Behaviour change through long term chastity?

Alma05 Just to be clear, I'm gonna try my best to not cheat, though everyone here is basically telling me I won't be capable haha

i have not managed to cheat after 2 1/2 years, if the belt is good, it is unfortunately also very safe

Alma05 I'd prefer a her/she but I get the point Thanks

you are a lesbian? then welcome to the club, i am bisexual but together with a girl and well, the chastity belt is also like a kind of handicap and also my girlfriend could adapt to it.

gwen In general, it increases my desire sharply. However, we did one longer experiment of about 6 weeks and my desire did start to drop off again towards the end.

that's exactly what i experienced too, at the beginning the desire gets bigger, but at some point it gets a little better (of course never really good)

Angelina you are a lesbian? then welcome to the club

Thanks Reading the forum I discovered there were some non-straight users, so I'm thankful I'm not the freak and that I don't have to hide that side of me. On the other hand, I've never actually dated anyone yet irl, so I don't know if I can be considered a "lesbian" yet haha. Though I know for sure I'm only attracted to women.

Alma05 Though I know for sure I'm only attracted to women.

then of course you are a lesbian, but you know what we have a high rate of non-heterosexuals here and so far it has always been true that it doesn't matter what sexual orientation someone has i was just asking so that i wouldn't get into "boy stories" with you

Alma05 Reading the forum I discovered there were some non-straight users, so I'm thankful I'm not the freak and that I don't have to hide that side of me.

Angelina but you know what we have a high rate of non-heterosexuals here

At first I thought if you did one mainstream thing (wear a chastity device), you are also more likely to do another, but then I remembered not everyone here became a wearer of their own choice. So maybe it is just the unrelieved arousal that makes people realize how complex their sexuality really is.

Angelina

At least,he could take it as a proof he was right.

And no way to prove he's wrong...

Max9

Of course.

Alma05 Did wearing a cb help any of you to reduce your needs of self pleasuring?

No,it's only very frustrating...

And we tend to think more about sex when wearing one...

Alma05 I found myself doing it even more. I keep telling myself that I'm just enjoying it for the last time in IDK how much time...

You're not the only one her who did it.

@Sara2001 mentioned it,if I remember well.

Alma05 But my mom is even more worried with that because she thinks I'm gonna get pregnant or something like that.

Maybe you should talk with her and suggest taking the pill,if pregnancy if her main concern...

Angelina if someone really loves you then it will be secondary for him and he will adapt to your situation.

I agree.

Alma05 I hope I can get over it.

Probably not,but we tend to manage it better,after some time.

Alma05 if cheating would be even possible

If a secure one,no.

Alma05 I'd prefer a her/she

lucy

Classical.

Do you manage well to avoid these?

Christopher17 My grades have gone back up

You think your chastity cage had an impact on it?

Angelina if the belt is good, it is unfortunately also very safe

Right.

Angelina then welcome to the club

Welcome!

Alma05 Though I know for sure I'm only attracted to women.

Even if not dating,in this case,I think you can be considered as a lesbian,yes.

In my case,I'm bisexual and have a girlfriend.

youdontknowme

I doubt chastity impact our sexual orientation.

In my case,I was bisexual before starting to wear it.

Vanessa I doubt chastity impact our sexual orientation.

In my case,I was bisexual before starting to wear it.

I was not thinking so much in terms of completely changing it, but many people have some latent bisexuality that they might be far more willing to explore if they do not spend all their arousal getting off to fantasies of their preferred sex.

Alma05 Though I know for sure I'm only attracted to women.

The you are one. What only counts is your feeling.

Vanessa At least,he could take it as a proof he was right.

And no way to prove he's wrong...

Then it is only a hypothesis that no one can prove or disprove. I recommend to forget point. It is not valid.

Alma05 I discovered there were some non-straight users, so I'm thankful I'm not the freak

No worries. I am strait and believe this is as normal as non-strait.

youdontknowme So maybe it is just the unrelieved arousal that makes people realize how complex their sexuality really is.

my sexual orientation has nothing to do with my belt.

