Girls only?

Max

Hello,
my name is Max and I have some questions concerning chastity.
Unfortunately the f.a.q. only mentions girls so I do not know if this is the right place for me as a boy? If this forum is the wrong place maybe you have a suggestion for me where to get support?

Laura

Max Unfortunately the f.a.q. only mentions girls

Because I'm not able to write about male chastity, because I know nothing about it

Max so I do not know if this is the right place for me as a boy?

Yes, this is the right place. Men are welcomed here

Christopher17

Max Hi Max I'm a boy and I have been in a chastity device for nearly 4 years.

Ask away!

Angelina

Max

there are a lot of guys and guys here, just no one who has created a FAQ yet. 😉

Max9 makes sense... sadly some very basic topics like "belt fitting" or "age to begin" are also marked as female only

But you can also write in women's topics, I also write in men's topics, just because I am curious. 😉

Vanessa

Max

Welcome!

And don't worry,men are welcomed here too!🙂

Ines

I'm not sure we should always separate the subject in two topics based on gender,as long as it is respectful and doesn't make the talk too hard to understand/follow.

Raziel

Welcome to the site. This place is for all genders, but you are free to express yourself, although please be respectful of others.

Max9

Hey Max. Well, now We need to differ who is who 😁 ... how did you actually manage to get the username without a number behind it, when I wanted tocregiste rit back then it was already taken 😯 ... however, feel comfortable here. I'm locked myself btw and I have been welcomed here, too.

Ines

Only remind the tags:
Pink is female. So, respect the female topics.
We will respect the male topics.

Max9

Ines makes sense... sadly some very basic topics like "belt fitting" or "age to begin" are also marked as female only

Ines

Max9
Not problem, you can open a new topic and talk about men's needs.
Obviously not in every topic, but, precisely the two that you say, are perfect to have a female and a male topic.
And I am not saying that you can not write, for example in all and every "feminine" thread, but write about female topics. And same than us in the male topics.

Ines

youdontknowme There are lots of people

No, in fact they are very few. They have my respect but they can not dictate the agenda.

Angelina yes, but a transwoman could. i know that's not what you mean, but i think you understand my problem.

Well, if that people uses a female chastity belt they have threads if that people use a male device, have topics too. So, I do not see problem.

Vanessa For example chastity devices;no matter if a woman have a masculine character or not,she would not be able to wear a chastity cage.

Yes. Exactly.

Angelina of course, i feel the same way, that's why i'm not a big fan of girls and boys tags. however, at least all topics must remain accessible to everyone and everyone should be allowed to write in every topic.

I am going to quote myself 😅

Ines
And I am not saying that you can not write, for example in all and every "feminine" thread, but write about female topics. And same than us in the male topics.

Sara2001 Honestly I am fine with man who ask questions in women topics and things like that, but I don't want to read their experiences in these posts.

It is the point. It is not good for anyone mix sometimes valuable information in topics about other devices.

Ines

Vanessa I'm not sure we should always separate the subject in two topics based on gender,as long as it is respectful and doesn't make the talk too hard to understand/follow.

Yes, you are totally right, but some topics must be clearly separated in order to make easy read them.

Angelina

Vanessa I'm not sure we should always separate the subject in two topics based on gender

above all, this is also not possible. there are rather masculine women and feminine men (from the point of view of character), everyone is different and should not be classified only according to physical characteristics 🙂

Max9 How about using tags to differ if some topics are male or female only.

how will you definitively judge whether a topic is only suitable for men or women?

Vanessa

Ines

Yes,it can depend on every topic.

Max9

How about using tags to differ if some topics are male or female only... like... not adding a female / male tag for the genderneutral tags

Ines

Max9
Yes, this is the idea.

youdontknowme

Angelina how will you definitively judge whether a topic is only suitable for men or women?

Really the only decision that always works is whether they specifically relate to a penis or vulva. Topics about either getting a finger under the shield or stopping it will always be female-specific, topics about tubes and cages will always be male-specific. Of course, whether "male" and "female" are the appropriate words when there are members here that have male parts while living as females or vice-versa is a different question.

Vanessa

Angelina this is also not possible. there are rather masculine women and feminine men (from the point of view of character),

Yes,but it sometimes have not much impact.

For example chastity devices;no matter if a woman have a masculine character or not,she would not be able to wear a chastity cage.

Angelina how will you definitively judge whether a topic is only suitable for men or women?

And who would decide it?

youdontknowme

At the opposite of what I answer at @Angelina,there is several topics way less specific;and which can apply to both gender...

Angelina however, at least all topics must remain accessible to everyone and everyone should be allowed to write in every topic.

I agree.

As long as it is respectful,of course.

Angelina

youdontknowme Of course, whether "male" and "female" are the appropriate words when there are members here that have male parts while living as females or vice-versa is a different question.

that would be a problem, but i am more concerned with the psychological component. there are psychological behaviours that can be seen as more feminine or masculine, that could have an influence on the tags and at that point i see it in a more differentiated way.

youdontknowme

Angelina there are psychological behaviours that can be seen as more feminine or masculine, that could have an influence on the tags and at that point i see it in a more differentiated way.

The problem is that those psychological parameters are a far too continuous to be adequately served by two categories. Plus all the dimensions of gender they are. How you feel about yourself, how you conduct yourself, how you present yourself to others, how others see you... and none of them are as clear-cut as what parts of your body can be locked up, and even that one has some gray areas in certain kinds of intersex people.

Angelina

youdontknowme

of course, i feel the same way, that's why i'm not a big fan of girls and boys tags. however, at least all topics must remain accessible to everyone and everyone should be allowed to write in every topic.

Sara2001

youdontknowme The problem is that those psychological parameters are a far too continuous to be adequately served by two categories.

We don't talk about genders in general or sexual orientation. But about chastity devices they are manufactured in a female and a male version. Anyone who doesn't identify itself with one of these genders is very welcome here, but still need to decide for himself what device is the one that fits best for the given anatomy.

Therefore I think female and male would work well as categories and depending on the topic the other genders can easily choose to which topic they feel more related. We can also implement a tag for other genders for their specific aspects, but with regards to chastity devices, it's very strong related to the two ways of manufacturing these devices.