Users, are you married or not, while in/out of chastity?

Joh

Avery Have we not seen postings here where a married couple is having sex but have agreed the woman would wear a belt as a sign of fidelity, or some other reason. They would need to know something about belts.

But than she would vote for "married and in chastity"

Avery

Joh But than she would vote for "married and in chastity"

Is that right? If she's screwing her husband but wearing a belt otherwise is that chastity? Sounds to me like that's cheating.

Joh

Avery Is that right? If she's screwing her husband but wearing a belt otherwise is that chastity? Sounds to me like that's cheating

This is certainly true from your point of view, but it is also a gift from her to her husband to remain chaste (not to masturbate).

Vanessa

Avery

I think it should be considered as chastity,yes.

Avery My brothers for example.

It's surprising.

Mine have no problem if his girlfriend masturbates.

Angelina i have to change my comment because @strictfather ather voted for it

It would be good if he give some news.

Angelina it is still impressive how clearly the roles are distributed here in the forum.

It is not surprising the most votes are "Not married (but still using chastity)" in a forum named unwed chastity,however.

Angelina would i still be chaste by this definition

Yes,but not in chastity.

Avery

I agree.

And i think a big part of customers of chastity belts use it this way(less than fetishists who use it as a game,however).

Avery

Joh This is certainly true from your point of view, but it is also a gift from her to her husband to remain chaste (not to masturbate).

So if everything is the same but the woman masturbates she is then not considered chaste?

Angelina

Avery

i have to change my comment because @strictfather ather voted for it. but it is still impressive how clearly the roles are distributed here in the forum.

Joh Let see what happen next year.

for me, the year after next, that's why i wanted to have the fifth possible answer. "Married and previously in chastity" 😉

Joh but it is also a gift from her to her husband to remain chaste (not to masturbate).

since i plan to get all my sexual happiness through camryn after my wedding, would i still be chaste by this definition?

Joh

Avery So if everything is the same but the woman masturbates she is then not considered chaste?

I see it as a common relationship.
On the other hand in many relationship both do not masturbate. If they are happy with their sex it is not necessary.

If you look closely, it is only a question of how you see it. What is a big deal for some is something quite normal for others, without wanting to judge.

Avery

Joh If you look closely, it is only a question of how you see it. What is a big deal for some is something quite normal for others, without wanting to judge.

And I assure you I am not trying to judge, just understand. My experience is when I have a lover I am more likely to masturbate because I'm horny for him all the time. He is the image I have in mind to help get me off. I know men who feel that masturbating is a form of cheating, however. My brothers for example.

Joh

Avery My experience is when I have a lover I am more likely to masturbate because I'm horny for him all the time.

From my experience the same at the beginning but after some time (month) it decrease as long as you have a satisfying sex life.

Avery I know men who feel that masturbating is a form of cheating, however.

You should talk about with him and find a agreement which is good for both.

Sara2001

Avery After marriage I will stay belted with just a very few releases. If anything comes as it is planned. I will have releases every few months, not more.

Max9

LoonyMel probably mostly keyholders

Funguy

Like most people here I’m not married but still locked up. Belt may or may not come off after marriage although it probably will it depends on what me and my bf decide.

Joh

Angelina since i plan to get all my sexual happiness through camryn after my wedding, would i still be chaste by this definition?

I do not see a difference. The only difference is with a CB and a key holder it would be 99% (1% for lock picking 😉) sure.

Angelina

Joh

ok, then I will probably remain "chaste" as well 😉

youdontknowme

Joh It is pretty much the difference between "chastity" and "enforced chastity". You are chaste whenever you do not engage in unapproved sexual activity, which in most cultures means you only have sex within a marriage or similarly committed relationship. You are celibate when you do not take steps to enter such a relationship, so only being chaste and celibate requires complete and utter sexual abstinence.

Joh

youdontknowme
I agree.
When we break it down the whole chastity we find that in a good working relationship it is happen.
Than I ask myself why is a CB than necessary? Because of the key holder has a trust problem!
If no trust is in a relation how much is the relation worth?

