Laura updates?
Jen Are people more mature at Uni?
Probably not, but as @Bryan mentioned, it's an opportunity to re-invent yourself. Nobody knows you and you develop new friendships from scratch. That's not to say you won't still see your old friends, but a whole new world of opportunities opens up. The heirarchy and social order that developed in high school disappears, and everyone starts afresh.
Then all the catty bitches in the "cool group" from school get knocked up by their abusive jock boyfriends, and disappear off the face of the earth... Well, they did at my school anyway!! You'll still spot them at the local K-mart for years to come, with their little tribe of junior bogans in tow. ;-)
Sin Then all the catty bitches in the "cool group" from school get knocked up by their abusive jock boyfriends, and disappear off the face of the earth... Well, they did at my school anyway!! You'll still spot them at the local K-mart for years to come, with their little tribe of junior bogans in tow. ;-)
This image makes for more effective birth control than a factory full of chastity belts!
Abby82 Scared of that i'm too inexperienced and will freeze/fail or something and then its too late or akward
If you have not the confident I can only recommend a course for women where you can learn and practise how to stand your ground in such situations. It will certainly help you with the guys who get too pushy because they don't know where to draw the line.
Abby82 Yeah and if he doesn't accept the belt then he obviously can't be the right one
I'm also concerned about how my parents would react but i think that they would be happy.
Also i'm afraid that the boys want to "go forward too fast" and im not ready to that :/
right, if he can't accept it, he can't be the right one. a boy who loves you loves you even with a belt. why should you worry in front of your parents?
it doesn't matter if you wear a belt or not. no boy should go further than you want him to, if he does, he has disqualified himself anyway. a "dream man" should only go as far as you are willing to go with him.
Laura But I'm too shy
and? that's not a problem, there are also shy men, maybe that would be an option. 
Abby82 Look for a women selves defence course.
I got the information the biggest part is getting more self-confidence and how best to behave in difficult situations.
It makes a big difference whether you walk around scared or confident. Those who appear fearful are much more likely to become victims.
Joh Look for a women selves defence course.
I got the information the biggest part is getting more self-confidence and how best to behave in difficult situations.
It makes a big difference whether you walk around scared or confident. Those who appear fearful are much more likely to become victims.
Yes to the self confidence and counseling but no to the self defense...
Well I own some handguns but women aren't responsible for defending themselves.
@Joh do you know a womens dating course that would be welcome???
Megan do you know a womens dating course that would be welcome???
Could you elaborate what you mean with "womens dating course"?
And if I could it would not helpful most of the time because we live in different countries.
Megan Yes to the self confidence and counseling but no to the self defense...
Well I own some handguns but women aren't responsible for defending themselves.
Regarding self defence. Please have in mind that the situation in your country and state is different to my country and state. Everyone has to decide for themselves what is the right thing to do in this kind of situation.
Let's assume a young man from a stable social environment and an intact family thinks he can get an acquaintance to have sex with him. Therefore, he approaches her briskly in the hope that she will go along with him. I think here it will be enough to confront him confidently, refuse vigorously and threaten to report him to the family or the police if he does not stop.
A woman is groped by a man, which already indicates that he wants to rape her. This is critical and she can possibly surprise him with a kick between the legs and immediately run away to an area where she can get help. So where there are other people. This might help but not if he recovers faster than hoped.
Other situation. A woman, confident and sporty. Has taken a self-defence course. Looks very good in her new short skirt and is walking through a part of the city that is not known to be safe. She is being harassed by a group of men. I can only say that she can hardly behave any more stupidly.
A self defence course will help in your daily life but you should think further in which situation you are going to see where the danger is. Avoid dangers that you cannot handle safely.
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Reading @Abby82 's initial message, where she writes boys want to "go forward too fast" and im not ready to that, I interpreted that more as a concern not for strangers physically assaulting her but rather guys she knows trying to persuade her to do things with them she doesn't currently feel comfortable. As @Megan suggests, self confidence and assertiveness as well as an ability to communicate boundaries well would probably be more valuable than self-defense classes in those situations (although perhaps self-defense classes could also boost ones self-confidence :-)
Megan Yes to the self confidence and counseling but no to the self defense...
self-confidence should of course remain number 1 priority, then it keeps a man directly from attacking, but i think even if a man attacks anyway, every woman should be able to defend herself, what else are you supposed to do if an actually physically superior man attacks you?
Joh Sorry for my misinterpretation. Is a language problem.
I'm not quite sure, maybe @Abby82 can clarify what she meant
Abby82 Bryan got it right.
if it is not an attack but you can talk to the boy, then a clear no should be enough. of course he will be disappointed, but it is like with the belt, if he loves you he can also wait. sex is something nice (at least for my girlfriend, unfortunately i don't know it yet), but it is not the most important thing
Yes keep the subjects differently. Don't praise one girl for fighting man as like we should all go out and copy her. Instead it's like why did she HAVE to do all that.
It's just not a good idea to fight or argue https://archive.attn.com/stories/2879/how-women-responded-catcalling-in-past
