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  • Users, are you married or not, while in/out of chastity?

Sara2001 It is a very, very, VERY big difference between not having orgasms because you promised it to your partner without a chastity belt or to simply not be able to have an orgasm because you wear a chastity belt for him. It doesn't have much to do with trust. In both scenario a lot of trust in both directions is mandatory, but the feeling of being locked is a very powerful feeling.

No doubt. I've never been locked by a lover, and it would have to be someone I loved, but it might be interesting to try at some point. Most of the guys I have been attracted to wanted you to want them and be exclusive because they were them, not because there was some arrangement. It's kind of an ego thing with them and I wanted to give myself to them on those terms. The most power I've given someone over me is tieing me up and letting them do me. For me that's powerful. Maybe someday I'll try being locked and feel what that feels like.

Sara2001 For me it is an important part of the dynamic, that he not only can have orgasms whenever he wants, but that he really has them, while I stay locked and without orgasms for him. We can both completely focus on his pleasure and this feels very romantic and satisfying for me.

An outstanding dynamic.

Sara2001 I can give him oral and stay in chastity.

Right now I'm trying to avoid that. The picture idea is easy. There are lots of bikini photos out there of me. Scrunch up against a door jamb, take off the bikini, cover your boob with your upper arm and presto a nude pic that shows little more of your bum than a standard bikini and he should be happy.

          Jen Is this before marriage? I'll be happy to help him out I'm keeping myself special not him.
          After? Nono I'll have catching up to do

          It's an idea I got from a girl whose religion prohibits sexual conduct before marriage. For me it would be for someone I might be seeing but I know he's not the one I'm saving myself for. If he were that one I'd just give myself to him but this girl was taught not to do that.

          Jen It's not about him being enough it's like creating something and choosing he is always a part of it.

          I agree. My brothers are too egocentric, at least at this point.

              Avery OK, I learned something.

              It's not a fact,only my opinion!😉

              Avery Maybe it's a difference between cultures here and across the pond. With my brothers it's a macho thing, the guy should be enough.

              I'm pretty sure some men think the same here too.

              Avery

              I'm not sure a picture would be enough for a boyfriend...

              Angelina the definitions are getting really complicated 😂

              Because we discuss of a lot of specific cases of semi-chastity!😉

              Sara2001 I often help him with this 🙂

              😉

              Sara2001 satisfying for me.

              Do you think it would still be the case after you would have had sex,too?

              Jen After? Nono I'll have catching up to do

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                              Vanessa I'm not sure a picture would be enough for a boyfriend...

                              Well I'm talking about some guy I might date whom I'm not really serious about but want to keep calling me so I can go out. If I meet the right guy I'll gladly come across.

                                  Avery An outstanding dynamic

                                  Yes, this is definitely not for everyone.

                                  Avery Right now I'm trying to avoid that.

                                  It gives me the opportunity to have a really intimate time with him.

                                  Avery There are lots of bikini photos out there of me. Scrunch up against a door jamb, take off the bikini, cover your boob with your upper arm and presto a nude pic that shows little more of your bum than a standard bikini and he should be happy

                                  I am not able to take this kind of photos, he could only see my chastity devices, but he would like to see them in place 🙂

                                  Vanessa Do you think it would still be the case after you would have had sex,too?

                                  I hope so 😁, because this is how it will be after marriage, too. Except that in addition he will often play with my private parts up to the point where I could have an orgasm, but I will never be allowed to have the orgasm. It's called esging and I know from his sister how hot but frustrating this is. I am extremely curious about it. I think it's similar to the breast play he does with my breasts, just much more intense.

                                  Of course only when it doesn't make me unhappy in the long term, but I think it will only make me horny and frustrated but very open to play with him.

                                            Avery

                                            Not fearing he put the picture on the net?

                                            Sara2001 he could only see my chastity devices, but he would like to see them in place 🙂

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                                            Sara2001 this is how it will be after marriage, too.

                                            I know,that's why I wonder if you still would feel satisfied after you know better feelings.

                                            Edging can be fun,but if it leads to frustration only most of the time,it could easily became unpleasant and make you angry,I think.

                                                    Vanessa I know,that's why I wonder if you still would feel satisfied after you know better feelings.

                                                    Mr, too. I think I will learn from own experience. I am sure it will be difficult to not have orgasms once I have them again from time to time, the question is if it gives me more to stay orgasm free for him. I think I can only KNOW it from experience, but I think it will feel very good most of the time.

                                                    Vanessa Edging can be fun,but if it leads to frustration only most of the time,it could easily became unpleasant and make you angry,I think.

                                                    Angry? I expect that it will make me very frustrated, but why should I get angry? I will know that I will not get an orgasm from the very beginning of the edging, so I think it will not feel like I am tricked or something. I will get what I expect. Very frustrating from a sexual point of view, but very arousing at the same time, too. From my future sister in law I know that they have great fun together afterwards because she is full of sexual energy (of course without her having an orgasm).

                                                          Vanessa Edging can be fun,but if it leads to frustration only most of the time,it could easily became unpleasant and make you angry,I think.

