit scared about bringing it up

                                                You should remember that,now they've accepted you would not wear it,you can decide what would be the conditions for trying.They don't accept these?Ok,so you wouldn't try it.I guess they would prefer to let you try it under your conditions,hoping you accept to wear it after it,than making you not even trying.

                                                Jonas I used a combination key safe a whole lot, using an app to do time-locking.

                                                It could be useful for @Jen,yes.

                                                Joh

                                                Not a good idea.It would be less comfortable than her own belt,and could disgust her even more of chastity,for the wrong reasons(cheap belts and major brand's ones are very different).

                                                Laura

                                                I agree.

                                                Renita It souldn't be such an option. Either try locked belt or not try at all.

                                                Considering the situation about chastity belt in her home,I think it could be a good way to trust each other better,necessary if she decide to use it.

                                                Ines At the end you learn to sit.

                                                I agree.

                                                                  Vanessa I guess they would prefer to let you try it under your conditions,hoping you accept to wear it after it,than making you not even trying.

                                                                  i don't know if i agree with this statement. of course the parents would prefer @Jen to try, but i doubt if they will accept it on @Jen's terms. parents prefer to keep control and i don't know how this will develop in the long run.

                                                                      Jen
                                                                      What kind of lock does your belt have? Is it a normal padlock, small padlock, or the box with the internal locking mechanism that only the key can extract? If your parents are not giving you the key, you might as well file it and try to destroy the padlock yourself. It'll take about 4 hours, but it'll be worth it!

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                                                                          Raziel I haven't asked yet will be at least another month.
                                                                          It's my-steel - has a lock that fits very closely over a center pin thing

                                                                              Jen
                                                                              If you ever get lockpicking tools, I can guide you how to get it out. I do suggest practicing on a bigger masterlock first. If you do have the box with your chastity belt, I'd also say just destroy the lock and keep the new lock and key to yourself, without your parents knowing about it. This way, you can try it out and still have your freedom.

                                                                                Vanessa Not a good idea.It would be less comfortable than her own belt,and could disgust her even more of chastity,for the wrong reasons(cheap belts and major brand's ones are very different).

                                                                                She should have this in mind. But if she gos this way she would have everything in her hand. The first result could be the curiosity is satisfied. If she want to explore it further she has to rethink how to go on that it is meaningful.
                                                                                Step by step is most of the time the best way.

                                                                                    Joh

                                                                                    i know that you are an "opponent" of chastity belts and by this simple trick you would lead @Jen to the opinion that the belt is generally bad, because you cannot apply the same standard to a cheap belt as to a branded belt. i do not want to say that a belt is generally good or bad, but it would not be an objective result.

                                                                                        Angelina i know that you are an "opponent" of chastity belts

                                                                                        You are totally wrong. I am not against chastity belts. I am against forced chastity belts!


                                                                                            Joh You are totally wrong. I am not against chastity belts. I am against forced chastity belts!

                                                                                            oh ok, i remembered it differently, sorry 😂 but i stand by the rest of my statement 😉