Laura my recent discussions with my wife include terms and backup holders to ensure I remain locked in the event I become single again myself. Depending on the circumstances I may not want to hold to them if we divorce, but I doubt that happens 🙂. But if accident or illness renders me single, I know my virtue will be well cared for until I find someone willing to take up the responsibility.

    Vanessa I guess so.But if she truly want to stay chaste,she can consider it as an help.

    that's true, but then she can't change her mind (if she wants to)

        Angelina that's true, but then she can't change her mind (if she wants to)

        I think so,if she says it's ok,I doubt her mother would allow her to change her mind about it...

            Vanessa I doubt her mother would allow her to change her mind about it...

            a high risk 🙁

              a year later

              Christine

              Hi Christine, I read a some of your earlier posts, so I understand that your mother wanted you to wear the belt after the divorce, more or less as a punishment because she blames you, to prevent you having sex before your next marriage, and to get you to behave better. You agreed to wear the belt only because you have to live with her, since you don't earn enough to live on your own. (At least this is what I concluded from your posts.)

              From your more recent posts, it seems like there are very few changes; you still need to wear 24/7, and the only difference now seems to be you have 2 belts. (Was that your idea to have some variation and give certain pressure spots a rest?)
              Currently in many European countries the economy is booming, and unemployment very low. So it would seem easier now to find a job that pays enough to live on your own than 2 years ago. Have you made any progress there? Or are you more-or-less content with the current situation now, and in less of a hurry to live independently?
              And if not masturbating is not a goal of your mother, but more of a punishment, shouldn't that have ended by now? I'd say that you should have some unsupervised breaks by now, or time without the secondary shield.
              At least I didn't get the impression things have gotten worse for you over the last years, or did I miss something?

                  carg more or less as a punishment because she blames you, to prevent you having sex before your next marriage, and to get you to behave better.

                  More or less she wanted to implemented her crazy ideas.

                  carg You agreed to wear the belt only because you have to live with her, since you don't earn enough to live on your own.

                  Correct/ I still can't afford it.

                  carg Was that your idea to have some variation and give certain pressure spots a rest?

                  No. She wanted a more secure belt.

                  carg Have you made any progress there? Or are you more-or-less content with the current situation now, and in less of a hurry to live independently?

                  Not enough to change the situation.

                  carg And if not masturbating is not a goal of your mother, but more of a punishment, shouldn't that have ended by now?

                  She believes it improves my attitude.

                  carg or time without the secondary shield

                  It's not detachable anyway.

                  carg At least I didn't get the impression things have gotten worse for you over the last years, or did I miss something?

                  If you are talking about thighbands or a chastity bra, no.

                                  Christine Thanks for the update. Sorry to hear that you haven't been able to make much progress. I didn't mention it explicitly in my previous post, but of course I'm very sorry for you, and totally disagree with your mother.

                                  Christine She believes it improves my attitude.

                                  And of course she is not willing to try and see if your improved attitude continues if you do get breaks... Or is she still dissatisfied with the improvement?

                                  Christine No. She wanted a more secure belt.

                                  OK, as if the first one was not good enough for her purpose 😢 But for you it might not make much difference? Or do you prefer the hip belt (easier to hide)?

                                  Christine If you are talking about thighbands or a chastity bra, no.

                                  Well, that is a relief, at least. In that aspect you are better off than some of the other members here, but in the sense of stubbornness/craziness, your mother seems to compete with the best of them.
                                  But do you mean that things have gotten worse for you in other ways than more chastity equipment? Is she getting even more extreme in her ideas?

                                  Another thing that doesn't seem to make sense, is that I get the impression that she wants you to be married again, or restore your previous marriage, but at the same time she makes it much harder for you to start a relationship. Does she have a rationalization for that, or does she just go her own way without feeling the need to be consistent or make sense?

                                            Christine

                                            the key question is what happens if you get a permanent job and move out? will she still require you, or rather be able to require you, to continue wearing the belt?

                                                carg but of course I'm very sorry for you, and totally disagree with your mother

                                                Thank you. Unlike some others here who support her decision.

                                                carg OK, as if the first one was not good enough for her purpose

                                                She caught me trying to pull down.

                                                carg Or do you prefer the hip belt (easier to hide)?

                                                I prefer the hip belt, but I'm in the waist belt now.

                                                carg But do you mean that things have gotten worse for you in other ways than more chastity equipment?

                                                It looks more and more stupid.

                                                carg or restore your previous marriage

                                                No.

                                                carg but at the same time she makes it much harder for you to start a relationship

                                                She believes, that the belt doesn't make it harder.

                                                Angelina will she still require you, or rather be able to require you, to continue wearing the belt?

                                                She will, but I will not care about her opinion.

                                                                Christine It looks more and more stupid.

                                                                Yes, I can imagine.

                                                                Christine I still can't afford it.

                                                                Perhaps you could take an internet course or follow evening classes, so you could get qualifications for a better paid job? I believe here in the Netherlands, the unemployment agency would be willing to help you with that, even if you are not currently unemployed, to improve your chances to be as productive as you can, but I don't know how that is in other countries.

