Joh

Reading @Abby82 's initial message, where she writes boys want to "go forward too fast" and im not ready to that, I interpreted that more as a concern not for strangers physically assaulting her but rather guys she knows trying to persuade her to do things with them she doesn't currently feel comfortable. As @Megan suggests, self confidence and assertiveness as well as an ability to communicate boundaries well would probably be more valuable than self-defense classes in those situations (although perhaps self-defense classes could also boost ones self-confidence :-)

      Bryan As @Megan suggests, self confidence and assertiveness as well as an ability to communicate boundaries well would probably be more valuable

      Good suggestion.
      Sorry for my misinterpretation. Is a language problem.

          Megan Yes to the self confidence and counseling but no to the self defense...

          self-confidence should of course remain number 1 priority, then it keeps a man directly from attacking, but i think even if a man attacks anyway, every woman should be able to defend herself, what else are you supposed to do if an actually physically superior man attacks you?

          Joh Sorry for my misinterpretation. Is a language problem.

          I'm not quite sure, maybe @Abby82 can clarify what she meant

              Abby82 Bryan got it right.

              if it is not an attack but you can talk to the boy, then a clear no should be enough. of course he will be disappointed, but it is like with the belt, if he loves you he can also wait. sex is something nice (at least for my girlfriend, unfortunately i don't know it yet), but it is not the most important thing

                Bryan As @Megan suggests, self confidence and assertiveness as well as an ability to communicate boundaries well would probably be more valuable than self-defense classes in those situations (although perhaps self-defense classes could also boost ones self-confidence :-)

                Yes keep the subjects differently. Don't praise one girl for fighting man as like we should all go out and copy her. Instead it's like why did she HAVE to do all that.
                It's just not a good idea to fight or argue https://archive.attn.com/stories/2879/how-women-responded-catcalling-in-past

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                  Laura Why are you asking?

                  Boss! You have to be sweeter!

                      Laura Same as when the thread started. Curious since we don't hear as much about what is going on in your life as some of the other folks here. No pressure/worries if you aren't comfortable sharing.

                          Ines You have to be sweeter!

                          For whom?

                          Bryan Curious since we don't hear as much about what is going on in your life

                          Not too much. Still have to wear a chastity belt

                                Laura For whom?

                                I was joking!
                                😂
                                Your first answer sounds very... Sharp?

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                                  Laura I think Ines interpreted your response to me as being a bit harsh :-)

                                  Do you date? Isn't that the only way you will eventually get out of your belt? Is that something you want?

                                      Laura Still have to wear a chastity belt

                                      Have to? Who makes you wear it and what are the conditions for you to get out?

                                          Bryan Do you date?

                                          No

                                          Bryan Isn't that the only way you will eventually get out of your belt?

                                          I don't think so, I just didn't insist

                                          curious Who makes you wear it and what are the conditions for you to get out?

                                          Parents and the conditions are still the same

                                                  Laura the conditions are still the same

                                                  Please forgive my ignorance, but I did not read through the entire forum to find the conditions under which you are wearing the belt. Maybe you could point me to the relevant post(s)?

                                                  Is there a way you can quit wearing the belt if you really want to? Or what level of involuntary wearing are you in?

                                                      curious Maybe you could point me to the relevant post(s)?

                                                      My profile 😂

                                                      curious Is there a way you can quit wearing the belt if you really want to?

                                                      Of course

                                                      curious Or what level of involuntary wearing are you in?

                                                      You can assume that voluntarily

                                                            Laura Bryan Do you date?

                                                            No

                                                            Earlier you spoke about your "attitude" towards dating. Are you comfortable sharing why you don't date? Social anxiety? Ace? Too busy with other things?

                                                            If you don't date, what role does the belt play in helping "preserve virginity"?

                                                            Laura Bryan Isn't that the only way you will eventually get out of your belt?

                                                            I don't think so, I just didn't insist

                                                            Is there a point when you think you might insist? If it isn't preventing anything with people you date, and it can come off if you insist, it is staying on because you enjoy wearing it?