Keyholder welcome thread.

Milord

Ines hi ines
I appreciate a lot this site, on the contrary
But at this point I can't understand
If this stories are incestuous fantasies, then fine for me. I just understood that they where real.
Problem is: they are real? It's sexual abuse in almost every country of the western world
They are work of fantasy? In this case everything is fine, of course while finding them disturbing, for sure I cannot say anything
But I read that here you find true stories.
So sorry if I get alarmed in reading blackmailing, enforced chastity on teen, and I read several telling that started 13, 14, so minors
Now if you can tell me what I've not understood, and please do it for the peace of my mind, because even if I am responsible for one of the largest bdsm community in Italy, and have seen a lot of... weird... stuff, I never heard something like this
I will trust you in any way, but please explain me

Ines

Milord

Milord we are against abuse. Serious use? Yes, but consensual. We have a marked topic with information about abuse.

https://unwedchastity.org/d/846-useful-links-in-case-of-abuse

Milord Problem is: they are real?

No.

1- Most of those users make mistakes talking about the guessed belts that they wear. They do not know the models.

2- It is impossible to hide the belt in some ages. Simply impossible.

3- Since we went serious about delete "juicy" stories, affluence of terror tales goes to less and currently does not exist.

4- Recently I opened a Discord account and, oh, surprise!, some of the worse cases of this forum have accounts in kinky servers.

5- Terror tales users, usually come with the full pack: high heels, spanking, collars... pure fetishism.

Milord But I read that here you find true stories.

Currently, I mean last years, yes... (mostly) .

Milord I read several telling that started 13, 14, so minors

Old stories, but fakes. If you start with 13... How many belts will you need? Can your wife to use a skirt that she bought with 13?

Sin

Ines Terror tales users, usually come with the full pack: high heels, spanking, collars... pure fetishism.

Hot!
We all know your thoughts on high heels... 😛

Milord

Ines you are right and I apologise. I know I'm the last one and normally I'm a good and respectful guest

But you have to understand that these stories are incredibly disturbing. I'm not a snowflake, and still this has been the worst I ever read (if real, which is not)
As for what you say up there...I don't know custom from around the world, and some of this are quite detailed.
To make an example we read about horror stories of young girl sold for sexual slavery. On newspaper, not on fiction. Kept for several years
Anyway, I apologise with you and the staff for the extra work, and praise for your good job

youdontknowme

Specifically in the introductions topic there are a lot of horror stories. Most of them, especially the worse ones, are fake. I think that is only a small consolation though: it is a relief that those are not actual abuses, but it is also disturbing that people enjoy these sorts of fantasies and think it is an appropriate thing to role-play in public. Then again, those abuses happen more often than they should, and frankly, what people like Fritzl or Priklopil did is worse than any chastity belt.

Some of the longer-standing members here have also been in what I would call less-than-consensual arrangements. @Lukas and @Angelina come to mind.

Ines 4- Recently I opened a Discord account and, oh, surprise!, some of the worse cases of this forum have accounts in kinky servers.

Hey, now you are being unfair. I am in some of those kinky servers you joined, too, and while I amfairly liberal towards people who describe themselves as victims, I am generally very much against non-consensual wear. I admit my moral code on some of the grey areas is constantly developing and influenced by how happy people seem to be, but I do not excuse abusers justifying their positions or pretend to be an abused minor for fun.

I would say if anything, those who have dealings with the kink community have very strong views on consent. The consent requirements to interfere in someone's bodily autonomy by doing things like locking chastity devices onto them or restraining them are at least as large as those to engage in sexual acts. Maybe even moreso, since you are creating a power imbalance.

Ines

Milord On newspaper, not on fiction. Kept for several years

But that poor girl did not tell her story on a forum.
Abuse is true, and real, for that we have an entire thread about it with useful links, but victims of it do tell it with juicy details.

Ines

Milord I apologise with you and the staff for the extra work, and praise for your good job

Apologies are not needed and you did a good work seeing that incongruent data about nieces age, I hope @Jenna can put light over it.
Most of time I am the only moderator, and I do not have enough time to clean this place fully.
Probably we are who has to ask apologies. I say it always, if you see a disturbing post, please, FLAG it, and we will moderate it quickly.
Most of terror tales are older than my full moderation effort and they are hidden and disperse.
English is not my first language so I can miss details, too.
Introduction topic is the place where there are more horrific tales, but as you can see they do not have allowed ulterior development. Such broken stories work as the pirates hung on the ports, a warning for others with same ideas.
So, I am always grateful when a user flag a post, because it is very helpful.

