Users, are you married or not, while in/out of chastity?
Angelina is she happy with the system in the long term?
I am very very experienced with chastity but I just feel so odd hearing about David's sister being told at a family dinner she will only have a few orgasms a year from now on and was @Sara2001 right there at the table too???...
It's just so odd to me, because I don't know one thing is you change as a wife it's a lot different than not knowing how to masturbate a single woman. Just why do she need to be penalized if you were already a good wife etc with no need to change...
If my husband had a sister and someone was even rude to her we would have spoken up.
You mixed a lot. This never happened. Nobody ever talked about a number of orgasms during a family dinner and not for my sister. It's completely unclear how the situation for my sister will develop after her 18th birthday. I will only get a few orgasms a year after marriage like my future sister in law. Yes these aspects can be part of a talk at the dinner table, but mostly we talk from women to women when we clean up everything together after dinner.
Megan Just why do she need to be penalized if you were already a good wife etc with no need to change...
You mixed something. I don't know what you mixed but this never happened or happens.
Megan If my husband had a sister and someone was even rude to her we would have spoken up.
My future husbands sister is a wonderful person, she would never get punished for something I do. We are very close to her and her husband, because they practice the lifestyle we want to practice for years now. They are happy to share their experiences with us to help us to get clear expectations. Her rules are less strict then my rules will be, but still very similar. She only get punished if she does something wrong herself like all of us.
Vanessa It would be better if 100% happy,don't you think?
Yes, but I think there is no lifestyle and no relationship where someone is 100% happy and I am honest to myself. Sometimes I absolutely hate that I have to wear a chastity belt, have to stand in the corner or have to go through the day with a very strong burning behind. I think this is just normal.
Vanessa What surprised me,as,at the start,it was the opposite,her rules were stricter than the ones you planned to have.
Daniel and I have the rule that my rules will always be the strictest in the family, so we will never have discussions about fairness or jealousy or something like that.
Jen Um are you still talking about 20% - that's not normal you shouldn't hate - like that's a couple hours a day you shouldn't be hating your life a couple hours a day.
Maybe "hate" is a to harsh word. But there are times every day where I would strongly prefer to not wear my equipment. I am often missing what I can't have. Sometimes I miss it a lot. But on the other hand I often love how much I miss it because I miss it for Daniel (mostly). Especially after he had played with my breasts.
Sara2001 Maybe "hate" is a to harsh word. But there are times every day where I would strongly prefer to not wear my equipment. I am often missing what I can't have. Sometimes I miss it a lot. But on the other hand I often love how much I miss it because I miss it for Daniel (mostly).
That no longer sounds as convincing as it did some time ago. Pay attention to where it's going so that your line of being happy in the long run is still fulfilled.
Joh That no longer sounds as convincing as it did some time ago. Pay attention to where it's going so that your line of being happy in the long run is still fulfilled.
I think whoever says that she or he is absolutely loving and adoring his life in chastity without missing anything is lying. It's a great feeling to stay in the belt for Daniel and most of the time it's just that, but there are times where I of course don't like it, where it doesn't only feel like a great gift for him but also like a trap for me.
Of course I asked myself in this moments if I am really doing the right thing, but I think it is a normal part of this lifestyle and it still feels right for me.
It's very easy, I can't have things that feel VERY good, that others can have. Mostly I feel that I get something more valuable in return, sometimes I just miss what I can't have.
Jen
I don't see you in this kind of relation ship @Sara2001 is in. She decided for a men lead relation with very strict rules for her. This works only because both talk a lot on a regular base every Sunday.
Talking with you partner about your relation is really important and most of the couple don't do it. My advice if you have a relation do it to prevent building up a pile of small problems which will eventually collapse on you and bury you. Then it's really tough and it takes a lot of energy and commitment to fix it.
Vanessa It would be better if 100% happy,don't you think?
that's what i mean, that's why i'm not sure what 60% is worth, we shouldn't satisfy ourselves with that in a relationship
Joh of being happy in the long run is still fulfilled.
i'll be honest. i think @Sara2001 is very happy with the current situation and will remain so for many years to come. but i also assume that there will come a point when something has to be changed. i don't think it's possible that it can work like this for decades.
I think it will need continual adjustments, but I think with adjustments, it can work for good. We "just" need to continue talking and modifying.
Sara2001 there is no lifestyle and no relationship where someone is 100% happy
Probably,yes.
Sara2001 Sometimes I absolutely hate that I have to wear a chastity belt, have to stand in the corner or have to go through the day with a very strong burning behind.
Logical.
Sara2001 the rule that my rules will always be the strictest in the family
A new rule?
Sara2001 Of course I asked myself in this moments if I am really doing the right thing
Were you sometimes close to decide to change it,and refuse to wear it after your marriage?
You never think you would prefer to not wear it,when it is locked?
Sara2001 talking
Very important,yes.