Vanessa At least,he could take it as a proof he was right.

correct, although in a different way than he thought

Joh that no one can prove or disprove.

right, but i can't say that my performance hasn't improved, although of course that could also be due to my girlfriend.

Angelina although of course that could also be due to my girlfriend.

Right. It could be many different reasons why it has improved.

Joh Right. It could be many different reasons why it has improved.

i agree with you, but i can't prove that the belt had no part either (or at least the forum), even though i at least doubt that the belt had an influence

Sara2001 I think this is something an unbelted person can't understand but you need the "right" partner for this. Someone who can still enjoy it, even if he/she can't give the same to you in return.

yes, this is a crucial point that many might underestimate, this was the reason why we waited more than 3 months (and tried a lot of things) even though we had the keys to canryn's belt. it is something that the partner has to "get over" first to be able to enjoy it without feeling guilty.

I found wearing the belt made me appreciate more the opportunities I had when the belt was off. I got more satisfaction, first in the anticipation, and later in the realization of what happened when I was free.

youdontknowme

I can't be 100% sure you're wrong,but I strongly doubt about it.

Joh Then it is only a hypothesis that no one can prove or disprove. I recommend to forget point. It is not valid.

I agree,but I don't think @Angelina's father would agree too.

Joh I am strait and believe this is as normal as non-strait.

Of course.

Angelina in a different way than he thought

Yes!

Angelina that could also be due to my girlfriend.

Probably,yes.

Sara2001 It definitely makes me think more about sex then less.

Classical.

Angelina it is something that the partner has to "get over" first to be able to enjoy it without feeling guilty.

Which is not easy for Emilie.

Avery

Not surprising.

That's one of the reasons we would use it as a game with Emilie,after we get married.

But if the partner got over the point, it feels great because it's completely unselfish. At least this is how I feel.

Vanessa I agree,but I don't think @Angelina's father would agree too.

and it's ok for me because i have the same "disease", we always try to twist arguments to fit us

Vanessa Which is not easy for Emilie.

but you did it and camryn and i did too but i agree it's not easy especially because you can't enjoy it 100% yourself

Sara2001 But if the partner got over the point, it feels great because it's completely unselfish. At least this is how I feel.

yes, it feels great, no question. but it would be better if both could share the same pleasure. (I know you think differently)

Vanessa I can't be 100% sure you're wrong,but I strongly doubt about it.

Obviously the idea that enough denial could turn a straight person gay, though often explored in fetish stories, is nothing short of ridiculous. But if your usual access to sex is blocked, at least some people have used that opportunity to try out something new - like bisexual men trying bottoming for the first time. I would not rule out the fact that some people find out during a long lockup that they are not quite as straight as they thought they were, though obviously the ability to feel attraction would have to have been there before the genitals got locked away.

Angelina and it's ok for me because i have the same "disease", we always try to twist arguments to fit us

Angelina but you did it

Yes,but it needed a lot of time for helping Emilie manage it a bit better.

Angelina it would be better if both could share the same pleasure.

I agree.

youdontknowme

In my case,I can't get an orgasm with another woman too,so it doesn't impact me much.

youdontknowme the ability to feel attraction would have to have been there

In this case,it may have helped to discover we have such feelings,but it would not be a direct consequence of the chastity belt(and could have been discovered without it too).

Sara2001 I have learned how good it feels to give your partner a great orgasm if you know you can't receive anything similar in return. You can be completely unselfish and only focus on your partner. It's very satisfying for me to know how good I was for him and just for him.

Very well said. I do think an unbelted person can appreciate what you have said when she is in a position of wanting to do something nice for someone but doesn't want to be in a relationship with him. You do for him but don't want him to do you back to avoid any further involvement.

Avery something nice for someone but doesn't want to be in a relationship

Another aspect is you enjoy the feeling of being in control of how your partner feels, how long it lasts and how often she comes. Especially for men, the experience can be much longer, because after the first orgasm it's usually all over for him anyway.