Joh

Milord
You have already heard from the other members about responsible behaviour and reactions when we see that stories are most likely fantasy or against our rules. So I just want to add the following. We have members from all over the world and so there are different laws and morals that apply. It is very difficult to find out clearly whether a story is fictitious or reality. So when someone comes here we want to help as much as we can. So there can still be stories here that are possibly fictional. So I think it is better to leave them than to drive away a person who is looking for help.

I assume that your relationship is based on trust and that you have regular conversations. I also assume that everything that happens between you has been discussed beforehand and has been voluntarily agreed to by both parties. In that case I see a chastity belt only as a tool and it is up to you what to do with it. Comparable to a hammer that can be used to drive a nail into the wall or to smash someone's hand. The hammer has no influence on it. It only depends on the user.
First you need to think about what you want to archive and when you have a clear view talk with you wife.
If you continue with a CB for your wife I recommend she will join our forum as well to get advise and can talk with other wearers about her situation. It will help her to get through the start and later on.

By the way. What's your wife's name? I would prefer to call her by her name and not have to dub her a slave here.

Sin

Joh Comparable to a hammer that can be used to drive a nail into the wall or to smash someone's hand. The hammer has no influence on it.

There are no bad chastity belts, only bad people with chastity belts. And the only way to stop a bad person with a chastity belt is a good person with a chastity belt!

Milord

Joh you can call her Milady
I like this name. Thanks @Laura

MissBlossom

Ines @MissBlossom
I feel badly if you only make criticism of this forum.

I discussed only the bad stories because they were what @Milord was talking about.

This forum is welcoming, supportive, friendly, and educational! I feel safe and comfortable discussing things here that I cannot talk about anywhere else, and I appreciate all of the work that you put into creating this environment.

Milord

MissBlossom
I appreciate too. I tried to tell in almost any posts, praising your work and for sure not attacking you in any way.

youdontknowme

Sin And the only way to stop a bad person with a chastity belt is a good person with a chastity belt!

Hence whenever a keyholder posts, some of us try to make them wear a belt for themselves.

Joh

Sin And the only way to stop a bad person with a chastity belt is a good person with a chastity belt!

Should that mean as long as I am not wearing a CB I can't try to stop bad people 🤔 😅

Ines

youdontknowme Hey, now you are being unfair.

No, I explained badly myself, @youdontknowme .
I was meaning that "guessed" victims of abuse have accounts in kinky servers.
I did not want to say that kinky servers users are abusers, in fact I think the opposite: they can be more or less pervs, but not abusers.

WriterAlexis

Ines

the pirates hung on the ports, a warning for others with same ideas.

Just in time for Hallowmas season! Dibs on the pumpkin spice.

youdontknowme

Yeah, if on one site you say you want nothing mote than to get out of the belt you had been forced into and on another site you talk about how hot it is to wear one, something is suspicious. Either you are lying on one of those sites (and it does not take much to guess on which one) or being forced to wear the belt affected your sexual development somehow.

I mean, we have people like @Lukas, who transitioned from non-consensual masturbation restrictions to cosensual ones (though there still is a bit of a less-than-consensual element in his cage wear, the situation on the non-consent front has improved a lot). And @CutiedeTahlia, who got her own belt and had a bit of bad luck with keyholders including a brief stint in family-enforced chastity. Those people plausibly explained their stories, but for many others, it would be difficult to make an interest in both make sense.

CutiedeTahlia

youdontknowme I've also kind of drifted away from it since due to health stuff but I might look into getting back into it when its over! People might end up hearing about it on here when I do start exploring it again haha

youdontknowme

As someone who prefers pirates over navies, I have to strongly object to hanging pirates out as halloween decorations.

KarimM

Nice discussion.

Joh

CutiedeTahlia It will be interesting to hear how you Go.

Angelina

CutiedeTahlia

so you're not wearing the belt at the moment? i hope that your health will soon be ok again and that you'll be on the right track (with or without the belt) afterwards

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