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Alma05 So I think maybe wearing it would prevent me from doing it out of boredom because it won't be that easy as just put the hand down and rub. I thought as time passes it would reduce my desire to do it, it's gonna be hard if it actually increases it.

I definitely can empathise with that, I also kinda default to that sort of "easy entertainment" when bored, and it played a role in my own chastity experimentation. Now, our experiences cannot be 100% compared because I am male, and I have not been practicing it for too long, but I am pretty sure that locking up has not decreased my time spent on things that turn me on at all - though I feel it had increased the excitement that comes with it.

      Max9 might rather be due to the conversations, nit due to the belt

      that's why the emojis, it's more through the back door on the belt 😉

      Alma05 So I think maybe wearing it would prevent me from doing it out of boredom because it won't be that easy as just put the hand down and rub. I thought as time passes it would reduce my desire to do it, it's gonna be hard if it actually increases it.

      of course it's true that with the belt you don't, or rather can't, do these things anymore, but you'll find that it causes you great frustration, it's a weighing of what's more important.

      Alma05 I'm disabled (dependent on a wheelchair), so sports are out of the equation.

      Alma05 She doesn't realize my condition turns off boys hahaha. Moreover, she doesn't realize I'm not even interested in them...

      that makes me a little sad, it should be self-evident that people with disabilities can also do sports (there are also the paralympics) and if someone really loves you then it will be secondary for him and he will adapt to your situation. 🙂

                James but there are wheelchair sports?

                Yes, I'm aware they exist. At least I saw some of them in the tv this summer haha. However I live in small town, you could even call it a village. I'm definitely not the only one around with mobility problems, but there's no such thing as a wheelchair basket team around here.

                youdontknowme I am pretty sure that locking up has not decreased my time spent on things that turn me on at all - though I feel it had increased the excitement that comes with it.

                Well, looks like the opposite of what I want T_T

                Angelina you'll find that it causes you great frustration, it's a weighing of what's more important.

                I hope I can get over it. At the very least, if I can't avoid cheating, at least it wouldn't be as fast and easy as it would be if I were unlocked. I have not wore it yet, so I don't know if cheating would be even possible. Just to be clear, I'm gonna try my best to not cheat, though everyone here is basically telling me I won't be capable haha

                Angelina it will be secondary for him and he will adapt to your situation.

                I'd prefer a her/she but I get the point 😂 Thanks, I wish everyone would think the same. Another disadvantage of living in such a small and conservative place, it's hard to come out of the closet and even harder to find someone who has done it too.

                          In my case it made me more horny and have more sexual thoughts but i try to avoid them.

                            Alma05 I hope once it's on, it'll reduce my desire eventually.

                            In general, it increases my desire sharply. However, we did one longer experiment of about 6 weeks and my desire did start to drop off again towards the end. We ended that experiment because the increased desire is what we were pursuing.

                                lucy Same with me I'm just horny all the time. My grades have gone back up but definitely more horny and desperate for release.

                                    Joh
                                    Not really 😅 I have enough with the physiotherapist sessions twice a week.

                                      Alma05 Just to be clear, I'm gonna try my best to not cheat, though everyone here is basically telling me I won't be capable haha

                                      i have not managed to cheat after 2 1/2 years, if the belt is good, it is unfortunately also very safe 😂 🙁

                                      Alma05 I'd prefer a her/she but I get the point 😂 Thanks

                                      you are a lesbian? then welcome to the club, i am bisexual but together with a girl 😉 and well, the chastity belt is also like a kind of handicap and also my girlfriend could adapt to it. 😉

                                      gwen In general, it increases my desire sharply. However, we did one longer experiment of about 6 weeks and my desire did start to drop off again towards the end.

                                      that's exactly what i experienced too, at the beginning the desire gets bigger, but at some point it gets a little better (of course never really good)

                                              Angelina you are a lesbian? then welcome to the club

                                              Thanks 😄 Reading the forum I discovered there were some non-straight users, so I'm thankful I'm not the freak and that I don't have to hide that side of me. On the other hand, I've never actually dated anyone yet irl, so I don't know if I can be considered a "lesbian" yet haha. Though I know for sure I'm only attracted to women.

                                                  Alma05 Though I know for sure I'm only attracted to women.

                                                  then of course you are a lesbian, but you know what we have a high rate of non-heterosexuals here and so far it has always been true that it doesn't matter what sexual orientation someone has 😉 i was just asking so that i wouldn't get into "boy stories" with you 😂

                                                      Alma05 Reading the forum I discovered there were some non-straight users, so I'm thankful I'm not the freak and that I don't have to hide that side of me.

