harlequin181 I have a well-made custom belt that is no problem to wear long term.
Does it prevent masturbation completely?
Long Term Chastity in Marriage
Laura Yes it does. I have tried to fight it, use a vibrator, etc but no luck.
harlequin181 and my husband has a pretty high sex drive
harlequin181 During the periods that I’m not belted in the past, I masturbate a lot
This sounds like you have an higher sex driven as you husband.
If you sufficient out of you time with your man why do you masturbate?
harlequin181 we can’t have sex
Why can't you have sex during this time? Is is a little bit messy but nothing which harms or you not get off by washing.
I recommend you establish talks about your expectation on a regular base. It should be mandatory in every relation ship. You should talk about all aspects of your sex live and normal live as well to get a clear picture what everyone needs and can offer. You also should talk about rules how situation will be handled if something s rise up, like you can't handle the belt 24/7.
You can find some helpful postings at Belted Wife
harlequin181 losing the control of knowing when I will get relief long term
"Never" isn't an option for you?
Renita Do you mean that I should not ever know? That it's better that he controls that entirely?
Joh I work from home and he is away long hours. So I suppose I may not have a sufficient amount of time with him for my needs. Which means that by the time he gets home, I've taken care of it by myself. That's the problem.
harlequin181 I have tried to fight it, use a vibrator, etc but no luck.
If your husband knows about it, it's clear why he wants you to wear it 24/7 
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harlequin181
Work on your self. It is only a mental problem 
You could wear it only when he is not at home. Problem solved. If he at home you take it in your hand that you both get what you want.
harlequin181 I guess we have to lose a bit of control, because, when we have personal freedom...we just can't wait.
How about a 6 week trial period to see if it works for you guys?
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harlequin181 Problem also is that he really likes oral
And doesn't give it back?
harlequin181 During the periods that I’m not belted in the past, I masturbate a lot
It shouldn't be an exemption.
harlequin181 Do you mean that I should not ever know?
I meant if you never get relief because your belt is properly fitted.
harlequin181 I guess I just want someone to tell me it won’t be too awful if/when I do get belted 24/7.
I think it is all about when and how often he will take care of your sexual needs. I am belted 24/7 since I am 15 without any breaks for masturbation, so I can tell you it's possible, but very hard and frustrating.
I am also on my way into a marriage where I will stay belted 24/7 with only a very few orgasms over the year, we want to find out how many of them I need to stay happy.
Maybe something like this could be a way for you, too.
Sara2001 Thanks! I have kept up with your posts and it seems that this is the situation that my husband wants too. He wants to reduce the number of orgasms I have in addition to being belted, so that I appreciate them more when I’m with him. I know that it’s what’s best for our relationship, it’s just a big change so that’s what’s making me nervous. I’m pretty sure I will agree to it.
Sara2001 we want to find out how many of them I need to stay happy.
Thats a scary idea. You say you're happy now - how many is it now........
harlequin181 we use it for a week or so at a time with long breaks in between because my husband enjoys how enthusiastic I am in bed with him after this.
Done for him
harlequin181 I masturbate a lot and he feels that he is neglected as a result, which is definitely true
your guilt
harlequin181 He’s made it clear that if the belt goes on then only he has the keys.
Him deciding
harlequin181 I also enjoy the feeling of waiting, because I know that it won’t last too long and I’ll get some relief.
You liking when you know it is short
harlequin181 I am just intimidated by the idea
your worry
harlequin181 losing the control of knowing when I will get relief long term is probably the most stressful aspect.
your worry
harlequin181 Which means that by the time he gets home, I've taken care of it by myself.
your guilt
harlequin181 He wants to reduce the number of orgasms
what he wants
See what you write it's all what he wants and you worrying and feeling guilty. You'll wreck your marriage over his silly idea. The only thing you liked was short term - why don't you talk to him about lots of short term and maybe putting it on a day or two before he gets back from long trips.
Jen See what you write it's all what he wants and you worrying and feeling guilty. You'll wreck your marriage over his silly idea.
It's difficult to say at this distance whether this is genuine guilt (like I felt) or an unhealthy pressure to feel guilty, If the latter, I agree with you strongly. If it's the former, well yeah, masturbation can seriously interfere with a relationship and some solution should be discussed.
The trouble with belts is that they do involve a transfer of will power and volition. This should be a red flag for everyone, however, in the right context: (trust, mutual respect etc), this can be a good thing: Not everything we want is good for us.
Sin Put your belt on, hide the keys from him and tease him
I would do it too in this situation.
harlequin181 I am not permanently belted - we use it for a week or so at a time with long breaks in between because my husband enjoys how enthusiastic I am in bed with him after this.
So as a game?
harlequin181 I masturbate a lot and he feels that he is neglected as a result, which is definitely true
I don’t want to damage my marriage just because I can’t control myself, so I know that chastity is probably the best answer.
No.It can be a tool to help,but not an answer.
You should instead try to know why you masturbate so much,and/or try to have enough self-control to reduce it.
harlequin181 it won’t be too awful if/when I do get belted 24/7.
It is very hard and frustrating.Easier to manage if you're a voluntary wearer.
It could work!
Can't you concentrate on other things until he's home?
What after the pandemic,if you normally work in a office?
It can be arousing,too.
Joh You could wear it only when he is not at home. Problem solved.
Right.
So it is more about starting a man-led relationship than to use chastity more seriously.
Jen The only thing you liked was short term - why don't you talk to him about lots of short term and maybe putting it on a day or two before he gets back from long trips.
It could work too,yes.
harlequin181 it’s just a big change so that’s what’s making me nervous. I’m pretty sure I will agree to it.
You should be very careful. Make sure that your happiness comes first, you must feel that he will change things if this routine will make you unhappy in the long term. You should not give this power to someone who you can't trust by 250% that you long term happiness is most important for him. If you have this feeling, it can be a great experience, but I am sure it will not be easy.
Jen Thats a scary idea. You say you're happy now - how many is it now........
It's different, I can accept it, even if I hate it, because I know my situation will change. After marriage this would be completely different. I am happy with Daniels rules, not with my father's.
Sara2001 I am happy with Daniels rules, not with my father's.
What are Daniel’s rules? I know about your father’s from previous posts but I’m interested in what the rules will be during marriage.
Sara2001 You should be very careful. Make sure that your happiness comes first, you must feel that he will change things if this routine will make you unhappy in the long term. You should not give this power to someone who you can't trust by 250% that you long term happiness is most important for him. If you have this feeling, it can be a great experience, but I am sure it will not be easy.
@harlequin181 I totally support @Sara2001 advice. Don't accept less.