LoonyMel In case you do not tell it to your partner, your partner is getting tricked. In case you do tell him, he will know it will only be a physical presence with no meaning, so in both case there is no real virginity or meaning.

I do not agree, reconstruction in case of accidental destruction of hymen, or by a rape...
I can fully understand that a girl wishes gift it to her man. An accident or a criminal can not spoil that wish, I believe.

LoonyMel What is worse is that it is not always nice to have to lacerate it. It can cause pain and bleeding, and i will personally not be glad to make my lover bleed or suffer if avoidable.

I do not if I will bleed or if it will hurt me, but I can assure you, that pain will not make me suffer... 🤗

LoonyMel Borderline psycopath? Supreme fundamentalist? Magic pratictioner? I will be a little scared of a similar person (which by no means will be virgin anyway so the main goal is unreachable).

You are very harsh only because for you it does not have any importance.
You should be more respectful with people that have another ideas, we do not insult the people that do not give the hymen any importance.
I do not think I am a psycho.

          Ines can fully understand that a girl wishes gift it to her man. An accident or a criminal can not spoil that wish, I believe.

          I can understand your view but for me it is a lie.
          I asked myself how would I feel if I would find out later? I had the feeling our marriage would have start with a lie. Not good

              Joh
              It does not have to be hidden for the man. In fact I do not believe that such thing should be hidden for our husband.
              Obviously I would say it to him, and I think I deserve feel me deflowered for my loved man, not for an accident or for a criminal. I want feel it while I gift it to the owner of my heart.
              I know that someone can find it stupid, but for me is important... and I do not believe that I harm anyone with it.

                Avery I hope you are correct.

                I didn't notice everything here, but are you thinking about doing it?

                Joh I can understand your view but for me it is a lie.
                I asked myself how would I feel if I would find out later? I had the feeling our marriage would have start with a lie. Not good

                that's why women should do it in such circumstances, but be honest with their partner about it. if a girl has been raped, it can cause even bigger problems in a relationship than a destroyed hymen.

                      Avery There's a new outrage,

                      Not really, it's a common practice.

                        Ines You are very harsh only because for you it does not have any importance.

                        I am not harsh because for me is not important, i am harsh because for that beliefs many girl died and many are still dieing today.
                        I know that you are not so extreme and i appreciate how intimate for you are those beliefs, but still i cannot envision them.
                        Also, I totally respect purity and virginity but not at the cost of creating an artificial one (ecpecially since it won't change the fact that it will not be the first time anyway).

                        • Ines replied to this.

                            LoonyMel I am not harsh because for me is not important, i am harsh because for that beliefs many girl died and many are still dieing today.

                            I think that there are many steps between my position and that situation.
                            As you can see, I believe my hymen has importance mainly for me, I did not care about the others.
                            I do not want be hypocrite, and frankly I would like my husband will appreciate the gift, but, it is secondary, my perception has more importance.

                              LoonyMel

                              I didn't(and still don't)care much about my hymen,but I can understand it is important for some women to lose it with their husband,whatever the reason it was lost before.It is a personal choice,and both can be understandable,I think.

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