Your Mom's Thigh Bands

Angelina

a_father What are the bad consequences?

I've said that several times here, including you, at some point it's enough to repeat, sorry.
my father has certainly made almost all the mistakes that one can make as a key holder, but i am convinced that he does it because he loves me. we talked a lot, i understand his motivation and he understands my problems with it. The question remains what is at stake for me. on the one hand everything financial and also my professional future and on the other hand the emotional connection to my father. he has taken care of me all my life alone and has also given me a lot both materially and emotionally, it just wouldn't be worth throwing away. I hate this damn belt, but it's just a part of me, I also have many other parts in my life where my father is a really great person. This forum has chastity and chastity belts as its main topic, so it's understandable that I write what I don't like about it, but it doesn't affect all other areas of life

Andrew 1) The accusation of lack of love seems exaggerated to me. On this forum, people wearing belts mainly share their experiences in this area, and do not describe the entirety of their relationship with their parents (it is very difficult to describe anyway).

thank you, that pretty much says everything I want to say to @a_father I hate the belt, but accusing my father of not loving me is very big nonsense

a_father

Angelina So I hope you marry in August and then you are free, right? This is the deal or did it change?
I still want to experience that. Then your story would be told to the end. From time to time I still have doubts about you (whether you are real.... ). If after the wedding you report that you are free, that would at least be a strong indication of a real person. I wish you luck.

Ines

a_father I'm unspectacular

I think I am quite plain too... in 4 years my biggest adventure is that my sister has decided try to wear a belt.

Avery And it goes on. 2 years and eight months later you are still at it.

😂. @Avery you are becoming in live memory of this forum. You search everything. I love it

a_father You talked about your sisters opinion.

. .. three girls who love each other, who get along, who live together and who are of similar ages... imagine if we talked to each other. Like any sisters in the world.

a_father So in my opinion the whole thing is not completely voluntarily

At the end, you always find something to justify your opinion even if the other part does not give you a hint about it.
Not all the serious usage is forced usage, I hate abusive behavior so much as you do, but not all the families are that way, even if in your opinion, (respectable), girls should not use a belt.

a_father

Ines One more thing..
Lets make a thought experiment. Imagine your older sister manages to masturbate by stimulating her breasts an she is caught by your parents. They decide, she has to wear a chastity bra aditionally. They decide, the new gold standard of 'protection' in your family is a chastity belt + bra. You refuse to wear the bra (you don't like it, you told this in the past) and because of this you lose your 'privilegs'. In my opinion your younger sister is in this situation now. I'm sure you disagree but I can't change your mind an you can't change mine.

Andrew

a_father In my opinion there should be no difference between wearing an not wearing. So in my opinion the whole thing is not completely voluntarily.

Bribery with privileges may (but does not have to) indicate a lack of willingness to wear the belt - it all depends on the circumstances. I'm afraid, however, that the descriptions on the forum will never allow for an in-depth assessment of the facts to resolve doubts.

Angelina

Andrew

It's also something like: "If you study for school and get good grades, you get a reward". the child does not learn voluntarily and not for the good grades, but for the reward. if we distance ourselves a little from the chastity belt and apply these mechanisms to other areas of life, then we see that many things are quite normal

Ines

Andrew Bribery with privileges may (but does not have to) indicate a lack of willingness to wear the belt

I think it is not exact, there is a nuance: the girls who accept the belt in exchange for privileges, (and we have talked a lot about things that are privileges and things that are simply the obligation of the parents), do not imply a lack of willfulness... they imply a lack of initiative to wear it.

Kaja

Angelina This is wrong mindset. If you will deal like this with your child he/she will never be a good student who likes knowledge.

Mr-TM

Bribery is when it is said "If you wear the cb well, you will get...". However, if there is a previously unannounced reward for correct behavior, this has nothing to do with bribery.

Andrew

Mr-TM Bribery is when it is said "If you wear the cb well, you will get...".

This is exactly the situation I'm talking about.

