Users, are you married or not, while in/out of chastity?

Joh

Vanessa Edging can be fun,but if it leads to frustration only most of the time,it could easily became unpleasant and make you angry,I think.

Some like edging more than coming. They say riding the feeling for a long time is more fun than to have one and than is finish,

Jen

Joh They say riding the feeling for a long time is more fun than to have one and than is finish,

Or your wearing a crazy metal belt so you either learn to love it or just go crazy🤪

Vanessa

Sara2001 I think I can only KNOW it from experience, but I think it will feel very good most of the time.

And anyway,if not the case and that make you unhappy,you will probably adjust it.

Sara2001 Angry? I expect that it will make me very frustrated, but why should I get angry?

It can happen if too frustrated and think he can make you be relieved,while he doesn't do it.

Sara2001 I will know that I will not get an orgasm from the very beginning of the edging, so I think it will not feel like I am tricked

Good.

Joh

But,I think they mainly "finish" it with an orgasm,however,not put the clothes back on without being "relieved".

Angelina @Laura probably wouldn't recognise any of them as anything to do with chastity 😂

Probably,yes!😉

Sara2001 Not being allowed to orgasm will be the standard and must not disappoint me.

But pretty uncommon.

And you can't be sure about how you feel before experiencing it.

Joh

Jen It is your decision and only yours.
The last info I got was something between 800 and 900 edging in one year. She is happy and has not gone crazy.

You have the change to find out is it for you the right way or not, because you are free to do as you like,

Jen

Joh The last info I got was something between 800 and 900 edging in one year. She is happy and has not gone crazy.

What!! I don't know who your talking about but the idea of that it's like a couple of times every day!🤯🤣

Joh

Jen I don't know who your talking about

To give you a new view at this topic.

Jen it's like a couple of times every day!

And? Where is the problem? It looks like women can do it.

Avery

Vanessa Not fearing he put the picture on the net?

Not really, but we're talking about a hypothetical person so who knows. And the photo I described doesn't show much that existing bikini photos already show.

Angelina

Vanessa Because we discuss of a lot of specific cases of semi-chastity!😉

yes, when i came to the forum i never thought there were so many different possibilities and @Laura probably wouldn't recognise any of them as anything to do with chastity 😂

Sara2001 Angry? I expect that it will make me very frustrated, but why should I get angry? I will know that I will not get an orgasm from the very beginning of the edging, so I think it will not feel like I am tricked or something.

will he tell you beforehand if you will have an orgasm? i think he should be honest at this point. otherwise i agree with you completely and if there comes a point where you get angry, you should talk and maybe organise things differently.

Sara2001 I am sure it will be difficult to not have orgasms once I have them again from time to time, the question is if it gives me more to stay orgasm free for him.

i imagine this to be much harder than now. now every orgasm would be a huge gift for you. after the wedding every orgasm not received can lead to disappointment. i am sure you can manage this, but you should consider the huge difference

Sara2001

Angelina will he tell you beforehand if you will have an orgasm?

He doesn't want to tell me these things in advance. We think I should never know if or when it happens. He plans to just tell me in the moment itself that I am allowed to orgasm.

Angelina i imagine this to be much harder than now. now every orgasm would be a huge gift for you. after the wedding every orgasm not received can lead to disappointment. i am sure you can manage this, but you should consider the huge difference

I think it would be better to see every orgasm as a gift after marriage, too. Not being allowed to orgasm will be the standard and must not disappoint me.

Angelina

Sara2001 He doesn't want to tell me these things in advance. We think I should never know if or when it happens. He plans to just tell me in the moment itself that I am allowed to orgasm.

difficult, but of course the surprise is greater then

Sara2001 I think it would be better to see every orgasm as a gift after marriage, too.

yes, but it's like smokers trying to quit. one cigarette and you're back at it (i hope you understand the comparison).

Joh

Angelina yes, but it's like smokers trying to quit. one cigarette and you're back at it

I don't think the comparison fits here.
It is a question of what is important to you. As already written, there are women who find edging much better than an orgasm. Because they say they get much more out of it.

Angelina

Joh It is a question of what is important to you. As already written, there are women who find edging much better than an orgasm. Because they say they get much more out of it.

i would of course be happy if it worked that way, but i think my comparison is still appropriate. if it didn't fit, none of us would need a chastity belt to avoid orgasm.

Sara2001 Definitely. I have only heard it second hand from my future sister in law

is she happy with the system in the long term?

Sara2001

Vanessa And anyway,if not the case and that make you unhappy,you will probably adjust it.

Definitely

Vanessa And you can't be sure about how you feel before experiencing it.

Definitely. I have only heard it second hand from my future sister in law

Sara2001

Angelina is she happy with the system in the long term?