                                                          Some like edging more than coming. They say riding the feeling for a long time is more fun than to have one and than is finish,

                                                              Joh They say riding the feeling for a long time is more fun than to have one and than is finish,

                                                              Or your wearing a crazy metal belt so you either learn to love it or just go crazyðŸĪŠ

                                                              • Joh replied to this.

                                                                  Jen It is your decision and only yours.
                                                                  The last info I got was something between 800 and 900 edging in one year. She is happy and has not gone crazy.

                                                                  You have the change to find out is it for you the right way or not, because you are free to do as you like,

                                                                  • Jen replied to this.

                                                                      Joh The last info I got was something between 800 and 900 edging in one year. She is happy and has not gone crazy.

                                                                      What!! I don't know who your talking about but the idea of that it's like a couple of times every day!ðŸĪŊðŸĪĢ

                                                                      • Joh replied to this.

                                                                          Jen I don't know who your talking about

                                                                          To give you a new view at this topic.

                                                                          Jen it's like a couple of times every day!

                                                                          And? Where is the problem? It looks like women can do it.

                                                                              Vanessa Not fearing he put the picture on the net?

                                                                              Not really, but we're talking about a hypothetical person so who knows. And the photo I described doesn't show much that existing bikini photos already show.

                                                                                Vanessa Because we discuss of a lot of specific cases of semi-chastity!😉

                                                                                yes, when i came to the forum i never thought there were so many different possibilities and @Laura probably wouldn't recognise any of them as anything to do with chastity 😂

                                                                                Sara2001 Angry? I expect that it will make me very frustrated, but why should I get angry? I will know that I will not get an orgasm from the very beginning of the edging, so I think it will not feel like I am tricked or something.

                                                                                will he tell you beforehand if you will have an orgasm? i think he should be honest at this point. otherwise i agree with you completely and if there comes a point where you get angry, you should talk and maybe organise things differently.

                                                                                Sara2001 I am sure it will be difficult to not have orgasms once I have them again from time to time, the question is if it gives me more to stay orgasm free for him.

                                                                                i imagine this to be much harder than now. now every orgasm would be a huge gift for you. after the wedding every orgasm not received can lead to disappointment. i am sure you can manage this, but you should consider the huge difference

                                                                                        Angelina will he tell you beforehand if you will have an orgasm?

                                                                                        He doesn't want to tell me these things in advance. We think I should never know if or when it happens. He plans to just tell me in the moment itself that I am allowed to orgasm.

                                                                                        Angelina i imagine this to be much harder than now. now every orgasm would be a huge gift for you. after the wedding every orgasm not received can lead to disappointment. i am sure you can manage this, but you should consider the huge difference

                                                                                        I think it would be better to see every orgasm as a gift after marriage, too. Not being allowed to orgasm will be the standard and must not disappoint me.

                                                                                              Sara2001 He doesn't want to tell me these things in advance. We think I should never know if or when it happens. He plans to just tell me in the moment itself that I am allowed to orgasm.

                                                                                              difficult, but of course the surprise is greater then

                                                                                              Sara2001 I think it would be better to see every orgasm as a gift after marriage, too.

                                                                                              yes, but it's like smokers trying to quit. one cigarette and you're back at it (i hope you understand the comparison).

                                                                                              • Joh replied to this.

                                                                                                    Angelina yes, but it's like smokers trying to quit. one cigarette and you're back at it

                                                                                                    I don't think the comparison fits here.
                                                                                                    It is a question of what is important to you. As already written, there are women who find edging much better than an orgasm. Because they say they get much more out of it.

                                                                                                        Sara2001 I think I can only KNOW it from experience, but I think it will feel very good most of the time.

                                                                                                        And anyway,if not the case and that make you unhappy,you will probably adjust it.

                                                                                                        Sara2001 Angry? I expect that it will make me very frustrated, but why should I get angry?

                                                                                                        It can happen if too frustrated and think he can make you be relieved,while he doesn't do it.

                                                                                                        Sara2001 I will know that I will not get an orgasm from the very beginning of the edging, so I think it will not feel like I am tricked

                                                                                                        Good.

                                                                                                        Joh

                                                                                                        But,I think they mainly "finish" it with an orgasm,however,not put the clothes back on without being "relieved".

                                                                                                        Angelina @Laura probably wouldn't recognise any of them as anything to do with chastity 😂

                                                                                                        Probably,yes!😉

                                                                                                        Sara2001 Not being allowed to orgasm will be the standard and must not disappoint me.

                                                                                                        But pretty uncommon.

                                                                                                        And you can't be sure about how you feel before experiencing it.

                                                                                                                      Vanessa And anyway,if not the case and that make you unhappy,you will probably adjust it.

                                                                                                                      Definitely

                                                                                                                      Vanessa And you can't be sure about how you feel before experiencing it.

                                                                                                                      Definitely. I have only heard it second hand from my future sister in law

                                                                                                                            Joh It is a question of what is important to you. As already written, there are women who find edging much better than an orgasm. Because they say they get much more out of it.

                                                                                                                            i would of course be happy if it worked that way, but i think my comparison is still appropriate. if it didn't fit, none of us would need a chastity belt to avoid orgasm.

                                                                                                                            Sara2001 Definitely. I have only heard it second hand from my future sister in law

                                                                                                                            is she happy with the system in the long term?