Ines

Mr-TM

Well, no, and it was talked long time ago.
Finally there was more or less an agreement on what is "a bribe" and what is decidedly "blackmail".

"If you do not wear a belt you will not be able to go to university" is completely unacceptable, it is terrible blackmail.

"If you wear your belt, your mother and I will buy you a car so you can go to campus" or "you can live in an apartment on campus even though you are in this same city", are other terms that can be used as bargaining chips.

Angelina

a_father

yes, the day before yesterday i got the official confirmation from the registry office that i want to get married in august, then i will be free of the belt. my personal chastity story is over then, but i hope i will still be allowed to stay in the forum 😉

Ines

i would simply say that bribery is wearing a belt in return for privileges that go beyond the normal measure of what parents should do for their children.

Kaja This is wrong mindset. If you will deal like this with your child he/she will never be a good student who likes knowledge.

that's true and i wouldn't use it with my children like that. but teenagers are more interested in a reward than in good grades, so the system can work. the parents are happy with the grades and the teenager has received a reward. i just wanted to use that as an example to apply it to the mechanism of the chastity belt.

Kaja

Angelina I dont think so. It is about mindset. Lot o child from homeschooling or from good school (not only alternative) like education and they donnt need external motivation.

Avery

Angelina but teenagers are more interested in a reward than in good grades

It almost seems sometimes that you are a troll. Right here on the forum I think @Ines would be a good example of someone who worked hard in order to achieve something, to get into med school, to succeed in sports.

Natalia

Angelina yes, the day before yesterday i got the official confirmation from the registry office that i want to get married in august,

congratulations to you both 🙂

Angelina

Kaja I dont think so. It is about mindset. Lot o child from homeschooling or from good school (not only alternative) like education and they donnt need external motivation.

Avery It almost seems sometimes that you are a troll. Right here on the forum I think @Ines would be a good example of someone who worked hard in order to achieve something, to get into med school, to succeed in sports.

of course that can be, i'm an example of that myself, but i'm talking about the fact that up to a year before graduation a maximum of 20% of the students in my school really studied just to get good grades, in the year of graduation it was maybe 30-40% i'm just speaking from my school experiences

Natalia congratulations to you both 🙂

thank you 🙂

Maija

Bryan not any that I can remember. For example in summertime, she never swimmed while on the beach, even the weather was hot when we were kids

Ines

Maija

What does she think about the bands?
Every girl on your community, (church, neighborhood...)wears them in same regime?

mimikatz

Maija Does your mother currently have muscular health issues from wearing thigh bands 24/7? Doctors in this forum have mentioned that thigh bands are not suitable for long-term wearing with no breaks. And I remember you have the right to remove the thigh bands for one hour for sports.

Maija

mimikatz no, she doesn't have any problems with her muscles so far.

mimikatz thighbands aren't restraints. They are simply something that a proper lady must wear. Yes they prevent the wearer from doing some things, but so do mini skirts and high heels! I consider thighbands with a chain essential, and wouldn't not wear them even if given the chance.

My mother thinks the same way, and always tells how her chastity equipment has made her a better person.

mimikatz

Maija From the appearance, the thigh band is obviously a kind of restraint. You think thigh bands are very natural, so did you also think that wearing a restraints is very natural for a grown woman at the time and feel attracted to it? Little girls always love to imitate their mothers in clothing like high heels, so have you ever wanted to try them when you notice them? Or were you wondering why your mother wears a restraints, or whether other adult women wear similar devices? Did you accidentally discuss this with someone else?

Mr-TM

Angelina year before graduation a maximum of 20% of the students in my school really studied just to get good grades

I never did. Not even before the exams. 😃

Avery

Angelina i'm an example of that myself

You speak excellent English.

Angelina

Mr-TM I never did. Not even before the exams. 😃

That's exactly what I mean, so small rewards can help to motivate the child to learn and get good grades 🙂

Avery You speak excellent English.

together with physics, english was actually my weakest subject at school, but i have the talent to "beat" a lot of learning content into myself and to concentrate, that always helped me

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