I would say 60% she is happy, 20% she can accept it and 20% she hates it.

I think it will be similar for me and I expect that I will be okay with it if it is the same for me.

Megan

Angelina is she happy with the system in the long term?

I am very very experienced with chastity but I just feel so odd hearing about David's sister being told at a family dinner she will only have a few orgasms a year from now on and was @Sara2001 right there at the table too???...
It's just so odd to me, because I don't know one thing is you change as a wife it's a lot different than not knowing how to masturbate a single woman. Just why do she need to be penalized if you were already a good wife etc with no need to change...

If my husband had a sister and someone was even rude to her we would have spoken up.

Angelina

Sara2001 I think it will be similar for me and I expect that I will be okay with it if it is the same for me.

i admit i wouldn't get enough, but we probably have different views on how much 60% is worth.

Sara2001 You mixed something.

i think she mixes your lifestyle with education and punishment

Vanessa

Sara2001

It would be better if 100% happy,don't you think?😉

Sara2001 Her rules are less strict then my rules will be, but still very similar.

What surprised me,as,at the start,it was the opposite,her rules were stricter than the ones you planned to have.

Sara2001

Megan I am very very experienced with chastity but I just feel so odd hearing about David's sister being told at a family dinner she will only have a few orgasms a year from now on and was @Sara2001 right there at the table too???...

You mixed a lot. This never happened. Nobody ever talked about a number of orgasms during a family dinner and not for my sister. It's completely unclear how the situation for my sister will develop after her 18th birthday. I will only get a few orgasms a year after marriage like my future sister in law. Yes these aspects can be part of a talk at the dinner table, but mostly we talk from women to women when we clean up everything together after dinner.

Megan Just why do she need to be penalized if you were already a good wife etc with no need to change...

You mixed something. I don't know what you mixed but this never happened or happens.

Megan If my husband had a sister and someone was even rude to her we would have spoken up.

My future husbands sister is a wonderful person, she would never get punished for something I do. We are very close to her and her husband, because they practice the lifestyle we want to practice for years now. They are happy to share their experiences with us to help us to get clear expectations. Her rules are less strict then my rules will be, but still very similar. She only get punished if she does something wrong herself like all of us.

Joh

Sara2001 not for my sister.

She referred to the sister of Daniel, your future sister in law.

Megan

Sara2001 I think whoever says that she or he is absolutely loving and adoring his life in chastity without missing anything is lying.

No there are many wives like me who like everything about it. You could argue that our husbands are more giving and go by what we both want rather than set rules.
Biblically when people marry they are to be as one... So as couple say "we're remodeling, we are moving to a town, we are pregnant" etcetera

Sara2001 You mixed a lot. This never happened. Nobody ever talked about a number of orgasms during a family dinner

I thought so Daniels sister was told be her husband that she would be having fewer orgasms. I forget the amount you said but it was very few for a happy marriage and so she cried. I remember THAT because it felt like a punch to the gut ... 😅

Sara2001

Vanessa It would be better if 100% happy,don't you think?

Yes, but I think there is no lifestyle and no relationship where someone is 100% happy and I am honest to myself. Sometimes I absolutely hate that I have to wear a chastity belt, have to stand in the corner or have to go through the day with a very strong burning behind. I think this is just normal.

Vanessa What surprised me,as,at the start,it was the opposite,her rules were stricter than the ones you planned to have.

Daniel and I have the rule that my rules will always be the strictest in the family, so we will never have discussions about fairness or jealousy or something like that.

Angelina

Vanessa It would be better if 100% happy,don't you think?😉

that's what i mean, that's why i'm not sure what 60% is worth, we shouldn't satisfy ourselves with that in a relationship

Joh of being happy in the long run is still fulfilled.

i'll be honest. i think @Sara2001 is very happy with the current situation and will remain so for many years to come. but i also assume that there will come a point when something has to be changed. i don't think it's possible that it can work like this for decades.

Jen

Sara2001 I think this is just normal.

Um are you still talking about 20% - that's not normal you shouldn't hate - like that's a couple hours a day you shouldn't be hating your life a couple hours a day.

Vanessa

Sara2001 there is no lifestyle and no relationship where someone is 100% happy

Probably,yes.

Sara2001 Sometimes I absolutely hate that I have to wear a chastity belt, have to stand in the corner or have to go through the day with a very strong burning behind.

Logical.

Sara2001 the rule that my rules will always be the strictest in the family

A new rule?

Sara2001 Of course I asked myself in this moments if I am really doing the right thing

Were you sometimes close to decide to change it,and refuse to wear it after your marriage?

Jen

You never think you would prefer to not wear it,when it is locked?

Sara2001 talking

Very important,yes.

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