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i agree, we are only guests on the forum. nevertheless, i would like to know from a moderator why something violated the rules and also write if i think it is factually wrong. i still accept the decision, but would at least point out contradictions.
and exactly these discussions should not be discussed in threads, here it should only be about content.
so you mean outsourcing everything that is offtopic to private chats? the idea is not bad at all, it would help to discuss the essentials in the forum.
Angelina outsourcing everything that is offtopic to private chats?
basically, yeah. I mean, some things like marry christmas could be kept, but just some very offtopic things like political discussions, questions of the outfit to wear next day ... stuff like that ... because when you're new you will also see such posts in this forum whst makes finding the solutions to your questions or the basic discussions about chastity difficult
Will it be possible to block PMs from some users?
I like the idea but there needs to be a way to control it such as blocking users or reporting people
I have not voted, since I am too much in doubt what would be best.
Messages between Admin/Mod and Users I would approve of; although that can also be handled by email, a PM might be quicker/more direct.
Some topics have a lot of remarks that are mostly meant for a single person, and especially if they are off-topic, I would like that those would be done via PM, like @Max9 suggests. Occasionally I have wished I could send someone a PM, because the message or reply could be sensitive, or not suitable for all members (esp. minors).
But I also fear abuse, and am not sure how easy it is to stop that / keep that under control. Obviously PM should only be available to members, but I suspect you couldn't even implement it for non-members, so that is simple.
Granting it to only some members quickly will lead to protests from those who do not get it, unless you have strict and clear guidelines who gets it. I can imagine no minors (for their own protection), and perhaps a probationary period like @JonesMacGyver suggested, although perhaps 1 month should be long enough. A minimum number of (public) posts could also be an option, but that might lead to a lot of irrelevant posts to quickly reach that threshold.
What you sometimes also see is that PM is only available between 'friends' - that way the receiver can decide beforehand if PM's would be welcome from a certain member. But that would also have to be available in the forum software and needs to be implemented and maintained as well. If this were possible, I'd vote Yes.
i agree with you, i could be satisfied with that. i'm still sticking with the no, because i think that a lot of important things will disappear into private chats, but i'm happy to be proven wrong 
Renita Then they will start begging you
"Laura ... please, please, please let me in" 
carg What you sometimes also see is that PM is only available between 'friends' -
this idea is not bad either. over the last few years i have met some people here with whom i would like to talk also beyond the topic of chastity, but not with all of them.
carg What you sometimes also see is that PM is only available between 'friends'
This is an option if it possible to realise.
As @Laura wrote the Moderator can contact member via PM for clearing any dispute or cal a warning. This should not visible to someone else.
If someone want to contact another member he can ask the member if it ok that @Laura send the email address. It worked fine in the past and prevented that it was asked lightly but only after careful consideration. Most of the conversation is still at the forum whereby some not suitable done in private.
actually i agree with you, everything that can be discussed outside the forum should be discussed via email. however, i would at least think if it is not an opportunity to close the offtopic topics (with reference to discuss everything else via PM), then it would also be easier for new users and they don't have to read through posts that have nothing to do with chastity.
Might be we can separate this big forum to more smaller parts (like in others forums - for example https://www.musicbanter.com/) So the offtopics will be separated for first wiew,
