actually i agree with you, everything that can be discussed outside the forum should be discussed via email. however, i would at least think if it is not an opportunity to close the offtopic topics (with reference to discuss everything else via PM), then it would also be easier for new users and they don't have to read through posts that have nothing to do with chastity.
Private messages
Might be we can separate this big forum to more smaller parts (like in others forums - for example https://www.musicbanter.com/) So the offtopics will be separated for first wiew,
Angelina i don't know what "boolean" is
Made up of a bunch of "and", "or" and "not" relations.
I voted no. If private messages are added please also add the feature to turn them off.
@Laura I think the smartest way to implement it would be like on reddit.
Someone can write you a message but it is not shown until you accept the direct message.
That way users are protected from troll-DMs.