Avery

Joh When we break it down the whole chastity we find that in a good working relationship it is happen.
Than I ask myself why is a CB than necessary?

Perhaps in a BDSM style dom-sub relationship. The couple agree to be together with the dom having complete control over the sub, including locking her in a belt even though neither plans to stray from the relationship. It is just a thing they do that attracts them both.

Jen

Sara2001 For me it is an important part of the dynamic, that he not only can have orgasms whenever he wants, but that he really has them, while I stay locked and without orgasms for him.

I want the orgasms just with him only.
Edit - I'm so not normal now like with the other posts here I was thinking about how it would go with dating and marrying and I'm thinking crazy things 😆

Avery thus decreasing his demands for actual sex and help the girl remain chaste.

Is this before marriage? I'll be happy to help him out I'm keeping myself special not him.
After? Nono I'll have catching up to do

Joh Than I ask myself why is a CB than necessary? Because of the key holder has a trust problem!

Or it is the wearer not trusting themself?

Avery With my brothers it's a macho thing, the guy should be enough.

It's not about him being enough it's like creating something and choosing he is always a part of it.

Sara2001

Avery Perhaps in a BDSM style dom-sub relationship. The couple agree to be together with the dom having complete control over the sub, including locking her in a belt even though neither plans to stray from the relationship. It is just a thing they do that attracts them both.

It is a very, very, VERY big difference between not having orgasms because you promised it to your partner without a chastity belt or to simply not be able to have an orgasm because you wear a chastity belt for him. It doesn't have much to do with trust. In both scenario a lot of trust in both directions is mandatory, but the feeling of being locked is a very powerful feeling.

Vanessa Mine have no problem if his girlfriend masturbates.

I have no problem when Daniel masturbates, too. I often help him with this 🙂

Avery On the other hand if one wants ones lover, male or female, to be happy and they enjoy masturbation then mayhap one should let them go ahead.

For me it is an important part of the dynamic, that he not only can have orgasms whenever he wants, but that he really has them, while I stay locked and without orgasms for him. We can both completely focus on his pleasure and this feels very romantic and satisfying for me.

Avery One more idea I had is to give a guy nude pictures of oneself which he could use to masturbate to, thus decreasing his demands for actual sex and help the girl remain chaste.

I can give him oral and stay in chastity.

Avery

Vanessa I think it should be considered as chastity,yes.

OK, I learned something.

Vanessa It's surprising.

Mine have no problem if his girlfriend masturbates.

Maybe it's a difference between cultures here and across the pond. With my brothers it's a macho thing, the guy should be enough.

Angelina

Vanessa It would be good if he give some news.

yes, his last update was not very pleasant and he didn't write anything anymore.

Vanessa It is not surprising the most votes are "Not married (but still using chastity)" in a forum named unwed chastity,however.

yes, you are kind of right 😂

Vanessa Yes,but not in chastity.

the definitions are getting really complicated 😂

Avery One more idea I had is to give a guy nude pictures of oneself which he could use to masturbate to, thus decreasing his demands for actual sex and help the girl remain chaste.

the idea is not bad 😉

Joh

Avery the guy should be enough.

I see it the same way.

Vanessa

Avery OK, I learned something.

It's not a fact,only my opinion!😉

Avery Maybe it's a difference between cultures here and across the pond. With my brothers it's a macho thing, the guy should be enough.

I'm pretty sure some men think the same here too.

Avery

I'm not sure a picture would be enough for a boyfriend...

Angelina the definitions are getting really complicated 😂

Because we discuss of a lot of specific cases of semi-chastity!😉

Sara2001 I often help him with this 🙂

😉

Sara2001 satisfying for me.

Do you think it would still be the case after you would have had sex,too?

Jen After? Nono I'll have catching up to do

🤣

Avery

Joh I see it the same way.

On the other hand if one wants ones lover, male or female, to be happy and they enjoy masturbation then mayhap one should let them go ahead.

Avery

Joh I see it the same way.

One more idea I had is to give a guy nude pictures of oneself which he could use to masturbate to, thus decreasing his demands for actual sex and help the girl remain chaste.

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