Single again chastity

carg more or less as a punishment because she blames you, to prevent you having sex before your next marriage, and to get you to behave better.

More or less she wanted to implemented her crazy ideas.

carg You agreed to wear the belt only because you have to live with her, since you don't earn enough to live on your own.

Correct/ I still can't afford it.

carg Was that your idea to have some variation and give certain pressure spots a rest?

No. She wanted a more secure belt.

carg Have you made any progress there? Or are you more-or-less content with the current situation now, and in less of a hurry to live independently?

Not enough to change the situation.

carg And if not masturbating is not a goal of your mother, but more of a punishment, shouldn't that have ended by now?

She believes it improves my attitude.

carg or time without the secondary shield

It's not detachable anyway.

carg At least I didn't get the impression things have gotten worse for you over the last years, or did I miss something?

If you are talking about thighbands or a chastity bra, no.

Christine Thanks for the update. Sorry to hear that you haven't been able to make much progress. I didn't mention it explicitly in my previous post, but of course I'm very sorry for you, and totally disagree with your mother.

Christine She believes it improves my attitude.

And of course she is not willing to try and see if your improved attitude continues if you do get breaks... Or is she still dissatisfied with the improvement?

Christine No. She wanted a more secure belt.

OK, as if the first one was not good enough for her purpose But for you it might not make much difference? Or do you prefer the hip belt (easier to hide)?

Christine If you are talking about thighbands or a chastity bra, no.

Well, that is a relief, at least. In that aspect you are better off than some of the other members here, but in the sense of stubbornness/craziness, your mother seems to compete with the best of them.
But do you mean that things have gotten worse for you in other ways than more chastity equipment? Is she getting even more extreme in her ideas?

Another thing that doesn't seem to make sense, is that I get the impression that she wants you to be married again, or restore your previous marriage, but at the same time she makes it much harder for you to start a relationship. Does she have a rationalization for that, or does she just go her own way without feeling the need to be consistent or make sense?

Christine

the key question is what happens if you get a permanent job and move out? will she still require you, or rather be able to require you, to continue wearing the belt?

Christine It looks more and more stupid.

Yes, I can imagine.

Christine I still can't afford it.

Perhaps you could take an internet course or follow evening classes, so you could get qualifications for a better paid job? I believe here in the Netherlands, the unemployment agency would be willing to help you with that, even if you are not currently unemployed, to improve your chances to be as productive as you can, but I don't know how that is in other countries.

Maybe you have already considered all such options, and my suggestion doesn't help; but I have the feeling you are sort of stuck in a situation with no easy way out, so I'm trying to think what you could do to make it better.

Christine No. She wanted a more secure belt.

Don't you like to have a waist style one and a hip style one?

Christine Not enough to change the situation.

Any chance it becomes better soon?

Christine She believes it improves my attitude.

What is your opinion about it?

Christine It's not detachable anyway.

My-steel(I don't remember,sorry)?

carg And of course she is not willing to try and see if your improved attitude continues if you do get breaks...

It would be wise and fairer,yes.

carg Another thing that doesn't seem to make sense, is that I get the impression that she wants you to be married again, or restore your previous marriage, but at the same time she makes it much harder for you to start a relationship. Does she have a rationalization for that, or does she just go her own way without feeling the need to be consistent or make sense?

It is not very different for many of us.We have to wear it until marriage,even if it can make harder for us to have and keep a serious relationship...

Christine She caught me trying to pull down.

But without success,I guess.

Christine I prefer the hip belt, but I'm in the waist belt now.

Hos does she decide which one you wear?

Christine She will, but I will not care about her opinion.

No consequences,if you live on your own?

Vanessa It is not very different for many of us.We have to wear it until marriage,even if it can make harder for us to have and keep a serious relationship...

Yes, that is true, especially for the involuntary wearers.
I just had the impression that for Christine's mother the marriage thing is exceptionally important, while, except for Sara2001 and perhaps Funguy, I have not heard many parents of the wearers here were pushing, or even just stimulating, their children to get married (or remarried) quickly. (Of course release from the chastity devices is a stimulus by itself, but I mean apart from that.)

Vanessa Christine She believes it improves my attitude.

What is your opinion about it?

Chastity certainly affects my attitude. When frustrated and fighting the belt I can be grumpy and short-tempered, but when I accept the frustration and the chastity and the reasons for it, I become more peaceful and, well, compliant - towards my partner at least.

Whether attitude change is perceived as an improvement depends on each of the individuals involved I guess, but either way, I think wearing a belt does affect your outlook and behaviour.

Christine She will, but I will not care about her opinion.

that's right, you are an adult woman. just please don't let yourself be emotionally blackmailed and try to stay in contact with your mother anyway

Jonas but either way, I think wearing a belt does affect your outlook and behaviour.

that's true, but to a different extent for everyone. i would say that for me the changes in behaviour are rather weak, puberty is the much stronger factor.

carg Perhaps you could take an internet course or follow evening classes, so you could get qualifications for a better paid job?

It's not only about a job.

Vanessa Any chance it becomes better soon?

idk

Vanessa My-steel(I don't remember,sorry)?

Yes, my-steel.

Vanessa But without success,I guess.

ofc

Vanessa Hos does she decide which one you wear?

Depending on the weather and amount of clothes.

Vanessa No consequences,if you live on your own?

Like what?

Angelina and try to stay in contact with your mother anyway

It will be up to her.

carg I just had the impression that for Christine's mother the marriage thing is exceptionally important

Maybe yes.

I know the rules for my chastity belt,but I can marry when I want.

carg Of course release from the chastity devices is a stimulus by itself

I confirm.

Jonas When frustrated and fighting the belt I can be grumpy and short-tempered, but when I accept the frustration and the chastity and the reasons for it, I become more peaceful and, well, compliant - towards my partner at least.

Which is the most frequent?

Christine It's not only about a job.

What else?

Finding you own place?

Christine Depending on the weather and amount of clothes.

Can you give your opinion,or is it useless?

Christine Like what?

Breaking your relationship with her/your family.

Christine It will be up to her.

What do you think she would decide?

Vanessa I know the rules for my chastity belt,but I can marry when I want.

if there was no wedding in sight, do you think you would still have to wear the belt at 50?

Laura There should be no age restrictions

i see it a little differently, i don't think the belt should be a lifelong measure at worst

Angelina but i think she must have known from the beginning that it can change if you move out, right?

She did, but keeps changing her mind.

Vanessa What else?

Credit score.

Vanessa Finding you own place?

Yes, in a good place.

Vanessa Can you give your opinion,or is it useless?

She doesn't hear me.

Vanessa Breaking your relationship with her/your family.

I don't care.

Vanessa What do you think she would decide?

Will get used to my decision.

Christine She doesn't hear me.

Christine I don't care.

Christine Will get used to my decision.

Hey look after yourself if you need a break make it happen. If it's time to stop I'll cheer you for stopping

Christine Credit score.

I know credit score (or credit rating) as the trustworthiness for getting a loan, like when you want to buy a house they want to check if you're likely to be paying it off. Normally if you would rent a small apartment, or even a room with a landlord/-lady, it wouldn't be checked, would it? I don't think they are even allowed to here, only banks can.
Or do you mean you built up debt on a credit card and first need to pay that off? Perhaps not, since the solution for that would also be trying to get a better paying job, although it will take longer then until you can move out.

Angelina why is Enderman expand dong