                                                                Maybe you have already considered all such options, and my suggestion doesn't help; but I have the feeling you are sort of stuck in a situation with no easy way out, so I'm trying to think what you could do to make it better.

                                                                      Christine No. She wanted a more secure belt.

                                                                      Don't you like to have a waist style one and a hip style one?

                                                                      Christine Not enough to change the situation.

                                                                      Any chance it becomes better soon?

                                                                      Christine She believes it improves my attitude.

                                                                      What is your opinion about it?

                                                                      Christine It's not detachable anyway.

                                                                      My-steel(I don't remember,sorry)?

                                                                      carg And of course she is not willing to try and see if your improved attitude continues if you do get breaks...

                                                                      It would be wise and fairer,yes.

                                                                      carg Another thing that doesn't seem to make sense, is that I get the impression that she wants you to be married again, or restore your previous marriage, but at the same time she makes it much harder for you to start a relationship. Does she have a rationalization for that, or does she just go her own way without feeling the need to be consistent or make sense?

                                                                      It is not very different for many of us.We have to wear it until marriage,even if it can make harder for us to have and keep a serious relationship...

                                                                      Christine She caught me trying to pull down.

                                                                      But without success,I guess.

                                                                      Christine I prefer the hip belt, but I'm in the waist belt now.

                                                                      Hos does she decide which one you wear?

                                                                      Christine She will, but I will not care about her opinion.

                                                                      No consequences,if you live on your own?

                                                                                          Vanessa It is not very different for many of us.We have to wear it until marriage,even if it can make harder for us to have and keep a serious relationship...

                                                                                          Yes, that is true, especially for the involuntary wearers.
                                                                                          I just had the impression that for Christine's mother the marriage thing is exceptionally important, while, except for Sara2001 and perhaps Funguy, I have not heard many parents of the wearers here were pushing, or even just stimulating, their children to get married (or remarried) quickly. (Of course release from the chastity devices is a stimulus by itself, but I mean apart from that.)

                                                                                              Vanessa Christine She believes it improves my attitude.

                                                                                              What is your opinion about it?

                                                                                              Chastity certainly affects my attitude. When frustrated and fighting the belt I can be grumpy and short-tempered, but when I accept the frustration and the chastity and the reasons for it, I become more peaceful and, well, compliant - towards my partner at least.

                                                                                              Whether attitude change is perceived as an improvement depends on each of the individuals involved I guess, but either way, I think wearing a belt does affect your outlook and behaviour.

                                                                                                  Christine She will, but I will not care about her opinion.

                                                                                                  that's right, you are an adult woman. just please don't let yourself be emotionally blackmailed and try to stay in contact with your mother anyway 🙂

                                                                                                  Jonas but either way, I think wearing a belt does affect your outlook and behaviour.

                                                                                                  that's true, but to a different extent for everyone. i would say that for me the changes in behaviour are rather weak, puberty is the much stronger factor. 😂

                                                                                                        carg Perhaps you could take an internet course or follow evening classes, so you could get qualifications for a better paid job?

                                                                                                        It's not only about a job.

                                                                                                        Vanessa Any chance it becomes better soon?

                                                                                                        idk

                                                                                                        Vanessa My-steel(I don't remember,sorry)?

                                                                                                        Yes, my-steel.

                                                                                                        Vanessa But without success,I guess.

                                                                                                        ofc

                                                                                                        Vanessa Hos does she decide which one you wear?

                                                                                                        Depending on the weather and amount of clothes.

                                                                                                        Vanessa No consequences,if you live on your own?

                                                                                                        Like what?

                                                                                                        Angelina and try to stay in contact with your mother anyway

                                                                                                        It will be up to her.

                                                                                                                        Christine It will be up to her.

                                                                                                                        well, if she defines your relationship only by the belt, it will be hard, but i think she must have known from the beginning that it can change if you move out, right?

                                                                                                                            carg I just had the impression that for Christine's mother the marriage thing is exceptionally important

                                                                                                                            Maybe yes.

                                                                                                                            I know the rules for my chastity belt,but I can marry when I want.

                                                                                                                            carg Of course release from the chastity devices is a stimulus by itself

                                                                                                                            I confirm.

                                                                                                                            Jonas When frustrated and fighting the belt I can be grumpy and short-tempered, but when I accept the frustration and the chastity and the reasons for it, I become more peaceful and, well, compliant - towards my partner at least.

                                                                                                                            Which is the most frequent?

                                                                                                                            Christine It's not only about a job.

                                                                                                                            What else?

                                                                                                                            Finding you own place?

                                                                                                                            Christine Depending on the weather and amount of clothes.

                                                                                                                            Can you give your opinion,or is it useless?

                                                                                                                            Christine Like what?

                                                                                                                            Breaking your relationship with her/your family.

                                                                                                                            Christine It will be up to her.

                                                                                                                            What do you think she would decide?