                                                      Angelina but you know what we have a high rate of non-heterosexuals here

                                                      At first I thought if you did one mainstream thing (wear a chastity device), you are also more likely to do another, but then I remembered not everyone here became a wearer of their own choice. So maybe it is just the unrelieved arousal that makes people realize how complex their sexuality really is.

                                                            Angelina

                                                            At least,he could take it as a proof he was right.

                                                            And no way to prove he's wrong...

                                                            Max9

                                                            Of course.

                                                            Alma05 Did wearing a cb help any of you to reduce your needs of self pleasuring?

                                                            No,it's only very frustrating...🙁

                                                            And we tend to think more about sex when wearing one...

                                                            Alma05 I found myself doing it even more. I keep telling myself that I'm just enjoying it for the last time in IDK how much time...

                                                            You're not the only one her who did it.

                                                            @Sara2001 mentioned it,if I remember well.

                                                            Alma05 But my mom is even more worried with that because she thinks I'm gonna get pregnant or something like that.

                                                            Maybe you should talk with her and suggest taking the pill,if pregnancy if her main concern...

                                                            Angelina if someone really loves you then it will be secondary for him and he will adapt to your situation. 🙂

                                                            I agree.

                                                            Alma05 I hope I can get over it.

                                                            Probably not,but we tend to manage it better,after some time.

                                                            Alma05 if cheating would be even possible

                                                            If a secure one,no.

                                                            Alma05 I'd prefer a her/she

                                                            😉

                                                            lucy

                                                            Classical.

                                                            Do you manage well to avoid these?

                                                            Christopher17 My grades have gone back up

                                                            You think your chastity cage had an impact on it?

                                                            Angelina if the belt is good, it is unfortunately also very safe 😂 🙁

                                                            Right.

                                                            Angelina then welcome to the club

                                                            Welcome!😉

                                                            Alma05 Though I know for sure I'm only attracted to women.

                                                            Even if not dating,in this case,I think you can be considered as a lesbian,yes.

                                                            In my case,I'm bisexual and have a girlfriend.

                                                            youdontknowme

                                                            I doubt chastity impact our sexual orientation.

                                                            In my case,I was bisexual before starting to wear it.

                                                                                            Vanessa I doubt chastity impact our sexual orientation.

                                                                                            In my case,I was bisexual before starting to wear it.

                                                                                            I was not thinking so much in terms of completely changing it, but many people have some latent bisexuality that they might be far more willing to explore if they do not spend all their arousal getting off to fantasies of their preferred sex.

                                                                                                Alma05 Though I know for sure I'm only attracted to women.

                                                                                                The you are one. What only counts is your feeling.

                                                                                                Vanessa At least,he could take it as a proof he was right.

                                                                                                And no way to prove he's wrong...

                                                                                                Then it is only a hypothesis that no one can prove or disprove. I recommend to forget point. It is not valid.

                                                                                                Alma05 I discovered there were some non-straight users, so I'm thankful I'm not the freak

                                                                                                No worries. I am strait and believe this is as normal as non-strait.

                                                                                                        youdontknowme So maybe it is just the unrelieved arousal that makes people realize how complex their sexuality really is.

                                                                                                        my sexual orientation has nothing to do with my belt.

                                                                                                        Vanessa At least,he could take it as a proof he was right.

                                                                                                        correct, although in a different way than he thought 😂

                                                                                                        Joh that no one can prove or disprove.

                                                                                                        right, but i can't say that my performance hasn't improved, although of course that could also be due to my girlfriend.

                                                                                                                Angelina although of course that could also be due to my girlfriend.

                                                                                                                Right. It could be many different reasons why it has improved.

                                                                                                                    Joh Right. It could be many different reasons why it has improved.

                                                                                                                    i agree with you, but i can't prove that the belt had no part either (or at least the forum), even though i at least doubt that the belt had an influence

                                                                                                                      I think the belt has drastically changed my view on sex and masturbation. Before I had to wear it, masturbation felt like something that is a given thing that has to stay a secret. It changes to something I can't have anymore and that is since then a regular part of my thoughts. It definitely makes me think more about sex then less.

                                                                                                                      I think much more drastically is the difference in my views on sex in a relationship compared to unbelted people, but because I never was in a relationship before I was belted it's not really a change in my behaviour then a difference. I have learned how good it feels to give your partner a great orgasm if you know you can't receive anything similar in return. You can be completely unselfish and only focus on your partner. It's very satisfying for me to know how good I was for him and just for him.
                                                                                                                      I think this is something an unbelted person can't understand but you need the "right" partner for this. Someone who can still enjoy it, even if he/she can't give the same to you in return. It's nice when they feel sorry for you overall, but it should not impact there feelings to much during play time.