Theo As far as i read there are many of you who wear chastity not because they want it but because their parents/someone else forces them to.

There are some different aspects lf it...

a_father

  1. Abusive parents
  2. Bdsm relationship with father / mother as keyholder (in my opinion abusive, too)
  3. Fantasy, just fantasy. I'm sorry but in my opinion a lot of stories are just fantasy. I've been here for a longer time now. And from time to time some members tell stories that can't be true or it's hard to believe because it's not logical and can, in my opinion, only be a fantasy or show the real character of a bdsm relationship wirh parents as keyholder. (And I don't speak about trolls, but members who are here for a long time)
    And you know: One does not believe anyone who lies once, even if they otherwise speak the truth.
    And if you really wear a chastity belt, why should you pimp up your story with lies?

But there also are another options:

  1. Prevention from abuse ... depending on in what area you live (NYC Qieens for eyample) there is a good chance of being abused once ... the belt can prevent it. It can also take place in settlements of the middle or upper class...
  2. There are some deeply religious people who believe masturbation tp be a sin... so tgey wamt to protecr their sons amd daughters from comitting it.
  3. Different culture: There are alsp dkfferent culrures where it might seem not to be way over the top. In the US for example, we cam see movememts of parenting ehere the parents have an extreme control ocer their children, shere they are totally surveilled, have no privacy from their parents at all and even have to ask them at the ahe of 20 years if they ware allowed to visit a friend... Of course everybody can ones own opinion of this style of parenting...
  4. And another version of culture: In some families men still are in chance over women ... so there is no equality jet .... the belt can be a measure to express this.

        Theo Right, and this is the reason why I'm still here. From time to time we have visitors asking what belt would be the best belt for their daughters, because it abviously works here in the forum. In this situation I tell them not to believe everything and that abuse is always abuse and nothing else.
        And by the way: Do you believe anybody will be stoped by forum rules?

          Max9 You're right. My three points concern members from the western world, about whom I now have very legitimate doubts

            a_father In my opiniin you have here three possible situations

            I was a voluntary wearer initially.

                Renita I was a voluntary wearer initially.

                Initially? Does it mean you are not anymore?

                    Renita You can quit whenever you want. Who should stop you? Your mother? Really?
                    You are afraid falling back to old behaviours, right?

                        Theo but because their parents/someone else forces them to.

                        You just can't force anyone, girl wear belts with their consent.

                            HHelen You just can't force anyone, girl wear belts with their consent.

                            Absolutely. I think if you life in a developed country, every wearer can easily get out of the belt if she/he decides to do so. This doesn't mean that parents can't convince their minor kids what I don't support. But I don't think it's possible to brainwash someone enough to accept this without thinking about legal aspects and ways to get out. I think at the end every real "forced" wearer here is convinced in one or the other way. Family values play an important role I think.

                              Theo Thats clearly some sort of abuse?

                              I don't see it that way, but if I bring it up, many people will disagree with me, so I'd rather not wake any sleeping bears. as long as many here do not recognise the difference between involuntary and forced, this discussion is pointless.

                                Not so easy to avoid it in a developed country.
                                Violent physical abuse is one thing, but there are also social or economic blackmail.
                                There are people who are clearly not able to support themselves if thrown out of the house, there are minors, there are people who cannot accept to cut ties with families...
                                Not so easy to escape from coercition...

                                  Ines No, never, forum does not endorse or justify forced chastity, do not get confused with it.

                                  I confirm.

                                  Renita

                                  What would be the consequences if you decide to quit?

                                  Renita

                                  Not related to your mother wanting you still wear it,so.

                                  LoonyMel there are also social or economic blackmail.

                                  Right.

                                  I can stop wearing it when I want,but I would have to leave,and it would break the relationship with my parents.

                                            Vanessa I can stop wearing it when I want,but I would have to leave,and it would break the relationship with my parents.

                                            Would it really though? A parent's love is unconditional. It may not seem that way to a child, but you are the product of a lifetime of hard work and dedication. Sure, they might be disappointed... But severing ties because you won't wear their favourite underwear? Seriously?

                                            My bet is they would miss you terribly the moment you disappeared from their lives. It's just a perception of power that keeps you there. Flip that on it's head and they would start questioning their parenting methods pretty damn quickly.

                                            And if they really would block you despite you being a well adjusted, capable adult... well then you should probably start asking yourself if it's worth hanging around for that kind of relationship.

                                                Sin

                                                Not sure it would last until my marriage,but not worth risking it.

                                                And,at the start,it would be the case;sure.

                                                  Money is still something that bind us.
                                                  If it was not so consuming to live alone probably parents would feel less entitled.
                                                  Or, at least, they would have a lot less leverage.

                                                  When you throw off the affection and become a parent just put of dependence it is hard to resist when it comes to an end.

                                                    Vanessa What would be the consequences if you decide to quit?

                                                    I would be shamed at least. I was trying to mention it, but was asked what for.

                                                    Vanessa Not related to your mother wanting you still wear it,so.

                                                    No, it's still my choice.

                                                          Sin Flip that on it's head and they would start questioning their parenting methods pretty damn quickly.

                                                          whereby we would then be no better than our parents. it is true that what our parents do is a form of blackmail, but the other way round we would also blackmail our parents. if it went according to the method, there would no longer be any rules and everyone would do what he/she wants. then families would be destroyed.

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                                                              Renita I was trying to mention it, but was asked what for.

                                                              I would ask the same question. What for?