Long Term Chastity in Marriage

Sara2001

harlequin181 it’s just a big change so that’s what’s making me nervous. I’m pretty sure I will agree to it.

You should be very careful. Make sure that your happiness comes first, you must feel that he will change things if this routine will make you unhappy in the long term. You should not give this power to someone who you can't trust by 250% that you long term happiness is most important for him. If you have this feeling, it can be a great experience, but I am sure it will not be easy.

Jen Thats a scary idea. You say you're happy now - how many is it now........

It's different, I can accept it, even if I hate it, because I know my situation will change. After marriage this would be completely different. I am happy with Daniels rules, not with my father's.

harlequin181

Sara2001 I am happy with Daniels rules, not with my father's.

What are Daniel’s rules? I know about your father’s from previous posts but I’m interested in what the rules will be during marriage.

Joh

Sara2001 You should be very careful. Make sure that your happiness comes first, you must feel that he will change things if this routine will make you unhappy in the long term. You should not give this power to someone who you can't trust by 250% that you long term happiness is most important for him. If you have this feeling, it can be a great experience, but I am sure it will not be easy.

@harlequin181 I totally support @Sara2001 advice. Don't accept less.

Sara2001

harlequin181 What are Daniel’s rules? I know about your father’s from previous posts but I’m interested in what the rules will be during marriage.

I don't go into details here. If you like we can talk about it by mail. If you want, you can ask Laura for my mail address.

Angelina

harlequin181 I guess I just want someone to tell me it won’t be too awful if/when I do get belted 24/7.

I can't really say that, unfortunately. I can only tell you that it will help you if you know why you are doing it and that it is worth it to you.

so now i have gone through all posts and come back to your starting point. we can now write about emotions and everything, but other users have already done that.

I would like to point out an important point. you are married, you don’t need a belt and normally you don’t need mastubation. you have a husband who should take care that you are sexually happy even without mastubation. if that's not you, you should talk to him, then maybe the belt can also be part of the solution. if he makes you happy often enough it doesn't feel like 24/7 but more like a wait until he makes you happy again

Sin

Angelina I would like to point out an important point. you are married, you don’t need a belt and normally you don’t need mastubation. you have a husband who should take care that you are sexually happy even without mastubation.

Doesn't work like that... some alone time is completely different to having sex. It doesn't mean your husband is not keeping you satisfied, sometimes you just feel like being in a different headspace. No men required (or allowed!).

Angelina

Sin some alone time is completely different to having sex.

when she feels alone, she can connect things too. I am thinking of something like mastubation at the phone sex or something similar. I only think we should include our spouse in all of our sexual activities

Vanessa

Sin

I agree.

Sin

Angelina I am thinking of something like mastubation at the phone sex or something similar.

Ewww! I'm thinking of a cosy morning in bed when your partner has gone for a surf, it's raining outside and there's no reason to get up. Purely theoretical of course!

Having sex / making love is great for enhancing the connection between a couple, but it's not the be-all and end-all. I think masturbation can be far more cerebral. A way of indulging and letting your mind wander wherever it wants to. Exploring yourself on a physical, mental and spiritual level. Sometimes that's hard to do when you're with someone else... They're two completely different scenarios. It doesn't mean you're cheating or that your partner is hard done by. It's just that sometimes, it's what you need or feel like doing.

It only becomes a problem when you are constantly doing that instead of connecting with your partner.

Angelina

Sin It doesn't mean you're cheating or that your partner is hard done by. It's just that sometimes, it's what you need or feel like doing.

i understand what you mean, i would never judge my girlfriend if she masturbates after our wedding. i probably couldn't do it myself without feeling guilty. it's just my own opinion, so i can't give a general answer on whether masturbation is good or bad. for singles masturbation is something good, for couples i have a different opinion.

Vanessa

Sin

Well explained.

Angelina i probably couldn't do it myself without feeling guilty

Even if she's totally ok about it?

Angelina

Vanessa Even if she's totally ok about it?

it's ok for camryn, i already know that. but it's not ok for myself

Greatcornbow

harlequin181 If he's a high sex drive have you considered agreeing on the proviso he wears one too on the same basis?

Cb85

harlequin181
I am caged for a similar reason.

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