Complaining - requirements - bribes - I dunno

Kaja On the one hand, that seems like an event where wearing the belt would be very useful. She is allowed to say no, but there is a decent reward for saying yes. On the other hand, it also gets in the way of chaste activities (exposing her belt to the masses, like most swimwear would do, is not something that should be expected of her) and it is an additional expectation on top of her original agreement that she is not given time to prepare for and weigh the pros and cons, or nehotiate alternatives for that matter.

I would say go to the party belted, but try to arrange a method that allows for you to enjoy the beach in daylight while still being protected at night. Maybe your mom will accept a compromise with tamper seals or something.

Kaja no, no, no! Why you want it?! why you support her mother?

It's not up to her mother, it's up to Jen to decide. On the one hand a big party away is a perfect time for a CB, but yes, of course, wearing a belt is going to change every single bit of the experience. It could mess the whole thing up for @Jen. I think finding suitable clothing is key. Once you can find shorts that reliably cover the belt, the whole thing would become much more do-able.

Jen I've never done 4 days

You still have time to try

Jen And never swimming at the beach

Wear shorts like @saras did

Jen it’s totally unfair that they sprung this on you with no warning. But think of it this way: your situation hasn’t changed substantially since before this offer. Your original plan involved doing schoolies without the belt, and then continuing your life without a car. The bribe adds a complicating factor but you’re free to choose to go on exactly as you have before.

The key question is, is the car being offered solely for wearing the belt those four days? Or is there an expectation for more permanent wearing afterwards in order to keep the car?

A practical suggestion:
What about asking your parents to accompany you? Not for the party of course and your friends of course must not know, so no embarrassment for you.
But you could in between disappear quietly from the party to their hotel room for a quick shower without belt to get rid of any sand etc getting trapped under the belt?

Jen

I think you shouldnt comply with your parents wish in this case.
First they werent very open about it in their communication. Second they May use that as an example for the future to deny you access to the Key and put you under pressure with the Car. What about when you leave for college? They. May say: sure, but If you want the car tongi with you, then the keys will stay at Home.

And most important: this is against what I think was always your wishes and steps over your boundaries.

So be careful, Jen!

Jen

A penny for your thoughts! I think right now youd really need a friend to hold your hand and just listen to you

curious No

Jen
The real question I'm asking myself is: how much can Jen trust her parents?

Amira The real question I'm asking myself is: how much can Jen trust her parents?

Amira I think there's no doubt they're looking out for her. But they do ask a lot... and pull too many surprises.

Jen It hides fine but I won't survive 4 days of partying in it

If concealing is not something that concerns you, that is fine, but it is still a fairly reasonable complaint to have. So maybe still make it part of your negotiation, but a part you can relent on.

If there is one thing to gather from the experiences you have shared, it is that your mother is over-eager, but can be reasoned into something you can consent to. So if you start with only wanting to wear it after sundown, and you negotiate her down to a single mid-event hygiene break, you can solve your most pressing problem while still making her feel like she won.

Jen you're not serious yeah?

I was serious and curious explained it pretty well.

Jen I've never done 4 days. And never swimming at the beach

Your concerns are understandable, but I would consider agreeing. it seems like having your own car is a really small compromise compared to that. I agree though, this should have been discussed much earlier, ideally before you booked.
is it important to define the deal exactly, is it really 4 days to wear the belt there and then get the car? can you also enjoy the trip with a belt? how much does the belt affect the experience? make a list of advantages and disadvantages and talk to your parents again so that they don't have any evil ulterior motives and don't put you under constant pressure with the car

curious If you were offered a car or another similar bribe appealing to your own preferences, would you in return agree to complete chastity (belt, thigh bands and bra) until marriage or studies finished (whichever comes later)?

a very general question, I think it depends on what I'm being offered. I wouldn't want it for a small used car, at least until marriage (unless I have a partner I want to marry anyway). a porsche and a villa make the situation look different